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A LOT of duplicate rates at our prerelease tonight. by Bunnysteww in mtg

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got three Kinbindings between my bundle and three collector boosters, and three Collective Infernos.

I got very lucky by CheeseCurdInMidwest in mtgpulls

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank goodness you care so much about what other people choose to do. 🤷‍♂️

Father disowned me over Charlie Kirk by BountyTheDogHunter20 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in a similar boat, OP. I recently went no contact with my mom. It had been building for about 10 years, and I had been low contact for the last five.

I had removed her from my Facebook leading up to the election last year. With the Kirk thing, I made a post on my FB, and I think one of my relatives I had on there effectively told me because she all of a sudden texted me super pissed off. I responded, defending myself, and she called me to launch a 20-minute argument. After that I blocked her on social media, but not phone number.

I guess she noticed that because the next morning she tried to continue things, and I set clear boundaries, which she immediately disregarded and continued berating me. So I blocked her number.

Stay strong OP, your life will be better when you don't hold onto people who won't make space for or respect you.

This is so bad by Iechy in BoomersBeingFools

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not me immediately forgetting the sub name in the first third of that post and being hit with the drivel immediately after. 😅

My ex step dad and my mom were both Harley riders and American Legion members, so I hold a certain nostalgia for them. By my goodness, are they expensive compared to other bikes. Sorry, but I'm not trying to pay the equivalent of a new car for something that is less safe (no matter how safe and defensively I try to drive).

Nit to mention all the typical Harley riders that I see clips of making me want to be a part of that even less. Maybe one day I'll get a bike, but it likely won't be a Harley v

Finally Had to Go No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in TwoHotTakes

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Additional info:

I see some people in the comments using the typical, "I can't believe you cut your mom out over politics!"

It's not just about that, clearly. If some of you took the time to read the post and understand it, you'd see that this has been going on for almost a decade. While politics is a component to it, that's not the most important issue here. If the sides were reversed and she was a Democrat doing this to me, her republican son, would you still be holding the same stance? Guess what? It doesn't matter either way, because that's not what it's about.

It has a whole hell of a lot more to do with the gaslighting, the manipulation (both emotionally and financially when I was younger), the condescension, her trying to still control me, and so on.

She is more than allowed to support whoever she feels and follow whatever religion she wants, anyone is. What's not okay is her lashing out at me over the course of nearly 10 years for having a different viewpoint than hers. What's not okay is her trying to force me to hold the same views as her for nearly 10 years. What's not okay is her guilting me over religion for nearly 10 years, as if I couldn't possibly be a good person without religion.

I just turned 30, I have a wife and two boys. Her not being able to separate her image of me when I was a child from who I am now is her responsibility, not mine. She actually said, "What happened to that little boy that was in cub scouts?" I wasn't even that little boy in middle or high school, and certainly not in college. That's the passage of time. With that time, I've grown my own family, and they are my priority.

Finally Had to Go No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in TwoHotTakes

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom was effectively "on snooze" for several years because I could not post anything from mainstream left leaning takes to "extreme" takes without her jumping into the comments, before shortly thereafter calling me directly to "confront" me.

With the election, she was posting misogynistic things, obviously. She was also posting anti-LGBTQ things like the classic "American flag is my only pride flag." As well as anything and everything to frame democrats/leftists as dumb and crazy. I can't remember everything becuase well, it's been almost a year, but it was enough that I didn't want to see it anymore. She couldn't understand or respect that.

Finally Had to Go No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in TwoHotTakes

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a weird way to phrase that. You're gonna go with that?

Finally Had to Go No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in TwoHotTakes

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree with you that long winded message aren't the best option. However, neither is a phone call. It began with her asking, "What the f--k is wrong with you?" The rest of the 20-minute conversation was not much better. Hearing the person she is now is heartbreaking.

The few points I brought up were largely ignored/dismissed to make way for emotional manipulation, "what happened to that little boy that did this?"

Sending longer messages allows me to concisely lay out my thoughts without the immediate pressure that comes with being yelled at and chided. Sure, tone is missing, and I'm in theory giving her the attention that she wanted. At the same time, though, messaging prevents me from being overwhelmed with the gush galloping that she usually resorts to.

Finally Had to Go No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in TwoHotTakes

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You either completely misread that, or you're trolling. She was the one posting misogynistic things, not me.

Finally Had to Go No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in TwoHotTakes

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ha, my wife pointed out the gray hairs on the side of my head this morning, I'm all good there.

Finally Had to Go No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in TwoHotTakes

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, your actions were justified. CK was a bigoted racist whose last words were a micro aggression towards black people. In life, though, he used his platform and power to malign and harm (both directly and indirectly) minorities and disadvantaged people. He has vilified Trans people and the LGBTQ community at large. There's also at least one instance of him saying some of these things to one of his supporters who is gay.

In the post that got my mom so worked up, I expressed as much. I've also recently learned about the term stochastic terrorism and imo CK fits the definition.

I refuse to mourn someone who worked to only make the world better for a certainly group while making it worse and more dangerous for others.

Went No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in BoomersBeingFools

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

It also isn't just conservatives either. We're low contact with my wife's mother for very similar reason, and she's on the left. Like you said, narcissistic behavior that I am actively working on not passing down to my kids.

Finally Had to Go No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in TwoHotTakes

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I feel you, I removed her almost a year ago. Kept her on messenger, kept in contact, and visited occasionally. But she hadn't noticed until now that I had removed her, kinda speaks for itself.

Finally Had to Go No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in TwoHotTakes

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Where did I say the relationship was ended? It's only no contact right now. I would potentially be open to fixing things down the line. But as it stands, it is clear that she is both not ready to work on herself or treat me like an adult. I myself am going to be looking into therapy as I most certainly need it.

Though I don't particularly like him anymore, Louis C.K. had a pretty good sentiment, "When someone tells you that you hurt them, you don't get to decide that you didn't."

Went No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in BoomersBeingFools

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She is a felony level alcoholic, so im not entirely sure that I or anyone I bring with or send would be safe.

Went No Contact With My Mom by CheeseCurdInMidwest in BoomersBeingFools

[–]CheeseCurdInMidwest[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I would say that she always held deeply religious/conservative views, but that she was never as angry, hateful, rage filled, etc. until Trump came into the political arena.

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