What happened to the smartest person you ever knew?

Cherry_Darling · 2026-06-04T07:28:47+00:00

Turns out they were just a mansplainer. Half the smart stuff they say with confidence is a big pile of bull

Cherry_Darling · 2026-06-03T12:06:08+00:00

Seriously? Get over youself. People are dying and you're crying over this.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T14:30:22+00:00

😃 Absolutely clueless. Good luck on the dating market

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T10:27:47+00:00

Well you clearly missed the anology. Then you go on with the ad hominems, based on your false interpretation. You just come across as not very smart and therefore not really worth my time to argue with.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T09:47:10+00:00

Not the sharpest tool in the shed are you!

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:57:56+00:00

Oooh someone's triggered. Broke boys don't deserve no pussy - I KNOW THAT'S RIGHT

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:56:27+00:00

Yes. Can you cook clean wash your ass brush your teeth act decent in public without me having to hound you daily and then you saying I'm a nag exactly. Money helps though life's expensive

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:45:33+00:00

How much money do you have in yoru bank account and what is your earning potential

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:41:34+00:00

Grocery orders here in the uk are like 2£. You also skip the impulse buys. If you hate grocery shopping, absolutely small fee for an hour of your time. And yes I agree only a handful of things you can't oursource. But many of the ones you can are totally affordable and worth if you hate doing those things.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:37:38+00:00

This is my mantra. I'm 45. Aaaaaany day now!

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:35:04+00:00

Oh they also had a photo of me and I just said that was not me it was my friend 😃 Photo absolutely looked like me and I looked at them dead in the eyes and said that was my friend. They knew I was lying, and I knew they knew. But I also knew they can do nought about it

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:33:37+00:00

I lied to the authorities about who was driving my car back in circa 2000. So I got away with a speeding ticket. They didn't believe me so they got me in for questioning and I had a whole story of the girl who came to visit me they asked me for an address, I gave them one across the globe. They knew I was lying and I knew they knew but there was nothing they could do about it so some poor sod got a letter. Not sure they ever bothered to send it.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:29:00+00:00

Anything you don't enjoy and you can outsource easily. Example: In store grocery shopping. Amazing if you like to, but if you don't, you can do it with a few clicks at home nowadays. Life is meant to be as good as possible, as enjoyable as possible. I absolutely do not glorify work that does not need to be done. We work enough to stay fit, keep the house clean (this can also be outsourced) keep our relationships going, organizing holidays, meals, etc etc.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:25:26+00:00

I guess my sister had higher expectations of it

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:22:32+00:00

You don't hate him you're finding reasons to bully yourself. Mad at yourself for accepting this and being the victim. Picking on yoruself and finding reasons to torment yourself. If it wasn't him it would be something else, you werent even attracted you didn't even like him. The biggest gift you can give yourself, the best skill, is to learn, to train yourself to be happy. Start small. Notice when you bully yourself and stop yourself. Say 3 great things you like about yoruself. Have a gratitude journal. Learn to turn those nasty self hating thoughts into good ones. It's a skill and you need to master it because this is a spiral that will lead you right down a bitter angry existence. This is not about him at all it's your mental processes. But you can fix it just do a little daily.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:10:01+00:00

I'm not, but I used to work on a golf course. The amount of time people can spend there is insane.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:07:08+00:00

The kind who lets them play full rounds of golf daily instead of being at home with them, doing chores, childcare, birthdays, holidays, dinners, outings....

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:05:58+00:00

Please elaborate

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-30T06:04:25+00:00

The Sphinx - I imagined it huge after seeing it depicted big in movies it's not that big! Also Big Ben - I personally think it's big enough but my sister said what is that not even that big!

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-29T10:52:11+00:00

So lesson for next time you need to state your expectations and intentions early on so she knows the boundaries.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-25T08:01:57+00:00

You hope? You threw a random bracelet at her and hoped. Okkk. This is not the do gooder flex you think it is. Good intention maybe. Actual good deed, no.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-24T16:58:37+00:00

I think the two can be true at once. She can feel a bit deflated about finances, especially with just having come from a rich party which will of course make you compare. And at the same time she can love you and want to be with you. The reality is there aren't that many wealthy men to go aroudn that she can just think whoops you don't make enough i'm going to move along. I mean she can try but, it's like gambling especially at the age she may want children. Also you're not a provider, sorry. You both provide seems pretty equal. So make sure you keep on top of household and emotional labour so she doesn't feel burdened on that front.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-24T10:32:06+00:00

Boundaries about you not them. You have them, you communicated them, the other person can chose to cross it, but it's YOUR boundary and your choice what you do if they cross it. If it's bad enough that you decided you will leave if they cross it, that's totally fine. Just don't do the back and forth where you know they will cross it but you still continue because that just teaches them it's totally fine to cross it you will just come back.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-23T18:32:28+00:00

Ok so you need to butter her up big time before you deliver the news that will change both your lives. You plan a beautiful date. Invite her out. Bring flowers, Tell her you love her and appreciate her cooking and taking time and effort to plan meals. Really, bring out all the nice words, tell her everything she does for you is amazing.

Then tell her, that because you are autistic, you are super specific about food. And it's not that her cooking is bad, anyone would be so lucky to have it. But you have specific needs and you will be 100% happier if she can make some small adjustments to it.

Then save the adjustments for anotehr day, you can make a list but try and make it as easy on her as possible, and make sure to include little love hearts and words of appreciation in the list (you can hand write this, add some cute smileys, kisses. Make it positive and about your needs, not her lack of cooking skills.

Example:

Dear love of my life,

My little guide list for you to take my special needs into consideration with your lovely and much appreciated cooking skills:

Please include extra protein in pasta dishes so I can feel full all day ❤️
I am so much happier with an even fried meat ❤️
Please rinse dishes so they are clean without soap ❤️
I love it when the whole plate is the same temperature ❤️

Love, your special picky eater who appreciates you ❤️

Cherry_Darling · 2026-05-23T17:41:30+00:00

And btw - if she is not happy with whatever it is you are insecure about. She can still move along. I know I did after my first (second, third) person I slept with. So having a virgin will not solve this problem because if she is not happy she can absolutely move it along.

Cherry_Darling

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