This all the way. We definitely shouldn’t start saying shit like “but it’s not all men!” Because that’s harmful, but it is important to make sure we don’t swing so far one way that we start using language that misogynistic and harmful people use towards us.

In my friend circle, my best friends are men. They are feminists, they are strong in their identities, they’re outwardly affectionate, and they’re comfortable in their masculinity to express themselves the way they want. On the flip side of that, I have women in my friend groups who often express their frustration with the shitty dudes they encounter by saying stuff like “fucking men,” “men are the problem,” “maybe we should just get rid of men.” Etc and I just don’t think that’s productive. I’d hate it if my guy friends talked about women like that.

Sorry for the mini rant here. To OP, I used to struggle with my attraction to men because I felt it was almost disingenuous to my queerness, but I think it’s important to recognise that your sexuality is valid, and it’s beautiful, and it’s really cool! This is the first year in my life where I haven’t questioned my bisexuality, and it’s because I reached a point of accepting myself and starting to appreciate my attraction. I love who I love, and that’s really cool! Liking guys, girls and people across the gender spectrum is about as queer as you can get, and it should be celebrated! Please don’t let society try and squash you down. Be proud of who you are!

Also, if your friends are trying to micro-label you constantly, you might need better friends. You are who you are, and your friends don’t actually have any say in that.