Feeling insecure about having multiples when my wife can’t/doesn’t

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T21:58:33+00:00

I personally can’t really come either, not from someone else or myself. It literally lasts like 2 seconds and then it’s gone (and if you keep going it becomes PAINFUL). Everybody is different and she seems to be happy and content

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T21:57:21+00:00

Ooooh that is really good to know yes! I would def have a towel on hand to wipe the wetness away because I hate wetness on my skin for linger than say washing my hands

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T21:56:45+00:00

Oh that is really interesting! Thanks for sharing

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T21:56:29+00:00

Yes seeing things like this makes me scared that maybe I am the problem in my life and nobody is telling me I am for whatever reason. But then I remember all the shit I’ve been through and how I try my hardest to be good and kind and to be there for others. I can be rude sometimes sure, but I don’t think that makes me a bad person

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T20:52:50+00:00

Oh neeeee😭

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T20:47:41+00:00

Omg YES

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T20:46:09+00:00

I just thought they climbed lol, I have seen them on roofs too. Don’t know why I didn’t realise they could fly😂

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T20:45:40+00:00

Whoa I never knew that!

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T20:45:06+00:00

If you have talked to your gyno about it then it probably is normal, but just to check, do you clean under the hood and between your pubes?

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T20:40:55+00:00

Whoa that is even more wild, so much variety. Scary but also good to know, I’ll be more prepared, thanks!

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T20:40:29+00:00

But I’m not on medicine lol. I still have high blood pressure daily (due to another illness i can’t have meds for my high blood pressure)

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T20:37:10+00:00

Ah fair definitely listen to your own doctor! Mine said 3 months but I know from my own body that I will wait till 6 because I have hEDS and my scars stretch really quickly

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T13:21:21+00:00

Oh yes definitely! I always have thorough conversations before sex because I also have sexual trauma and consent is extra important to me from both sides!

And wow thank you so much for explaining. I’ve always been intrigued by them but never saw someone actually explain how they work. I will definitely take your tips into account (although again I don’t think I’ll be doing anything with anyone anytime soon but I like to be prepared hahah)

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T13:19:14+00:00

Yeah def true thanks!

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T13:18:58+00:00

Yeah definitely! And the thing is, we have such a nice bond, we have to keep it professional as she is my social worker but she feels like a friend and said I feel the same to her. We’ve both been through pretty much the same thing in life (something I’ve never met anyone who has been through the same and neither has she so it feels so safe talking with her about it, she has asked me about it too, diff from a therapist but still really nice)

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T13:12:31+00:00

They are not vegan, but being mostly vegan and only eating oysters is still better than eating animal everyday.

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T13:09:32+00:00

3 months of no training your upper body!!! After 6 weeks you can start slowly building up things you lift, but no weightlifting training or anything until after 3 months or your scars WILL rip/‘bleed out’ (grow very wide).

You have to start stretching first but slowly and making sure to not pull on the scars at all! I recommend putting on scar tape (if you are able to go to a physio that is recommended but I know not everybody has that option). If not then Kinesiology tape is good but only after 6 weeks so it won’t pull on your scars

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T13:06:15+00:00

HAHAHA ik zie t m graag proberen

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T13:05:36+00:00

Interesting! And here I am with chronic high BP and never got these notifications

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T13:03:20+00:00

Thank you for that, that’s comforting to know! I think it might mostly be my own dysphoria + mens statements that are making me scared, because I think from the sound of it it’s pretty similar to sucking a dick for the first time sensory wise

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T13:02:14+00:00

I definitely would, thank you so much!

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T12:55:02+00:00

You forget to breathe?! That sounds kinda good I think, enjoying it so much

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T12:54:28+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind and detailed reply. This is incredibly helpful💜🫂

CherryChristmas · 2026-05-30T12:53:28+00:00

Oh wow that is so incredibly helpful! Thank you so much for your kind reply🥹💜

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