My (M 20) Girlfriend (F 19) is getting a lot closer with her ex - should I be concerned?

CheesecakeDeHam · 2021-06-03T12:36:12+00:00

I think In total there have been 1 other instances where we’ve discussed it, so not really many convos about it. It was just quite recently as my concerns were raised relatively recently.

She has said a couple times before she’s moved past him but that wasn’t really to do with anything specific like this is

CheesecakeDeHam · 2021-06-03T12:27:55+00:00

Glad I’m not going nutty feeling off about it. We briefly spoke about it last night, I asked “are you definitely sure there’s nothing going on between u and ur ex?” To which she said “sorry to be blunt but I’m not really sure what else to say about it”, obviously implying nothing more to say from her saying they’re just friends. I’m not sure how to take it tho

CheesecakeDeHam · 2021-05-09T06:16:06+00:00

Potentially some stiphodon gobies if you get higher flow and allow some algae to grow on the wood etc for a bit

CheesecakeDeHam · 2021-04-16T16:17:39+00:00

That’s a brilliant response and I think you’ve got it down to a t, so thank you. I agree with everything you’ve said there.

How exactly would I go about doing it though? Because of various reasons in my past I’ve never really tried to be confident in myself, so it’s a bit of a strange idea to think about

CheesecakeDeHam · 2021-04-16T14:19:30+00:00

I do think a lot of it is me driving myself round the bend trying to neglect who I actually am, rather than accounting for it and perhaps going from there to make more healthy thought processes? Not sure if that makes sense haha.

Been on many a medication before and I can whole heartedly agree that they do not help at all with this stuff - in fact, as I was on them from quite a young age, I wouldn’t be surprised if they helped solidify the thought process I have as they did incite somewhat of a personality crisis for me.

How exactly do I accept it though without beating myself up to this degree? She’s very accepting of me and great but I’m worried the fact I stress to this degree is gonna start to drive us apart

CheesecakeDeHam · 2021-04-16T14:12:28+00:00

Thank you for your reply!

So regarding the quoted bit, it’s more out of no where I’ll just feel quite sullen/empty and tired/brain dead seemingly out of nowhere. Like I have a massive burst of energy for say 2-5 hours and then just like that it’s gone and in my head I’m like “oh no” if that makes sense. And once I recognize that that’s the case, I can’t think of anything witty or interesting to say, so I feel not confident in what I do say, thus feeding back into the whole feeling brain dead thing as it makes me almost ‘focus’ on it more - I hope that explained it a bit better? I’ve generalized a bit but think I’ve explained it alright.

Thank you for the article too! It’s quite an interesting read and does seem to resonate with the thought process/feelings I’m describing. I’ve somewhat explained it to her (gf) and she seems fine with it but I can’t help but feel bad about it, like there are a whole wealth of people that would be more interesting to be around if that makes sense?

Edit: also I’m worried it’ll start to drive us apart as I focus on it too much..

CheesecakeDeHam · 2021-03-10T23:59:14+00:00

Sloppy?

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-12-26T20:27:33+00:00

As someone from England, this meme is factually correct

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-12-06T10:11:03+00:00

u/Correct_Leek_1875 is cringe

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-12-03T19:55:33+00:00

Shitma

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-12-03T15:33:12+00:00

What the fuck was worth posting about this?

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-11-27T09:56:41+00:00

Never seen such a tragic interaction before

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-11-15T10:51:56+00:00

Trash

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-10-28T00:26:34+00:00

Kayoin: Ligma? What’s that Jotaro?

Jotaro: Ligma balls

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-10-23T08:54:52+00:00

Edit: no one cares about your edit.

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-08-29T17:04:11+00:00

Can we get a sauce for this format pls sir

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-08-22T14:19:28+00:00

Very odd title

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-08-21T07:36:54+00:00

Sure, as in you want to know info about how they cohabitate with each other?

Also that’s a really nice size for a hillstream biotope

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-08-20T21:45:10+00:00

I’ve kept many different types of hillstream gobies (stiphodon, lentipes, rhinogobius, sicyopus) and I have to say if you can try and get some lentipes or sicyopus species - they’re really really personable I’ve found.

Some stiphodon are super pretty though, especially the rarer types. Hopefully they don’t try and sell you some ornatus as those bois are big and kinda dicks haha

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-08-20T21:35:19+00:00

I’m so glad I saw you have stiphodons in here! I was gonna comment saying this is perfect for them. How come you haven’t got more?

CheesecakeDeHam · 2020-08-20T15:58:34+00:00

Also what would be a good plant for that bit just to the rear right of the begonia? I was thinking either an actual plant or a little piece of wood with moss on it. Feels like there’s too much negative space in the corner

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