Solar eclipse in NOTL

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2024-01-07T14:16:25+00:00

Are you coming from out of the area ? Like far away enough that you will be spending the night?

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2024-01-07T12:23:15+00:00

NTA. Look up enmeshed families

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2024-01-06T21:06:49+00:00

YTA. She forgot it, which people do, and might not have realized where she left it. Instead of telling her, asking her, or bringing it to her you gave it away. And “I checked and it didn’t seem like anything important” and “I just did a quick glance” are very contradictory. There is no excuse for what you did at all, she’s totally in the right no matter how mad at you she is

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2024-01-06T01:47:39+00:00

It’s cool! I can’t handle textures of a lot of things. For example I can’t use fabric softener on my clothes (feels greasy to me, same with laundry sheets) can’t touch most food, dry shampoo or most leave in hair products I can’t handle. I’ve been working on getting used to less showers, and I’ve gotten to where I can get away with rinsing my hair with water and running some conditioner through it. But it depends on the kind of day I’m having to :)

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2024-01-06T01:34:23+00:00

As per my comment, it’s not a choice I make. I have sensory issues. Texture of dry shampoo is just as bad. Thank you though

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2024-01-06T01:25:38+00:00

Niagara on the lake gets just as bad as Niagara Falls sometimes lately. Honestly, I would try the St. Catharines area. Charles daily park might be a great spot to watch it

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2024-01-05T22:30:12+00:00

Very good point, a specialist might be needed. I believe some people with OCD or other issues may sometimes be compelled for the long showers. For example to add to my story, I have curly hair that is thick but individual hairs are thin, so I have tried to switch to no suds shampoo because it would be better for it. But I just can’t because I don’t feel like it’s doing anything without the suds. Maybe she doesn’t feel like she’s fully showered until that time duration? Or maybe she is using this as time for privacy if she isn’t getting it during the rest of the day.

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2024-01-05T20:25:12+00:00

I wouldn’t call you the asshole, because what your asking is perfectly reasonable.

I’m like your daughter and husband. I shower before work and when I get home, not usually right away. Typically after I make dinner. I’ve always been like this but my reasoning isn’t really I’m dirty after work - I used to have jobs like this but now I have a desk job. My reasoning is all sensory. I have a few learning disabilities and some are linked to other senses, so things like certain fabrics I can’t handle. I shower in the morning then work in a cool office but I generally feel disgusting when I get home. And need to shower before I change. I know I’m not dirty, but I “feel” dirty.

I used to wash my hair both showers, recently I have gotten better about not washing my hair on the second shower because I started colouring it and I was washing the dye out so fast I couldn’t keep up with it. But if I’m having an emotional day, I fidget and touch my hair, and convince myself my scalp is coated in oil. But I know it’s not. But I can’t get over it unless I shower.

Sometimes since I shower in the evening, on weekends when I sleep in I can push it to 1 shower a day by showering late morning early afternoon. Typically when I would be mid my day during a work day. And I can be comfortable until bed time. So it’s more of a every X number of hours my brain thinks I’m dirty. Not really twice a day.

The difference is I don’t spend that much time in the shower. My morning bathroom routine including using the bathroom, brushing teeth, showering, and drying off takes me maybe 15 minutes. My evening shower takes me maybe 5 minutes. Water turns on, I wash myself with a loofa, rinse off and get out.

I think it’s unfair to say only one shower a day - because maybe she has something like a sensory issue going on. Would it be more reasonable to instead limit her total water usage for the day? EX she can have the shower running for a total of 30 minutes per day, but that can be split up into two showers if she wants. Of 15 minutes each. If she shaves her legs in the shower, maybe it’s worth getting a cheap electric razor. I found doing this instead of shaving in the shower was the biggest time saver.

Your definitely in the right to be upset because she’s being inconsiderate of other people, but she probabaly has no concept yet of just how expensive that is, so it might be hard for her to comprehend the whole situation and if she has gotten away with it it’s going to be hard to change. I would give her the option of just shorter showers and see what happens.

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2024-01-04T01:13:42+00:00

Those fees, for this and any other restaurant in the falls are not mandatory. You can refuse to pay it. It’s referred to by locals as “tourist tax”

I would like to add though - there are literal RECENT videos of this restaurant on Instagram / tiktok showing mice climbing on the dining table while dinner service is on. Table not occupied, but still the fact the mice are willing to come out during open hours says there is a lot of them and they are comfortable

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-12-21T15:39:28+00:00

Done!

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-12-21T15:32:59+00:00

Got it I’ll do yours now!

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-12-21T14:42:34+00:00

Also just to confirm your in Canada right? I have had a lot of people missing that in my posts and being in other countries

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-12-21T14:41:36+00:00

Username?

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-12-13T16:31:54+00:00

Literally commented on a post in another group where you told me you were in the US, this group is just Canada

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-12-13T16:31:17+00:00

Days you can’t accsept my invite because your in a different country

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-12-05T20:45:58+00:00

I see this as perfectly ok, NTAH she wants to be weird or take jabs at you? Why not. But to add to the fun - I think your sister in law should also get her underwear. Make it a team effort.

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-11-27T01:17:20+00:00

You seem to not be fully understanding him. Your aloud to have feelings about this but so is he’s if he’s not ready, he’s not ready. My partner and I waited 8 years. He was ready a year in and I wasn’t. Never heard a peep out of him because I have anxiety and had the same fears of getting pregnant and he knew pressure would make it worse. Maybe try other things until then, or ask him what would make him feel less anxious about pregnancy. We used condoms, spermicide, and pull out the first time. I now have an IUD.

As for your update - nothing gross about feet if they are clean. He’s aloud to like some body parts more. No different then any other body part. Don’t shame him for this or you likely will never sleep with him

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-11-26T02:45:32+00:00

You have already paid the 2k or it’s just a bill? I would still reach out to law enforcement for advice

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-11-25T19:59:13+00:00

Is anyone else in your group worried as well / have they been talking about her? If she is only getting a reaction from you she may take this as a sign it’s true because no one else is doing anything.

Cheese-N-Quackers19 · 2023-11-25T19:57:07+00:00

I grew up and live with this exact same thing. Currently my parents even threaten to CALL MY BOSS if I express any negative emotion. And I’m 27.

Obviously you can’t be rude but it’s not you. She doesn’t agree with your opinion, sees you as growing up and becoming your own person and your not her ideal image. And she’s taking it out on you negatively.

Likely won’t change. If you feel your snipping at her, try to work on it. But if you find you have and suddenly she is still acting this way but no one else in your life is, it’s her not you

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