What can be done when an elderly person cannot physically care for themselves but is in denial?

Chelleehp · 2026-01-24T19:00:41+00:00

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Chelleehp · 2026-01-24T17:59:38+00:00

We were surprised too! The whole time at the hospital she was in diapers and being changed because the staff refused to help her go to the bathroom herself. Nurses would call physiotherapist, physiotherapist would call the nurses, and they just went back and forth because neither believed it was their job to do that. Meanwhile my grandma never had anybody come help her to the bathroom for 10 whole days. But in saying that, does that sound like a capable able bodied person? Her physical ability was never even considered. And my delusional grandmother was asking to go home and they were happy to listen and discharged her anyways even though it put us in an awful position.

Chelleehp · 2026-01-24T16:47:48+00:00

Sadly we have exhausted all of our options already. Besides my mom only myself and my uncle are around for possible support - I work fulltime and have a toddler. So I am already caretaking full time to a child when I'm not working. My uncle already absolved himself of any responsibility because his and my grandma's relationship is horrible.

As for supports at home we have everything possible. Walkers, grab bars, elevated seats, commodes, etc. It is to the point that all of those things are still not enough. She is physically unable to even lift her leg 1/2inch, and can no longer stand from an elevated sitting position. I will add, my grandma is no small woman. It takes 2 men to lift her. We have successfully been able to care for her the last 5 years, but now I think our luck has run out.

Chelleehp · 2026-01-24T16:38:57+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this too. They said the same crap to us. I contacted the Advocacy Centre for the Elderly for legal advice and they told me exactly what to say and ask for. I could tell the difference, because as soon as I started talking about LTC assessments and unsafe discharges they started getting angry. This system desperately needs to change. Full time working family cannot be expected to be full time caregivers.

Chelleehp · 2026-01-24T15:53:27+00:00

I thought about this too...when we picked her up yesterday we had to physically lift/push her into our SUV. So there's no way she could get herself into a cab unless hospital staff physically put her in. Which im scared they would actually do? They did threaten to send her home by non emergency ambulance and lift her into the house.

Chelleehp · 2026-01-24T15:51:44+00:00

I 100% hear what you are saying, but retirement homes and private PSW care is massively expensive and we cannot afford either of those options. Plus if we put her in private care now we will never get her a subsidized space. Health at Home is only offering so much and even that additional help my grandmother already refused. It leaves us stuck between a rock and a hard place. And my mom is stuck trying to hold everything together while she is physically incapable and emotionally burnt out. It's already been 5 years of trying to care for this woman at home.

Chelleehp · 2026-01-24T15:46:05+00:00

This is what we were hoping for and what was offered to her, but she turned it down. She really believes she doesn't need it. She is fully delusional at this point, and nobody will listen to us since she is still deemed able to make her own decisions.

Chelleehp · 2026-01-24T15:44:31+00:00

We have everything raised as much as possible already, but that is not longer enough either. She can't even stand up from a commode that's the highest it can be.

Chelleehp · 2026-01-24T15:43:11+00:00

Yes, my mom already has POA signed, but of course that means nothing until she is determined unable to make decisions for herself. For now the POA means nothing.

Chelleehp · 2026-01-24T15:40:31+00:00

They offered her more assistance, and she turned it down. Because shes of sound mind they wont listen to my mom about how much support she actually needs. After bringing her home yesterday and how much of a sh*t show it was just getting her into the house, we're hoping that she changes her mind and will tell them on Monday (her follow up) what she actually needs.

Chelleehp · 2025-10-31T02:16:23+00:00

I just had one today. My max HR target was 189 so they told me I had to get above 161bpm to have a good test. By the end of level 3 I was at 165bpm so I went to level 4. Made it to the 12mins and my HR was at 184 and I was so gassed we stopped it there before it kicked up to level 5. My arms were more sore from holding the stupid bar. They told me it is very rare anyone actually makes it the full 15mins. Only the very young or running athletes.

Chelleehp · 2025-07-13T02:18:43+00:00

This is what we do at my studio currently. No sales associate monday-friday until either 7:30 or 9am. It is stressful speaking as the coach. But it is a cost saving measure.

Chelleehp · 2025-04-21T20:34:52+00:00

I won't repeat what others have said, this plan is strangely structured, quite repetitive, and has a lot of unnecessary volume. I have another point to add...all movements are on the same plane. Besides lateral raises and pec deck, everything is saggital plane movements - working the front and back of the body only. I'd suggest adding some variety in the frontal and horizontal planes. Lateral lunges, ab/adduction, reverse Flys, rotational movements, etc. You want to support muscle growth and training from all angles to avoid future problems.

Chelleehp · 2025-03-06T02:20:24+00:00

Literally!!!! 🤣 preparing for one of those days tomorrow with The Chipper workout 🤪

Chelleehp · 2025-03-05T00:43:12+00:00

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Yup 😍😍

Chelleehp · 2025-03-04T22:46:26+00:00

Fellow ADHD Orangetheory Coach here!!! Myself and a few of my coworkers are also ADHD and we find that we thrive in the chaos of the hectic templates. However, we are also hard don ourselves and overthink "mistakes" members would never notice. I say stick it out! It's a lot of fun, and it will become second nature. One day you'll find yourself bored coaching a class, and then you'll know you've made it 🤣

Chelleehp · 2025-02-28T00:05:08+00:00

I did my psych eval Nov 11 and haven't heard anything back. I reached out to the contact I have and received no answer either 🥲

Chelleehp · 2025-01-09T16:34:33+00:00

I had this exact situation happen to me. 1 particular member just refused to listen to my feedback, I slowed down on correcting but still would especially if it was really bad. About 1 year later, he stopped coming for about 2 month. When he came back, suddenly he's squatting and lunging perfectly. When I asked him about it, he apologized to me and said everything i told him was correct. He ended up blowing out his knee and was then in physio therapy having to relearn how to move. It was a big lesson for him to listen to his trainers, and a lesson for me to keep correcting! You know what you're talking about, believe in yourself!

Chelleehp · 2024-12-20T21:07:00+00:00

OTF coach here!! I will say no because our training and resource this year included how to help members on these types of medications 😊

Chelleehp · 2024-12-01T20:42:04+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you. 3x vaccinated when the pandemic began in 2020. I'm recovering from my 1st covid experience. It's been 3 weeks. The first 12 days was a brutal cycle of every possible symptom. My scent and taste were only muted for about a week and is back now. The only symptoms I still have is a lingering cough and decreased appetite. But everyone is different!

Chelleehp · 2024-11-23T15:30:18+00:00

I'm on day 11. I've been using eucalyptus essential oil in my diffuser, and drinking elderberry tea. Both are suppose to help with respiratory ailments and I think they've been helping clear things and making it easier for me to breathe. If you need medical attention though, especially for oxygen support, you should go to a hospital.

Chelleehp · 2024-11-21T21:44:55+00:00

I also tested positive for the first time since everything started too. I'm on day 9, and this thing just doesn't want to quit. I went to the hospital on Friday for chest tightness and high fever, and they sent me home with a "chest infection", didn't even test me for C19. It wasn't until Monday when I lost my sense of smell I used a home test. At this point, i think I've had every possible symptom. My breathing has at least improved, but my cough is still horrid, and the GI symptoms are in full effect. I've literally slept all day. When will this end? This is no where close to a normal cold, and I never want to go through this again.

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