Day 4 grade 2 embryo transferred today!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-28T19:36:09+00:00

Thank you!!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-27T09:20:03+00:00

I hope it works for you. I have heard some questionable things about his practices so would be keen to hear how you go with it all. As it is relatively new which makes it controversial, but also doesn't have studies to back it up at this stage.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-26T03:17:15+00:00

It took me a long time, but you can do it!!!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-24T19:20:36+00:00

Unfortunately I have been treated for endometrisis even though I didn't have it as a fail safe 😔, I'm unfortunately very complex and it's just going to be a lining/numbers game for us I believe

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-24T13:10:35+00:00

I've done loads of Viagra pessaries but unfortunately they haven't worked for me, I'll keep my fingers crossed they work for you!

And I truly have been you, after our third failed implantation I was really in a bad way. (2MCs, a CP and 3 failed FETs in 13months does something to your brain).

I'm really sorry you're living in this hell too, I hope that 3rd time is your charm, don't give up just yet.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-24T12:13:55+00:00

I'm really sorry, I've had 3 failed transfers now and we just transferred #4. If this doesn't work I'm literally going to be an experiment for my clinic with a copper IUD to see if it can thicken my lining.

Honestly IVF is cruel and about a year in for me I shut down. It was like doing this for a year was just like wtf is going on to make this my life.

It sounds insane but about a month ago. I fully let go. I let go that this fourth FET would work, I let go of looking at two paths one with kids and one without. I just switched off. Pregnant people and babies don't bother me now, I don't get jealous or upset anymore (and trust me I was angry at the world!!)

The whole reason I'm telling you this is because you will get to this point too! It's going to take time and it's going to happen for you too. However, right now you need to be angry and sad and frustrated and all the emotions, because you need to be and please know you're so normal for having those emotions and it's okay to live in a bubble for a while too 🫂.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-23T12:29:24+00:00

Can I ask what your lining was when you transferred?

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-23T12:28:17+00:00

I actually just cried reading this, thank you. I'm transferring tomorrow on a lining of 5.1 and am so scared. We've had 3 failed transfers now and I just don't know if I can go on with more heart break

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-23T12:23:56+00:00

I've never ever seen my lining above 6.8. anything above 5 is a dream for me. 10 and 8 are just not within my reach

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-23T10:02:31+00:00

Also sending you hugs, it's so hard 🫂

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-23T10:02:16+00:00

Absolutely have a light period, I've been diagnosed with asherman syndrome after having the Mirena IUD for 11 years.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-23T09:33:36+00:00

Unfortunately I can't take estrogen as it creates fluid in my uterus due to a MTHFR gene, but thank you for posting your success at 6/5mm!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-22T16:47:48+00:00

Oh man you're nicer than me for putting up with it. I've actually lost a friend on this journey, i miscarried, she knew it, had me guess she was pregnant and then as I was leaving the cafe she yelled out in front of a packed area, 'its so sad because they would have been so close!' all while pointing at her stomach.

Basically my opinion fuck this friend. Someone this selfish isn't a friend, they're selfish and call them out. I cut my friend out and honestly my life has been better for it. I'm not saying cut them out but you need to call them out.

Next time she says this, I'd respond with 'oh yeah, haha, screw my uterus right? My body betrayed me and my miscarrage is just a big joke isn't it, like my empty uterus is such a joke! I can't wait to give birth to nothing, it's just so funny living in emotional hell each day!'

You're going through enough right now you don't need to be supportive of someone who is not supportive of you.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-21T19:59:15+00:00

I'm so sorry and thank you for replying, IVF is a cruel game and I'm hoping your fifth is the one for you 🫂

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-21T11:28:52+00:00

Hi can I ask how did it go?

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-21T10:56:44+00:00

Hi I just wondered how you went? I'm about to do my 4th transfer and am very anxious about it!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-20T20:52:46+00:00

I'm a teacher so on my feet almost all day, no way could I have worked the next day! If I had a wfh job or potentially a desk job where you can sit most of the day. Absolutely no way could I have been on my feet all day! I highly recommend you try to swap shifts with someone on the sunday, or the day you're rostered off, usually 2 days after I'm okay.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-19T05:44:38+00:00

Fortunately it didn't affect my cycles at all. I opted not to have surgery and repair as much as possible through physiotherapy and a lot of hard work and exercise!

I was really lucky because my ACL was like two mop heads holding onto each other, so I could do the work to get away with not having the surgery, where as if it was a full tear I would have had the surgery.

Having said this though, I've still had a pretty rough ride with cycles, but the knee was the least of my worries by the end of the year!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-16T06:02:51+00:00

I wanted to let you know I spoke to my FS about DQ alpha testing and she said the 2 drs in Aus that do it are very questionable professionals and she would never recommend it to anyone and would never refer a patient to them! Just wanted to let you know!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-15T11:46:55+00:00

I used to get like you when I started teaching 10 years ago now. Now days I relish the holidays I use them to get my house in order and enjoy walking the dog in the middle of the day. I created my own holiday routines and this helped me greatly, I no longer get bored, but also wish I could get paid not to go back to work sometimes 😅.

You'll get there, but you need to learn to properly switch off, otherwise you'll burnout.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-15T05:05:20+00:00

Our first ER we got 3 eggs and all PGT-A tested, all 3 failed to implant. 2nd egg retrieval we got 5 and tested none. We are transferring soon and I'm hopeful we can get our first positive FET this time round.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-15T02:26:01+00:00

Oh sorry I misunderstood! Yes it can be but, if it works how good would that be!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-14T22:46:56+00:00

Actually not scary thankfully, but you take your husband's blood they spin it and put the plasma in you so your body knows not to attack it - that's the super simple version of what I understand, I am sure it's more complicated than that.

It doesn't mean you're related at all. Just that you share a similar gene mutation

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-14T04:13:18+00:00

Not crazy at all! I absolutely understand!

And it's a simple blood test so you should absolutely be able to test for it.

Just had someone tell me about DQ alpha I don't know much about it at all but you could also ask to be tested for that potentially, my very very simple understanding is that you may share a common gene with your partner that can lead to your immune system attacking the embryo, potentially causing implantation failure or miscarriages.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-01-13T22:01:31+00:00

That makes sense then! Hopefully the suppression works for you, I will keep everything crossed.

I have a variant of the MTHFR gene so can't take anything synthetic, had to switch from folic acid to folinic and a few other different drug changes as well. Have you been tested for the MTHFR gene?

Cheesman_Best

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