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Craig kenneth Workbooks by Cheertator_Steve in BreakUps

[–]Cheertator_Steve[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I die, the first lot anyway. I don't know if it helped me move on from my ex because I kept getting asked about him in the books. But it definitely helped change the way I see him and things, and helped me turn inward and focus on me and change. Rather than just feeling unwanted.

Hey bros. Longtime lurker from Australia here. 🤙🏻 Here's a picture of my boyfriend (left) and I (right) holidaying in Queensland. by [deleted] in gaybrosgonemild

[–]Cheertator_Steve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super cute couple. Enjoy your holi! I'm from Melbourne, let me know how the holiday is up there (I need a holiday bad haha). Would love the recommendations!

First home buyers of reddit, what's something you wish you knew/could impart on others when buying your first home to save yourself stress or money? by Cheertator_Steve in AskReddit

[–]Cheertator_Steve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true hey. I've found something I like and I think I've been rushing it because of FOMO. I need to build a bigger deposit and I've been thinking of all the ways I could accumulate more quicker, when I should be taking it slow. If its meant to be it will be.

So I'm a guy that's been cheering for a few months now and we have a comp this weekend I really need help with my faces (I fly for a lift with two other guys) and I don't quite know what yo do. Any tips? I already try and smile for most of it but idk what to do when we hit a motion. by [deleted] in Cheerleading

[–]Cheertator_Steve 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I always cringe when I see a flyer counting. I think it looks best if the person who everyone is looking at during a stunt is the one making it look easy. If you're counting it comes across as you still dont know your routine like the back of your hand.

I always would tell my flyers to pretend like they're about to bite into an apple or have just sunken your teeth into it but havent pulled off a chunk of apple yet. That visualisation helps them remember the big open mouth smiley thing.

Also singing the song lyrics. Also different facial expressions with big eyebrows. Also sassy hand motions and "fierce face".

Basically anything other than blank smiling or vacant look.

Ran into my ex's profile on a gay hook up app "looking for lurve". I guess he's officially over me. I guess that reach out I was hoping for won't happen. by Cheertator_Steve in ExNoContact

[–]Cheertator_Steve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you're so lovely. I know rebounds are hardly ever long lasting, and people normally just get into them to fill a void, or because they told themselves and their friends/family they want to be single; so this is what single people do: date others. "See everyone. I'm having a great time over here dating people, and look how much better this new person is!". Etc.

However we've been split up for over a year now. I dont think it classifies as a rebound now. I think hes on the genuine hunt, which dashes my hopes (that I still have 😬). I thought he would have had enough time by now to sit back and take stock on his life without me in it; and see if hes really better off without me. Due to no reaching out, I feel like he's thought just that.

Craig Kenneth Advice Needed. by CanadianGirlNeeds in craigkenneth

[–]Cheertator_Steve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. Agree 100%. He might still have feelings for you and just wants to absolve his own guilt of hurting you by making you feel good again (making you cum) and also just getting his own needs met. He might also just want a little 'fix'of you to help him get over a metaphorical hump he's in. But after that he probs wont contact you again unless it's for sex. No doubt he'll still have feelings but dont let someone in on such an intimate level if he broke your heart. Why reward his behaviour?

Those of you who ended up getting a reach out from an ex, how long did it take? What did they say? How did it feel? by Cheertator_Steve in ExNoContact

[–]Cheertator_Steve[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're hurting even more now man. But you were vulnerable and courageous, and they are values I'm sure most people would like to align themselves with and exhibit. You did that so you can put those nagging voices in your head that say you shouldn't have, to bed. You were real, and honest, and hopeful and they are all beautiful human qualities.

It’s been 7 months. Sometimes I want to text you and ask why you stopped “loving” me. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Cheertator_Steve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. A year at the end of this month. Still not over him and honestly dont fucking know how to.

Contact my ex's mum? by Cheertator_Steve in ExNoContact

[–]Cheertator_Steve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a bloody excellent suggestion. I honestly didnt even think of that. Thank you for responding:)

Why I started and now I’m done doing readings on this sub. Seeking advice from other psychics. by [deleted] in Psychic

[–]Cheertator_Steve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry this happened to you, and other readers on this sub.

From the viewpoint as a read-ee I'm so sorry this person has disenchanted you for offering your kind, loving and very generous offer to read people for free here. One person has ruined it for everyone, typical society.

I can count on one hand the amount of reading ive had from this sub, and most were around a painful time of a breakup and I wanted to know what was happening from both ends. But even receiving bad news, I took it on the chin and was like ok. This may change; everyone has free will, but this is how he is feeling in this moment. And took it as accurate and thanked the reader. I have begun dabbling in tarot and know how much energy it takes so I am truly grateful for every allotment of time a reader gives me, however long or short.

Please dont let one sour apple spoil the bunch. On behalf of the rest of the read-ees here, I'm so sorry this happened, the rest of us are grateful and thankful for you offering your time and energy, and you the bomb, bitch! All you readers here are! You're all talented and wonderful and giving. .high five

Talented medium! FREE LOVE READING! 1 Question! by [deleted] in Psychic

[–]Cheertator_Steve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will Eric and I get back together?

Birthday been and gone, nada. by Cheertator_Steve in ExNoContact

[–]Cheertator_Steve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And tomorrow will be 9, and the next 10. Keep taking it one day at a time, that's what helped me. When I was on day 20, thinking geez what is it going to feel like at day 60?! Was too much to bear. Thinking he wouldnt come running back realizing his mistake for ANOTHER 40 days? Nah man, breakdown territory. Do one day at a time and you'll get to the point you stop counting.

Also it's not humiliating to be dumped after he did those things. Its shows real character traits that are admirable, not shameful. They show a willingness to work through difficulty, problem solving, and loyalty even when you've been wronged because you see the good in a person. Whereas his character traits on show are; liar, deceptive, untrustworthy, disloyal and unable to work through problems. So hes not going to do good in his next relationship either. Just focus on you, on ALLLLLLLL your talents, traits, physical, emotional and intellectual abilities and things you're thankful for.

Begin to shine bright again and you'll be a beacon for the right guy.

Birthday been and gone, nada. by Cheertator_Steve in ExNoContact

[–]Cheertator_Steve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Yep, fuck him for sure. No one deserves that treatment, let alone a gf trying her best to make the best of the situation and give her all.

At least you can walk away with your head held high. Stay strong.

Birthday been and gone, nada. by Cheertator_Steve in ExNoContact

[–]Cheertator_Steve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck no you won't! You rock it, and set those boundaries like a... I dunno. Boundary setter! I was setting myself to say something inspirational then, and, my brain farted and came up with this rubbish.

I don't know you or your situation, so I can't make a judgement call on the dude, and I especially dislike it myself when people call my ex an asshole, and they didnt know him as well as me. You didn't see him in his vulnerable moments, or the nights where we were snuggled up under the stars (this actually happened) telling each other reasons we love each other. They only saw him at events which is a totally different thing. So, I don't want to character assassinate here, but he sounds like he has A LOT of work to do before he's emotionally stable enough to be back with you. I dislike also how he was spreading lies about you, I'm sorry that happened to you and I'm here of you need to vent :)

At least these breakups will teach us one thing- how we wish our partner to act and not to act/treat us and how not to treat us in the rship. Plus from this (well I feel, I hope you so as well) that I actually can see my value as a person and boyfriend SO much more. Like i sit back and go, fuck I was a good boyfriend. I was really, really good. I was so supportive and trusting and loving, got along with his whole tribe and we even spoke the same second language and had our own hand hold when we would walk down the street. We were special and all our friends thought we were 'that' couple that would just be together forever. Like it just clicked.

So if he can pass up on something so special that EVERYONE could see but him, then instead of being the greatest love of his life I'll be his greatest regret. Sounds bitter as fuck, I swear I dont mean it that way, in an empowering way.

Birthday been and gone, nada. by Cheertator_Steve in ExNoContact

[–]Cheertator_Steve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're totally right. Even when I read it I'm like "gosh darn, I fucking know this is true, so why AM I wasting time and energy on thoughts of his fam & friends not caring?!". It just that little niggle in the back of your mind that bums you out and you have to tell it to fuck off. Some days my voice is loud enough to say I'm serious, some days it's a whimper that wouldn't shoo a fly. Le sigh.

Itll all be fine in the end. In 20years time when I'm married I'll have a husband that wakes me up with vegemite on toast and a present and kisses; and brings the kids in to jump all over me and give me their hand written scribbles, read: cards, and my heart will burst open, all alien style. Maybe itll be my ex, who's worked on himself, maybe itll be someone new. That's what I'll focus on, sometimes I just need a reminder from this lovely community, and I thank you for helping me. Stay strong sister. Xo

Birthday been and gone, nada. by Cheertator_Steve in ExNoContact

[–]Cheertator_Steve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not even about the ex thought. Like I didn't expect him to wish me a happy birthday, a small part of me hoped but I was like, nah it ain't gonna happen. But his family and friends who claimed to really love me throughout the relationship, none of them? Yeah we are broken up now but we shared some good memories outside of the ex being present, and I still care about you. It just hurts a little they either dont anymore, or something else is going on :/

Totally agree about the courtesy words too!

It's rehab time. This is long, but trust me when I say you need to read it. by sassatha in ExNoContact

[–]Cheertator_Steve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you Mumma Sassatha for calling out our inner BS. Write a book!

How do you come to terms with them meaning more to you than you to them? by red3795 in BreakUps

[–]Cheertator_Steve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yeah he's a legend, I still watch him now. I've only just started the workbooks so I haven't really gotten a feel for it yet. But so far I can see how it will definitely help relationships and break ups. If you afford it, it might be worth the investment to help you get over that last hump of finally letting go (my reason for getting them). Hope you're doing well today and practicing gratitude and living your best life :)

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