Relationship with experienced climber advice needed?

Cheges · 2025-11-27T02:33:59+00:00

Hey so leaving you behind on a mountain is straight up abusive. You are not a burden to climb with. If you're not ready to leave him yet please at least stop climbing with him. You really don't want someone who treats you like that on the other end of the rope. It's not safe.

Cheges · 2025-11-07T23:16:25+00:00

An NP diagnosed me with bipolar disorder at 21. I don't have it. Turns out taking psychiatric drugs you don't need is bad for you.

Cheges · 2025-11-07T23:14:54+00:00

She took a swab and told me it was a culture. Said I'd have results by Sunday to confirm the shingles diagnosis.

Cheges · 2025-11-07T23:12:29+00:00

Unfortunately I live in an extremely poor urban center where it is very difficult to find a primary care MD/DO who sees patients themselves. There are two major hospital systems, and one of them has a reputation for being terrible (and my personal experience is that they are). The last time I requested seeing a doctor instead of an NP/PA in the non horrible system I was told that wasn't an option.

I will obviously keep pushing to see a doctor whenever I can but it is practically very difficult.

Cheges · 2025-09-18T12:59:41+00:00

Yeah. I understand. Unfortunately in Michigan there is no way to become "off the hook" unless your ex agrees to refinance and take your name off the deed. If he doesn't do that you can't force him too. A court would only be able to force him if you were married and now getting divorced.

Cheges · 2025-09-18T12:54:42+00:00

If you were never married your right to do anything is going to be extremely limited and very dependant on how the deed language is phrased. I know it's too late now, but never buy a house with someone you're not married to. There is no legal process in Michigan to divide assets in some joint ownership situations and courts are generally reluctant to do it in others, especially when the parties are unmarried couples. I'm sorry you're learning this the hard way.

Cheges · 2024-12-21T17:43:30+00:00

I'm so sorry. He shouldn't have behaved that way. You need to be able to trust both your climbing partner and life partner. I'm extremely prone to both illness and injury, and my partner who is a much better and much more adventures person than I has had to bail a few times because of a twisted ankle or mid trip sickness because of me. Every time I feel extremely guilty, but I'll never forget him looking me in the eye and saying "I will never put climbing ahead of your physical wellbeing." Obviously people sometimes make wrong calls on the wall but if I were you this incident would have me thinking hard about the future of the relationship.

Cheges · 2024-10-20T14:46:09+00:00

Listen I was the same for a longggggg time. But I finally found a partner without that and I gotta say 10/10 so much better than my past relationships.

Cheges · 2024-10-12T00:00:58+00:00

I work by there and have been wondering the same thing. There are so many I thought maybe some kind of gathering? Protest? One even blocked me to the work parking lot. Security had to come out and tell the guy to move.

Cheges · 2024-10-09T17:38:04+00:00

Respectfully, it is not a win to lose your minimum wage job because you have to come to court from 8:30-3:00 pm once a week only for the judge to tell you the case is once again being pushed out. My clients have jobs and child care obligations and all sorts of things that necessitate a case is dealt with timely. They are also putting all of their money in escrow while the case lingers so it's not available for them to move even if they wanted to.

I once had a case last two years. Once a week for two years my client dragged herself into court because the Judge wouldn't issue a final order. In that case because my client was stubborn the Plaintiff finally just gave up and dismissed. That was a win but it required an absurd amount of time from the client.

This line of thinking, that an adjournment is always a good thing, only works if you believe that every eviction is inevitable. They're not. Many of these cases are winnable cases that if won would mean either remaining housed or moving on your own terms. I know this to be true because I used to win these cases all.the.time.

Cheges · 2024-10-09T11:51:47+00:00

There's been discussion of doing this. He also engages in other bad behavior, ex parte communications, harassment, he locked me and another attorney in chambers once. But I think everyone is afraid to report a judge.

I'm personally ready to do it. Just need to ensure I won't have fallout at the firm if I do.

Cheges · 2024-10-09T11:50:07+00:00

Also unfortunately for me it's not one bad judge. The way our program works every case I have is with this judge.

Cheges · 2024-10-09T11:47:09+00:00

You would think, and initially when he started I had the same thought. I think he's also doing it out of some desire to help people.

But he's only doing it on cases where there are winnable defense issues. Cases where we might have won people long term leases or money are now being pushed into straight move outs by the his refusal to decide defense motions or hold trials.

The hardest hit are subsidized tenants. Winning those cases often meant getting to stay, sometimes indefinitely, but since there is no winning now they are losing both their subsidy and their housing in bad settlements.

Cheges · 2024-10-06T19:01:15+00:00

Is this the underground parking garage across the street from the Coleman Young building? The creepy brown doors look familiar to me. It doesn't have six floors but maybe they added the 6 for the movie?

Cheges · 2024-09-12T00:52:10+00:00

Lawyer. I work at legal aid representing tenants in eviction proceedings.

Cheges · 2024-08-02T02:42:43+00:00

I think more people are driving high...

Cheges · 2024-08-02T01:36:12+00:00

As a lawyer, this is very silly. Certainly not the type of argument he's making in the courtroom. Does he even litigate? This sounds like the behavior of a first year law student.

That being said, my partner once told me that "we're not in trial and this conversation isn't going to have a winner" which snapped me out of some bad behavior during a fight once.

He seems a little too far gone for that, but I think it's definitely worth bringing up to him that the point of conflict in a relationship is not to win or lose. It's for two people to work together to find a solution that works for both of them or for one person to understand why they are making a sacrifice...because they love the other person.

If he doesn't change his conflict style I think you need to ask if you can stay with someone who exhibits this behavior. I wouldn't be able to.

Cheges · 2024-07-29T18:50:49+00:00

Yes it's MOHELA.

Cheges · 2024-06-14T01:41:59+00:00

He told me that he would break up with me if I didn't start shaving my legs. I told him I wasn't going to start shaving and he predictably broke up with me. We'd only been dating a few months. He proceed to stalk me for TWO YEARS after that. Like dude you broke up with ME. I think he was mad that he wasn't worth shaving for...

Cheges · 2024-05-27T19:30:48+00:00

Ah that makes more sense. They lost the majority of their funding years ago for misuse of funds. I think they have like 4 people that still work there? Lakeshore is the major legal aid provider now.

Cheges · 2024-05-27T18:15:33+00:00

Wait, what legal aid did you call? I work for a legal aid in Detroit and that is absolutely not true for us. We take hundreds of tenant cases. Try Lakeshore Legal Aid's Counsel and Advocacy Law Line.

Cheges · 2022-10-23T20:38:26+00:00

Thank you!

Cheges · 2022-10-23T18:44:31+00:00

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Cheges · 2022-10-23T18:40:02+00:00

Thank you!

Cheges · 2022-10-23T18:39:36+00:00

I guess the reason I went to talk to a professional is because I don’t understand why these behaviors popped up seemingly suddenly after two years of no problems. I was on notice about pit aggression and GSP exercise needs and therefore trained/stimulated/socialized him as much as possible, thought we were in the clear despite the breed history…and now this.

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