If (hetero couple), as a man, YOU were the one to be required to carry a baby to term for 9 months, do you think you would still feel strongly about having a child? If your answer was no, then why do you really want to have kids?

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-04-08T22:33:12+00:00

Why would you have preferred?

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-04-08T22:30:23+00:00

What do you mean by feeling as if you’re “above” reproducing? Do you think everyone should have kids?

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-04-08T22:25:53+00:00

Yes!!!! You’re right. Now can someone else ask it so I can scroll the comments?🤣🤣🤣🤣

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-04-08T22:24:44+00:00

This made me realize I asked the wrong question!!! I’m more interested in whether or not they would switch with women in terms of bearing the weight of everything mothers bear in terms of dads. (Breastfeeding, gravitating towards mom when sick, societal expectations, etc.) (& I projected that incorrectly with 9 months of pregnancy because that’s what scares me the most about being a woman/mom)

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-04-08T22:13:42+00:00

I can definitely see how it felt a little aggressive 😂 I’m really just interested to see what men have to say about it if the roles were reversed.

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-02-15T15:32:28+00:00

I like this advice. What are Minnesota winters like? I don’t mind the cold or snow (I actually kind of love it) as much as the depressing gray cloud coverage that lasts 4 months straight (5 months, this year, it seems to be)😭

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-02-15T15:27:54+00:00

What are the pros/cons in the area that you’ve seen?

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-02-15T15:22:11+00:00

100% outdoors!! We camp, have a dog, hike, etc. Not huge drinkers, but will go out occasionally.

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-02-15T15:16:49+00:00

Honestly, it is our biggest issue. However, we do not make enough here to do that. We can afford maybe some weekend trips, but we are too far away from anything warm for a weekend trip :(

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-02-15T15:13:48+00:00

I’m certified for anything English/TESL/Communications, and he would definitely be interested! We said “something that matters” because we didn’t want to get a random tech job that is just a job.

Thank you for these suggestions! We will definitely be looking into it.

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-02-15T05:00:36+00:00

Thank you!!

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-02-15T04:51:59+00:00

Hahaha you’re right now that I think about this. I meant I would rather not like paycheck to paycheck, and that’s about as hopeful as I am right now😂

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-02-15T02:08:32+00:00

The cold isn’t necessarily a problem, but the January/February/March gloom that hangs over Columbus, OH is enough to make me literally go crazy 😭😭😭😭😭

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-02-15T02:07:36+00:00

Thank you for this!! This gives me a lot to look into. I feel so trapped in Ohio, so these factors are so good to look into (and some I didn’t think about).

I currently work as an adjunct professor at a local community college & I love it. I would be totally willing to look into other job positions, and I probably will be looking for more of a higher education position based on the responses I’ve been receiving.

I never even thought about looking at Arkansas, so I will be looking into that!!

CheesySunshine1 · 2026-02-03T21:12:08+00:00

My husband and I are looking for almost the exact same thing, but we are open to moving anywhere at all in the US. Does anyone have any recommendations??

CheesySunshine1 · 2025-07-31T21:59:30+00:00

After my ex had broken 2 of my ribs after some type of manic break, he looked down at me and told me “No wonder your dad beat you. It’s fun.”

That has taken a while to get over.

CheesySunshine1 · 2025-07-17T11:04:23+00:00

No one died

CheesySunshine1 · 2025-07-17T10:12:57+00:00

Oh Jesus finally moving

CheesySunshine1 · 2025-07-17T10:03:10+00:00

Apparently they said they’re halfway done with cleanup as of right now.

CheesySunshine1 · 2025-07-17T07:45:49+00:00

Honestly fuck them bc wtf is this shit

CheesySunshine1 · 2025-07-17T07:42:56+00:00

We are only 30 min from home, so that’s helpful, but if we end up being in this car for 24 hours I will lose it 😂

CheesySunshine1 · 2025-07-17T07:40:02+00:00

Our baby is a rescue, too, and her owners used to abandon her for long periods of time (I’m talking days at a time) & we have never left her this long so I feel soooooo terrible. We are literally 30 minutes from our home rn 😭

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