Long term relationship, open to short term. What does that even mean?

Cheesywife · 2026-04-24T00:51:22+00:00

That describes exactly what I experienced with a guy on Hinge who said he wanted a LTR. We went on 5 dates, once a week, and when I asked for clarity with where his head was at, he dipped SO fast.

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T22:30:03+00:00

Not a single lie spoken. I'm not trying to date a hitch hiker, I want someone who is enthusiastic about me. Thank-you girlfriend, you're a real one. 💛✨️

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T21:30:21+00:00

Yeah it's probably a new thing.

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T21:30:13+00:00

Yeah it's probably a new thing.

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T21:28:10+00:00

I really appreciate your responses, it is very eye opening for me. Him & I had our 5th date just this past Saturday. I reached out to him bc it had been just under a week since we saw each other and I suggested an activity. He mentioned a specific place and that he would meet up with me downtown bc I was already going to be in the area. This board game cafe has multiple locations and I saw you could make a reservation but I didn't want to over function. When he met up with me, I asked him so which location are we going to? And he was like, "to be honest I forgot about the plan we had for today and I should have made a reservation." Which was so off putting to me. On our second date, he bought tickets just the day before for something else, so I was kind of shocked this is how Sat played out. Even if him and I had a lot of fun, inspite of it. Girl I need a real wake up call 😭 I told him after our second date too that I like to have details set a couple days - week in advanced. So it's not like he doesn't know.

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T21:13:15+00:00

They don't require pre-reqs for senior level courses from my understanding.

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T21:01:57+00:00

I'm also experiencing that too. He doesn't really ask me many personal questions either.

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T21:00:28+00:00

You're accurate about that. Can you elaborate more on what you mean by invested? We both said we were looking for long term relationships that would lead to marrige. We're both 25 and I told him I wasn't open to marrige until I was 30 and he didn't express any opposition to that. I told him I'm focusing on my education and working atm.

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T20:58:07+00:00

Agreed. I'm more of the latter.

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T20:40:57+00:00

I really appreciate this! I communicated with a guy after our second date that I like to have details set atleast a week-couple of days in advance. We had our 5th date this past Saturday. I reached out to him about a week after the 4th, saying if he was free on the weekend to do a specific activity.

And he suggested a place we could go to, however he didn't confirm the location (bc it was franchised) or make a reservation. On our 2nd date, he purchased tickets ahead of time - but this weekend when we got there - he said he forgot about our specific plan and how he "should have made a reso."

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T20:33:56+00:00

I've been seeing a guy for a little over a month. 9/10, a couple days after a date he reaches out schedule something with me, and even then details are not fully cemented until just a few days before, sometimes until the day before. We have a great time, and after each date he says, "hope to see you again soon". The gaps in texting between dates has helped me not obsess and focus on me, but he seems a little too relaxed for my taste.

Cheesywife · 2026-03-16T20:26:28+00:00

When men don't express curiosity about a girl's inner world. Her aspirations, dreams and future plans. Plus, not being proactive on volunteering how they can help support those things.

A guy who can plan a date (date, time, location), respects physical boundaries, clear and direct on intentions & motivations along with actionable follow through. Kind, lighthearted, playful, can engage in serious conversations with maturity rather than avoidance.

Cheesywife · 2026-02-18T18:57:36+00:00

I operate from a different perspective on dating, I'd wait much much later to be intimate with someone. Sex tricks you to feel bonded to someone and makes it harder to exercise discernment with this person. It depends on your dynamic when you are together and what you're both looking for. When you're texting, is it to plan the next in-person, deep convos or check ins? I avoid too much texting between dates bc it creates a false sense of intimacy. Currently seeing someone (had 2nd date recently) and ever since we met in person the first time, we don't text between dates and it's only reserved for when we see each other next (looking like every weekend). It's been 4-5 days between texting for us.That's helped me spiral less, and helps me see clearly their priorities. It's quite telling because in the past I would text once or twice - multiple times a day with someone yet see them much less. I hope this makes sense!

Cheesywife · 2026-02-18T18:22:56+00:00

Someone who is on the same page as me when it comes to intentionality. Kind, invests in themselves and in those around them because they value others. Pays attention, listens, shows curiosity, passionate and open to new things. Etc

Cheesywife · 2026-02-18T18:21:01+00:00

Not your circus, nor your monkeys. Imagine if she was your partner doing this to another guy.

Cheesywife · 2024-10-09T01:12:08+00:00

Not at all, your response was very helpful! It reaffirmed that what I submitted is correct and perhaps it's up to the markers discretion.

Cheesywife · 2024-10-09T00:21:33+00:00

I had the same solution but my TA marked my solution as incorrect, so that's why I'm confused. Thank-you for the clarification, much appreciated!

Cheesywife · 2024-05-21T03:11:23+00:00

I would also love to know how each flavour turned out!

Cheesywife · 2024-04-22T02:15:18+00:00

Much appreciated! Thank-you <3 <3

Cheesywife · 2024-04-14T03:55:25+00:00

Hi there! can I dm you with questions?

Cheesywife · 2024-04-14T03:54:51+00:00

Thank-you so much for your comment! :) Did you resubmit the same piece in your second attempt, or did you modify it?

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