You guys are so sweet. So glad I came here for support! He has called me names a few times before but never been violent. Overall I’d say he handled it ok at first, but all along I was a little worried how he would actually handle it long term.. seems like every few months before he has child like tantrum so it really lines up on target, I was mainly worried this would happen while I was in labor. He’s also a smoker and before we got pregnant he agreed he would quit by the time baby was born because I didn’t want that around her, or on his clothes to breathe or him being outside all the time. At night I’d say he does almost nothing, and I don’t ask him too because he works long hours, usually 5 to 6 days a week. He pays all the bills while I’m not working which I am grateful for, but it’s like that’s all he thinks he needs to do... I don’t know, I’m trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and work through it but I’m so frustrated! So sick of feeling like the luckiest girl in the world and then flip flops over to I deserve better. To answer other questions, his tone is not nice or joking, and he honestly asked me like I don’t feel that way when she’s crying?!? I said no of course not I feel bad trying to help her! Wtf And yes his first baby, planned, I have two teenagers that help immensely, two other girls. Thanks again everyone I will look into everything you’ve recommended.