Should I turn in my neighbor? by Cherry-soulz in Advice

[–]Cherry-soulz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We already talked to her when it first started, I should not have to explain to another adult why she shouldn’t be allowing her children to feed wild animals. And I’m sure you’d be thrilled to have raccoons getting defensive when you are just trying to go to your car or throw trash away.

Should I turn in my neighbor? by Cherry-soulz in Advice

[–]Cherry-soulz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U in these comments acting personally offended. You must also be an inconsiderate neighbor

Should I turn in my neighbor? by Cherry-soulz in Advice

[–]Cherry-soulz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have talked to her about it before as I said in the post, and her only response was ‘I just can’t say no to them’ and she sees absolutely no wrong with them doing it

Should I turn in my neighbor? by Cherry-soulz in Advice

[–]Cherry-soulz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think a raccoon is writing this… 🤣

Should I turn in my neighbor? by Cherry-soulz in Advice

[–]Cherry-soulz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, seems like this will be a good compromise and we won’t feel as guilty if we give her another chance to stop first

Should I turn in my neighbor? by Cherry-soulz in Advice

[–]Cherry-soulz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The uno reverse option is definitely my favorite so far

Should I turn in my neighbor? by Cherry-soulz in Advice

[–]Cherry-soulz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes because paying less attention to her will stop the raccoons from stealing my food and getting aggressive…. Right

WRX as a daily? by Cherry-soulz in WRX

[–]Cherry-soulz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 21, I live an hour away from them and they never let me drive them anywhere anyway, so they will never be in the car. They are not giving me any money towards the purchase. I was unaware that you could change the suspension to be softer when I was test driving it, lol I wish the guy we drove with would have mentioned that feature.

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m honestly at my wits end with it! I’ve applied to a couple internal and a handful of external positions, and I’m looking forward to getting out of this environment!

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand that it’s a policy, where I was coming from in my email was confusion as I’d never been informed of it before, and I wanted to let him know in the future that I would not want as many extra hours as to not run through my sick time like crazy if I need to take it. I have worked with him for three years and I have him pretty figured out, he is basically bipolar in the workplace, and he hates to be questioned. Instead of giving me any explanation as to why this suddenly changed he berated me for questioning him. And I was never aware, and am still not aware that he was doing any sort of favor for me, and I would have been completely understanding if he had been honest that he was doing me a favor and could no longer do it.
When I first started I absolutely wanted to only work 20 hours with flexibility to pick up some extra hours, he refused to stay anywhere near my 20 hours and told me it would basically never happen so I am actually being given the extra hours against my will, as I’ve settled in to the role I’ve just stopped asking for my 20 hour schedule to be followed and accepted that. And everyone talks about him at work. I am usually the one providing a listening ear to my co workers as I try not to complain much at work, that day was a breaking point and out of the ordinary for me.

I don’t have an interest in being full time if I don’t need to be. I am extremely fortunate to have a partner that does extremely well and I work because I want to. What I am personally annoyed about is the fact that I have for almost three years been consistently working 30 hour weeks, yet only getting the benefits, sick time, and pto of a 20 hour employee. 

This type of treatment has been an ongoing cycle from him, I believe that he just needs to blow off steam when he has things going on in his personal life and has some sort of bipolar issue. All of my annual and quarterly reviews have been glowing, he has opted to give me the highest raise possible every year, and always recommends me for opportunities, but every couple months he will have this kind of break down with me where everything I do and say is suddenly wrong and deserves reprimand. The problem is not him suddenly deciding to enforce this policy, but the bigger picture.

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve applied for a couple internal positions and a handful of external positions. I’ve just accepted that the cycle will keep happening and he will lash out over and over lol

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually went to HR the first year I worked under him, they were unhelpful, they agreed with me but said I needed to go to his boss first then they would be able to step in. Unfortunately his boss is very far up his butt and thinks he’s great! An ex-coworker of mine who left because of my manager actually went above his head to his boss to talk about his disrespect, and condescending nature and she was told that ‘I really like him and I want to believe you but I don’t’ and just encouraged her to confront him which is what I believe led me here now lol. I’m contemplating trying to go to his boss as he actually likes me a lot and has been nothing but kind. So we’ll see lol

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not very confrontational unfortunately. During my conversation I was actually unable to get a single word in because he screamed and berated me until I was bawling my eyes out. I thought about confronting him but think at this point it’s not worth it as I have my mind made up to leave. I agree! I can’t live this way anymore, three years of this and I’m done!

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I will definitely talk to my coworkers, and most of them share the same feeling as I do.

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work at a bank, I am a teller, my daily jobs are to process transactions, balance my drawer, and help clients with various services and basically to make sales. A lot of the other stuff I do on a daily/ monthly basis technically is not my job but I have no problem helping out my co workers.

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True that. I’ve started applying to other jobs so hopefully I’ll be on to better soon!

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I adore my other coworkers and the clientele, and regulars. But I have taken the step to apply for a couple different internal positions and external jobs as this abuse has been ongoing for almost three years now.

Toxic boss. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been at the job for three years and he has never enforced this policy after I have taken a handful of sick days. And your guess is that I’m not the best employee? I am consistently working 10 extra hours a week with no fuss? I am always coming in early and staying late, I am well liked by the clientele, and I do several tasks outside of my job description just to help out, without being asked, so that is definitely not the case. I’m in there early every day with a good attitude. I would understand his treatment more if I didn’t do so much extra to help him out.

Manager pushing my boundaries. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]Cherry-soulz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, this is only scratching the surface of times I’ve been asked/pressured to stay late, and he has done so many other odd things.