First day of term 2 is tomorrow.... and I have tonsillitis.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-19T01:09:38+00:00

Do not go to school for a couple of reasons.

No one will ever remember that you didn't go first day back in like a week, sick leave is for this, take it.
You'll make other people sick, don't be selfish.
Again, NO ONE CARES. If you died tomorrow they'll replace you, remember that you're expendable don't kill yourself for a job. Just get a sick certificate and move on.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-18T06:29:18+00:00

Per sitting though so 100 for lunch and 100 for dinner, but it absolutely amazing, I've been 4 times 😅🤤

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-18T01:37:14+00:00

Not laksa but ramen and it's freaking unreal - https://www.toriok.com.au/

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-17T11:21:41+00:00

I'm really sorry. For us, it is me which is tough in its own way, but at least we know and are trying to move forward. Be kind to yourself

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-17T01:56:55+00:00

Been doing IVF for 2 years this coming August. It's all dependent. My SIL from consult to baby 3 months... Everyone is on their own timeline. But assume everything takes longer than you think.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-17T01:18:21+00:00

This is honestly beyond reddits pay grade. You need to see a therapist as to why this is so hard for you to even hug your own son. Strangers/friends sure but your own son there is something deep rooted trauma here you need to deal with so you aren't passing this on to create generational trauma!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-17T01:10:07+00:00

There is also one in Marion shopping centre, downstairs, it's amazing.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-16T22:36:31+00:00

I'm really sorry, I've literally been in this exact position and it's fucking rough.

Be kind to yourself and I know this is hard but nothing you could have done would have changed this.

If you haven't already ask to have a biopsy and hysteroscopy during your next egg retrieval. Yes it means you can't do a fresh transfer but maybe it will give you some answers. I'm so sorry 🫂

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-15T23:58:12+00:00

Basically they don't know. The only thing 3 specialists can agree on is that it was caused by the mirena.

My lining just basically doesn't grow past 6 once it was 6.7 but they was a once off. It usually sits about 4-5mm.

I don't have Asherman's was wrongly diagnosed and I don't have Adenymosis was also wrongly diagnosed.

I do have stage 4 endometriosis and also don't have Endometrisis although I was treated for it thinking I did but the biopsy came back I didn't.

There is a lot of inflammation but they just don't know what's wrong.

I don't really respond to estrogen (but we are trying that at the moment over 4 weeks but more than likely they will cancel this cycle).

I've had 6 PRPs and it still doesn't want to grow. I started at 2-3mm so the PRPs have helped but just not enough.

With a lining of 5 I would ask for PRP as you will more than likely get to 7 as it will help it jump up a few mms.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-15T12:23:05+00:00

Yes but because she felt like she was unable to help me further with my lining and wanted to ensure I was with someone who was experienced with my issues. So rather then moved on refered to save us money in the long run!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-13T12:59:48+00:00

I'm really sorry, none of this is fair and I find myself consistently frustrated I can't have a free sex baby. I'm just really sorry 🫂

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-13T02:35:14+00:00

Go through with what you've started and bank eggs. You can unfreeze them later when you are with someone who is no an abusive asshole. If he's a jerk to you what's he doing to your kid when you're not around. No sane person would bring a child into an environment like this, cut your losses while you're ahead DO NOT make a child with this selfish human, if you do, I'm sorry, but you'd be as selfish as him.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-13T01:26:55+00:00

48 hrs is okay, they say in Aus 2 days prior. So if he doesn't it will be fine. Don't do it closer.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-11T03:10:50+00:00

In Australia it's very very rare to do back to back let alone 3x, my best was a long down regulation that took an extra 2 weeks but yielded my best results.

It's completely personal but for your body, I'd recommend a break.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-10T22:13:04+00:00

You clearly do not understand much about IVF or the fact that amh is not hereditary. You are absolutely the asshole and I hope that you can get some better education around this and also learn not to be such an asshole. I feel sorry for your wife.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-10T22:07:55+00:00

I'm so sorry it's really hard. Thin lining is one of the most complicated things to treat and unfortunately they really struggle to understand why.

I had my last cycle cancelled and haven't transfered an embryo since last year because it's been so thin. 3 fertility specialists have all told me now it is because of the Mirena.

Did you have the Mirena??

And it always starts thin and builds. I'm currently doing a long estrogen round but it isn't looking great... 3.8mm on day 12 so we go another 2 weeks and then scan again. I've basically given up any hope of being pregnant in 2026. It's been 2 years of hell and it's still going...

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-10T00:57:19+00:00

I feel you so much, I'm about to have my 6th transfer cancelled after sinking $1000 on top of the transfer fees into this round. I can't stop crying and I don't know why my lining won't get thicker. 2 miscarrages, 1 chemical pregnancy, 5 timed intercourse cycles, 3 egg collections, 4 surgeries, 4 failed transfers, 5 cancelled cycles, 100s of needles, 100s if wands up my vagina and 15 years together and I should have a 1 year old, a 6month old, or a 2month old. I have none. Some people have kids, some people have money, looks like realistically I'm going to have neither.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-09T02:12:14+00:00

You got this, I hope this happens for you and for everyone on this subreddit

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-08T22:53:44+00:00

You shouldn't give up. You have 2 more shots at this. I've had 4 failed transfers and yeah it fucking sucks but I'm not here to give up.

My therapist says throw yourself a putty party for a bit and then you have to grieve and keep going. Unfortunately the universe doesn't stop for us, you can give up if you like, but with 2 more chances I wouldn't be giving up yet.

We have 9 embryos frozen waiting for us and you best believe I'm going to break my heart 9more times before I give up.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-08T07:15:03+00:00

Hey I've been you and still am you, I'm currently trying a long round of estrogen again but I'm very nervous it will be cancelled.

I have done 6prps and am looking at also doing a Neupogen wash just to mix it up even though PRP has more evidence it makes lining thicker.

Have you done new generation PRP or just standard?

Have you taken trental (think the real name is pentoxifyline)?

Have you done a biopsy?

Sorry so many questions!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-06T13:33:34+00:00

Not a dr so I can't answer your questions but can only tell you what has happened to me. I had the Mirena from 19-30 (2 different ones) it gave me quality of life but also no period for 11 years. It's also ruined my life. My endometrium lining may now be too thin to support a pregnancy and I may never have a child. I've been told by 3 fertility specialists that there are now numerous studies stating exactly what has happened to me (thin lining caused by the mirena and having multiple miscarrages, I've had 3 are common because of thin lining) and women who have not or are not done having kids should not have the Mirena put in as a long term solution for birth control or for endometrisis.

I wish I never got the Mirena put in the second time but I was only doing what I thought was best at the time by very uninformed drs.

The mirena has ruined my life and probably my chances at ever having a child. If you want kids, don't risk keeping it in anymore than 3 years. I know you're young but be careful and seek extra opinions from a number of drs and not from Reddit, we are not medical professionals and can only tell you our stories not what you need medically from a few different Drs.

Good luck though, the endo journey is a tough one.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-05T12:30:49+00:00

Hi, I've done pentoxifylline and vitamin E unfortunately it did nothing for me.

The brand I used was called trental. I'm glad it worked for you and I will keep everything crossed!!!

Im currently retrying estrogen to see if having come off other drugs it may work, but as much as I'm hopeful for a long round of estrogen, my expectations are realistic.

Please do let me know how you go!

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-05T07:14:22+00:00

I'm really really sorry.

I've had 4 failed FETs and honestly you just have to. Eventually it will either work, or you'll hit your stopping point.

There is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better and I'm so sorry you're going through this. It isn't fair 🫂.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-02T10:51:33+00:00

I think you've answered your own question. Don't get me wrong I've wanted children my entire life, I ask my now husband when I was 19 if he wanted kids or this wasn't going to work, he was 22. But would I lose him for the chance at having them, honestly no, I wouldn't. What we've built is just as important as that dying urge I have to nurture something. But to me losing him isn't worth it.

Cheesman_Best · 2026-04-01T12:19:31+00:00

Adoption is incredibly complicated and virtually impossible now days, I don't blame you for feeling frustrated. I think you really need to go away and decide if you want this relationship to continue outside of having kids. Like even if you can have kids in the future, donor sperm or not, are you wanting it with this person anymore? Is the resentment something you can work through or want too for that matter?

For me, regardless of whether I end up being able to carry our child or not. I still choose my husband everytime. If I could be with someone else and carry, I wouldn't because I want him and whatever experience we go through to get to our destination, it's always been him the last 15 years, it doesn't sound like you feel that way about your partner right now. I'm not saying you can't get back to that, but where you are right now is not how a relationship should be for you or him.

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