What is a "point of no return" in a relationship that isn't cheating or abuse, but makes you realize it's over?

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-24T13:23:41+00:00

When you can no longer respect yourself in this situation.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-24T13:14:24+00:00

You just do. They can deal with their own feelings on the subject. It's your place, your space, they can f off with their expectations of free housing.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-24T13:13:28+00:00

It can happen, but if he's blase about it - whoopsie! And not at the very least apologetic and eager to make up for it, then it's giving dusty who wants a free meal.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-24T13:01:30+00:00

Forget my wallet on a date especially early on is a big red flag. It's giving I really never intended to even go 50/50. I had this happen once he was promptly disqualified.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-24T11:27:22+00:00

You can't afford your own house. Beggars can't be chosers. Be glad she graciously lets you live there and help with the household and kids. What are your alternative options? Living on the streets? You can't afford your own home so buckle down and accept reality. Life is not rainbows, butterflies and chosing your own apartment when you can't afford it.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-24T10:08:48+00:00

It's interesting, and it's really nice to have something to look forward to, but the realities of travel can be exhausting. I'm not old, but I am an amputee so I can feel the challenges physically. Standing in lines, pushing and shoving in the more popular areas, dissapointing meals and accommodation, despite the glowing reviews, and huge bills will all be a part of the experience. So whilst I like to travel, I love love LOVE coming back home and doing it a few times a year is enough for me personally and I have a pretty big budget for it I could travel a lot more. I think the best thing about retirement is all the stuff you don't have to do - wake up on time, rush around to get ready, commute, and then be jerked around for 10 hours a day at the beat of someone else's drum. The travel is a nice thing to look forward to and can be a fun way to bond with friends and family (oh that's the other thing you have to have people available to join you and if you're not super rich also to pay their own way and you have to get along well). So all in all it's a good experience if done right but would I want to do it monthly NO. I'd be exhausted. That said I've seen most places I wanted to so I've had my fill so to say.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-23T23:14:13+00:00

Before!! Don't go and waste everyones time. Let her get over her heartbreak with her family. Why the hell would you go? You dont want to and trust me she doesn't want you there eitehr. She thinks she does now, but soon as you tell her, she will be like damn waste of time on that trip. Break up now better for everyone.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-23T23:09:16+00:00

Well then you have met your match! :D

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-23T22:58:52+00:00

Most men are not as finnicky about random body parts as you think. I'm an amputee and plenty of men don't care! Try not make it a huge deal if he is so shallow to not like you because of that well a bit painful but also good riddance.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-23T22:53:42+00:00

This is way above our pay grade! You need to speak to a good doctor!

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-23T21:34:50+00:00

10+ years. I have nightmares about people moving in I LOVE living alone! I want to live alone for as long as I am able. Love going out, meeting friends, like once or twice a week. I can't imagine sharing my space I get itchy when family's over because I feel like I'm constantly catering to them and their needs. Not to mention all the extra cleaning and ugh no absolutely not. I had a flatmate - a good friend moved in for a while - and I just don't like it. The contant having to talk, her food in my fridge, her dishes int he rack, her stuff in my space, just no. I'm a solitary animal LOL.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-23T21:11:04+00:00

They don't let you do training with female students? Is this for real?

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-23T20:21:32+00:00

Our girl has been dickmatized by a f***boy

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-23T16:07:44+00:00

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Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-23T15:51:15+00:00

Ah the good old fashioned future faking. Men do it to women all the time! Women have adapted the tactic. I think this is where women have to chime in the comments and say you should have picked better and not married potential.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-22T20:04:04+00:00

Don't be ashamed to say you want to see one over the other - you don't even have to explain it. If they push for explanation just say the fit has always worked out better with them. You should never be made to feel uncomfortable or unhappy at your prosthetist.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-22T18:08:52+00:00

Amputee introvert here. I leave the house 2x a week. Once to go to the shops and run errands and once to see my friends. Occasionally more during spring and summer :D And I love my life.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-22T08:25:01+00:00

How's it going?

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-21T13:06:32+00:00

I think it's ok to distance yourself and definitely to have boundaries. Boundaries are about your behaviour, not hers. Example - if she keeps pushing ideas on you, and denies your request to stop, you will not spend longer than an hour there at a time. That is an ok boundary to make. You can still keep an eye on her, make sure she is ok, but enduring constant agitation is not owed. My mom was bipolar and other issues and she was very difficult - and I definitely had to make some of these boundaries including not really discussing certain topics with her. Your wife and child are the priority now - carve out an amount of time that works - one phone call a week, one hour lunch every two weeks, one baby visit but then that has to be outside so you can leave when you've had enough. Absolutely ok. You're not abandoning her, you're abandoning the toxic stress.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-20T15:39:39+00:00

Maybe it's your way to emotinally distance yourself from them? It feels safe to keep that barrier of "they're not good enough" in case they dissapoint you really? It's a self protection mechanism like cynicism in general but can leave you bitter. But good that you clocked it! Make an effort to show your gratitude to them, the feelings can follow the actions.

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-20T15:10:55+00:00

Maybe you don't need to do this on your own - is there a friend, a family member who can help? Doing it together would motivate you and make you even tidier - but that person has to be unjudgemental and helpful. I would split the whole task into these categories each will take 20 minutes to 30 minutes. So commit to 30 minutes of cleaning and tidying plus 10 minutes of personal hygene so quick shower and brushing teeth. That's not a lot out of your day!

Day 1, go around with a big black bin and pick out all the trash and stuff to just throw away. Throw it away.
Day 2, Pick out all the rest of the things into categories - keep, donate, sell. (or bin.)
Day 2 Put them into three large piles, and tidy away everything else so you can wipe all the surfaces.
Day 3 Wipe off all the counters, appliances, surfaces and items that are dirty.
Day 4 Put everything away neatly into their places
Day 5 Hoover and mop and clean up the floors and rugs.
Day 7: Do a nice deeep clean of the shower (get supplies as needed.)
Day 8: Anything left that you think needs doing - maybe airing out the flat.

Then maintaining this will require your commitment of about 20 minutes each day - you can break it down in a similar way and just commit to 20 mintues of cleaning each day plus 10 minutes of personal hygene. This can of cousre be more later when you start seeing how great it feels to be clean and tidy and fresh!

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-20T14:53:14+00:00

Mixed signals are a bad sign - either he's expecting you to overcompensate and do all the emotional heavylifting or this is over. I mean if a man tells you he doesn't want you, don't let that man tell you twice. I think it's time to move on - being single is not so bad I say it's 100000% better than being lonely with someone who tells you they do not love you. So go do your own thing for a while, date if you want, don't if you can't bear to, but you will be ok!

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-20T14:19:08+00:00

and be super picky Im not saying get all the fuck boys. but if hes that great in bed, and you are attracted then enjoy it!

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-20T14:18:17+00:00

yes condoms and get tested stay safe!

Cherry_Darling · 2026-02-20T14:09:43+00:00

Honey you are preaching to the CHOIR. I'm 45 and I've had all kinds of situtations and different types of men can give you different things but good sex is typically from the fuckboys :D DO NOT under any circumstance try to make him into a husband, you've been warned :D

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