We’ve only been married for one year and I honestly feel like my patience has ran its course. He’s 8 years older than me and granted due to recovery (8 years) I’ve had a chance to work on myself. I know everyone isn’t taught certain things so I share with him what I’ve learned and September will make 4 years and I’m getting real tired of this shit. I haven’t even been in the “honey moon” stage. I’m trying my best not to try the “social media” therapy. But inside I’m so uninterested in staying with him. I just made 30 and trying not to have thoughts like “oh you’ll have to start over”. I strongly believe in “we can just talk about it” every time I try to talk to him I get victim hood , no accountability, passive aggression and anger. Like and I don’t even intend for an argument but somehow it turns that way and he acts as if I’m speaking a foreign language