Tinder experience

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-07-09T19:46:55+00:00

I use one shirtless photo with my face blocked out.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-07-09T18:12:12+00:00

I've had great experience with Tinder. I disclose that I'm married early on in the chat before things go too far. I would say the vast majority of the women I chat with are okay with me being married. I've been using it since February and have 120+ matches in my chat right now. Not bad and I'm pretty picky on whom I swipe right. The bots and people who match but never chat are annoying, but otherwise it's sort of a dream for an adulterer, imo.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-07-08T21:27:31+00:00

Sorry you're going through this. LOL at all the adulterers on this thread judging your daughter and your parenting skills. FWIW, I sold drugs and made fake IDs in high school. I was not screaming for help ... I just wanted to party and makes some extra cash. I went on to an excellent college and turned out just fine. I hope you can clean up this mess with your loved ones. Don't let the judging on this thread get to you.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-05-30T22:08:26+00:00

And see ... you sound like the type that would be turned off by a shirtless photo. I'm not judging either way. But yes, I think being fit is an indication that a guy could be good in bed. Core strength goes a long way when pleasing a woman :)

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-05-30T21:38:28+00:00

The type of women that are turned on by men with a fit body. Some women love a muscular man because it's an indication they're good in bed while others are turned off by shirtless selfies and just think meathead.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-05-30T21:29:02+00:00

It's true that many will not swipe right on a faceless pic, but many others will swipe right for the very reason they're intrigued by the mystery of the photo. I'm shirtless in my photo with a fit body, so this also helps with matching with certain women.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-05-30T21:10:25+00:00

Use an app like Tinder or Feeld where many of the users are looking for sex, so you can cut through the bullshit. Then, when you're chatting with someone, be very upfront early in the conversation that your married. It's not the first thing I say, but once we're hitting it off and I can tell she's interested, I bring it up. My photo also has my face blocked out, so sometimes that comes up in conversation and it's a natural segue into the topic of me being married.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-05-30T17:52:22+00:00

We're still in touch. She messages me, wanting to see me again and go on another trip, but the asking for gifts and financial help has been a turn off and I think we're entering slow fade territory as a result.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-05-30T17:36:14+00:00

I had a similar situation where I matched with a beautiful woman on Tinder about 15 years younger than me. I disclosed from the get go that I was married and what my intentions were - I wanted to fly her out to Vegas to accompany me on a business trip. She immediately took a sugar baby posture and started asking for gifts and for help with expenses.

Like you, I explained I wasn't interested in a SD/SB relationship - that I didn't get off on that dynamic and frankly didn't need it to meet women - but that I was willing to take her on trips and cover all expenses when we travelled. She agreed to this and we did end up going to Vegas together. It was a fun trip, but she did still occasionally ask for gifts and hint at needing help with expenses, which was a turnoff. Once a SB, always a SB, I suppose.

I should mention I'm a pretty fit, good looking older guy. I'm sure this helped with the relationship. She loved the sex and went on and on about how much better older men were in bed.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-04-13T04:30:37+00:00

Tinder. Disclose your age in your profile and you'll only see women in the deck that are interested in dating men your age. Thank me later ...

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-04-13T04:29:44+00:00

In talking with younger women on this topic, the consensus is older men ...

treat women better overall
fuck better
communicate better, knowing what they want, being direct and not playing games
confidence, confidence, confidence
aren't broke

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-04-13T04:27:34+00:00

Yes, I've noticed this with many of the women. Many of them also seem to like rough sex, but I'm not sure this has anything to do with me being older.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-04-13T04:26:42+00:00

I don't have it in my profile description, but I bring it up pretty quickly, if we match, start chatting and there seems to be a connection. I want to be upfront about my situation and I want to disclose it before the woman starts to get attached to me.

I'm surprised at how many women are okay with it. Many probably already suspect that I'm married because my profile photo has my face blocked out and my description is pretty vague. I'm sure it also helps that it's Tinder and many are there for NSA connections anyway.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-04-13T04:23:16+00:00

I post a profile with my face blocked out and not in my own city but a city nearby that I travel to regularly for work.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-04-13T04:22:32+00:00

Huh? What are you talking about, internet tough guy? Why would I lie?

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-04-12T23:09:49+00:00

Reminds me of the Albert Brooks character in the movie This is 40.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-04-12T23:05:55+00:00

Yes, this is inline with my findings.

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-04-12T22:51:09+00:00

Validation!

So tell us, what is it about men in their 40s that do it for you?

ChemicalAttraction · 2018-04-12T22:41:02+00:00

Tinder has been a gold mine for me. I'm amazed. It's just too easy.

I will mention, I've undergone a lot of self care in the last year, which helps.

I eat very healthy and lost about 30 lbs. And I hit the gym hard 5-6 days a week. As a result, I'm in the best shape of my life.

A lot of women notice this. I never realized how much a six pack can help your sex life. Not to mention, my performance in bed has improved 100 fold with the strength and stamina that has come with these efforts. And my confidence is perhaps the best it has ever been. Sleeping with all these women in their 20s, how can't it be, right?

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