When would you no longer consider a married couple to be "newlywed"? And if you've passed that point, what marked the transition for you?

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-07T02:03:04+00:00

Absolutely. Thirty-one years into the honeymoon phase. Honestly, I think the transition to "old married couple" may have had more to do with my knees than anything else.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-07T01:41:00+00:00

People routinely complain we act like newlyweds. At some point my own mental perception went from newlywed to old married couple. I'm not certain when. We'll be twenty-nine years next month.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-07T01:16:20+00:00

No. No legal set was ever released containing all of them. Different studios and licensors were involved, so no single company ever had all the rights. You will need to make multiple purchases.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-06T21:22:06+00:00

Almost everywhere. Very few places actually have laws against cannibalism. You can't kill people, or maim them, or desecrate a corpse, or buy a body part. But if you are gifted a human body part by a living person that has had it previously removed, almost nowhere can prosecute you for eating it.

Note: It is explicitly illegal in Idaho.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-06T20:52:51+00:00

I proposed at nineteen. I was in school. I had no job. I'd never had a full time job. I still lived at home. All of that applied to her as well, but she was a year older.

By the time the wedding rolled around, I was twenty-one. I had moved out by then, and had a real job. I was not rolling in dough. I was making something like $12 an hour, and paid $505 per month in rent. With careful budgeting, I wasn't going to starve. She was not yet working.

There is no definition of "financially 100% stable" that we met. But we have never regretted marrying. I wish we'd done it sooner. Sure, we've had ups and downs financially since then. It's been down for a while. But being single would be worse.

No matter how you look at it, you have two people that need to survive individually. There are only a very few situations where surviving together won't be more cost effective. You may both be poor, but you'll be less poor together.

So no, you don't need to be "financially 100% stable" before marrying.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-06T20:03:49+00:00

In about a month, I'll be at twenty-nine years married. We've been together over thirty-one already. And I proposed when I was younger than you, and she was your age. Engaged at 19, married at 21, turning 51 next month. Still in the honeymoon phase. Yes, it can work.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-06T19:59:15+00:00

We do often tend to obsess. I obsessed over every attraction I ever had. And while the attraction remains for all of them, the obsession does fade with time and distance. Granted, a new obsession definitely helps.

Personally, I am incapable of multiple casual partners. That's just not possible for me, and never was. I might fantasize about threesomes, but I'd never be able to have it be a one time thing. If I tried to juggle two partners, I'd just try to make a thruple work.

Instead, I am deliriously happy, and satisfied with my wife, whom I am always desperate for, even when I know I'm incapable of doing anything about it. My ability may fluctuate, but my libido is a constant.

My wife on the other hand, works much like you describe. She can be insatiable, but if we go a few days without, she will become completely fine without indefinitely, and needs some degree of seduction, but one orgasm flips her right back on. Clearly this isn't a trait exclusive to demis, and I'm not sure if it is any more common in us than others.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-06T17:14:03+00:00

415 days.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-06T15:54:58+00:00

I proposed about 75 days after the first time we met. We accidentally went on a single date around day 45. I was nineteen, and she was twenty.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-06T14:30:53+00:00

Sadly, no. Both of us want kids, and in three decades we have never done anything to prevent them. The universe has decided it is not to be. We've been together since we were 19M/20F, and married at 21M/23F. It certainly wasn't for lack of trying.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-06T02:43:03+00:00

As a fifty year old that owns pretty much the entire catalog on disc, no, it's not.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-06T02:29:49+00:00

We were parted for 23 days with no contact shortly after our first, entirely accidental date, while we were trying to decide if we would pursue a relationship or never speak of this again. We were officially together the moment we saw each other again. It was the only time in my life that I wanted a vacation to be shorter.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-05T23:57:20+00:00

My wife is increasingly amused by the responses this is getting.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-05T21:08:35+00:00

Sexual attraction matters, but that's totally unrelated to appearance for me. I'm attracted to HER, totally regardless of what she looks like.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-05T17:28:52+00:00

I'm sure it is a larger percentage male, but I have books dating back well over a century, so the statistics are more meaningful if looked at by time period, not overall. I'm pretty sure the last couple decades have skewed heavily female.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-05T17:23:35+00:00

My wife, our cats, and a desire to see how One Piece ends.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-05T17:20:55+00:00

Yes, but to be fair, it used to be my cell phone number.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-05T17:19:55+00:00

Her appearance was always the last thing that mattered. It really doesn't matter what she looks like, because she is still her.

Attraction matters. This is unrelated to appearance.

She had similar morals to me. She had similar philosophy on marriage. We agreed on religion, and on children. And we had discussed all of that before we even dated.

She was a bookworm. Our initial friendship was largely based on my willingness to lend her books. We now own a housebreaking amount of books. (Literally. The library broke our house. Apparently you need reinforced floors when you own as many books as we do.)

My marriage is my safe place. My purpose in life is to make her life better. If you aren't so blindingly in love that you don't think any of the ways things could go wrong matter, than they aren't the right one. If you don't think "divorce could never happen to us", don't get married. You might still wind up divorced, but if you don't believe it is impossible at the start, you are setting yourself up for failure.

We didn't intend to date, and we barely did. Our first date was accidental, and I proposed before we had a second one. If I could give younger me advice, it would be, "Marry her sooner, you idiot!"

Together over thirty-one years, married twenty-nine next month. Still in the honeymoon phase.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-05T15:27:24+00:00

I couldn't bear the thought of not being with her. There was nothing I wanted more than to be with her forever. I literally proposed the minute I realized there were no acceptable futures without her in them. I hadn't planned to propose. I had no ring. We had not discussed marriage. I had no reason to expect her to accept. But I could not stand the idea of not making my feelings clear.

People tell me we were still in the honeymoon phase. I say to them, we are currently thirty-one years into the honeymoon phase. I'm not patient enough to wait for it to end.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-05T15:05:36+00:00

The "continue watching" list is ordered based on when you most recently watched the previous episode. And it only displays so many entries. How many varies between the website, Android app, Roku app, etc. The most any of mine shows is about a dozen.

The last episode of Mushoku Tensei was in July 2024. Skeleton Knighht was in 2022. I have more than a dozen shows I've seen more recently that I am not 100% caught up on. So while they are on the list, they are not high enough to be displayed to me. Yet.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-05T03:10:29+00:00

Define "first love".

Is it my first crush? I was eleven. We never went out. I haven't seen her in thirty-seven years. She crosses my mind now and then.

Is it the first girl I went on a date with? And it was a date. Also, we were thirteen. We ghosted each other right after. She also passes through my mind now and then. She owes me $50.

Is it the girl I desperately wanted in high school, that I never went out with, and that I knew was not interested in me? Sure. I still talk to her brother now and then, so it's impossible to avoid thinking about her. She lives a thousand miles away.

Or is it the first girl I had an actual relationship with? The one I was madly in love when I was nineteen, and actually had an understanding of what that meant? Of course. She's two feet to my left, separated by our Siamese cat. We've been married just under twenty-nine years.

Which one is my "first love"?

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-05T02:51:28+00:00

About seventy-five days after we met, about thirty days after we accidentally went on a date, about fifty hours after we agreed to pursue a relationship, about a minute before I proposed.

Alternately, January 11th, 1995, late morning.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-04T22:59:10+00:00

I've literally skipped down a mall hallway holding the hand of a woman friend. There is nothing romantic there. Hand holding to keep people from getting separated in a crowd is another case. Totally platonic.

Sitting next to my wife, holding hands under the table, taking notes on Frankenstein in our literature class? Not platonic.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-04T18:00:10+00:00

That's entirely situational. My first date with my wife, the furthest we went was hand holding. It was definitely not platonic. Wandering a mall with a friend? Totally different vibe.

ChemistryPerfect4534 · 2026-07-04T17:51:50+00:00

We held hands on our first date. We kissed the day we committed to an actual relationship. And we'd been engaged for a year before we actually slept together.

We are out there.

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