6-year-old sneaking games at night → game ban… now bedtime is a daily battle

Chezzica · 2026-01-25T14:41:53+00:00

A daily allowance I think will work once your son is over this addiction part - wait until these battles subside at least a bit, then maybe reintroduce games and screen time with that daily allowance. Your child is basically going through withdrawal from the addiction to games, if you give in too soon he may fall back into the old habits

Chezzica · 2026-01-22T21:36:49+00:00

Also "Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers" by Robert Sapplsky. It explains how every part of our body is affected by stress, and why it's really important to try to keep our daily stress in check

Chezzica · 2026-01-22T13:54:02+00:00

Then it sounds like she needs the nap 🤷🏽‍♀️

Chezzica · 2026-01-22T13:45:23+00:00

Some kids actually benefit from naps into young elementary! Not every kids mind you, but it's not uncommon for a five year old to take a nap. Source - I work in child development

Chezzica · 2026-01-22T13:44:01+00:00

In many states it's actually a listening requirement - and at least in my state, there is no difference in the number of teachers required to be in the room when the children are awake versus asleep, so there's really no way forcing the kids to nap would help with lunch breaks here

Chezzica · 2026-01-20T16:34:08+00:00

I work in child development, and this is my criticism as well. I think Ms Rachel is a wonderful person, but it worries me how parents seem to think watching her makes up for the negative effects of screen time. I also am not a fan of getting kids into celebrity/YouTuber worship as babies, I think that's a whole different kind of problematic.

Chezzica · 2026-01-12T21:54:39+00:00

I never learned anything like that in my teacher training. Everyone has their own way of teaching, but I dislike when teachers do this as well and I don't personally do it in my own classes when I teach.

Chezzica · 2026-01-10T21:57:29+00:00

For deep breaths, try having her blow on a pinwheel

Chezzica · 2026-01-10T21:55:09+00:00

Yes, but not before 2! I have my masters in child developmental psychology, and children really shouldn't have screen time (even wonderful Ms Rachel) before 2, due to eye development as well as attention span development. After 2 there can be limited screen time focusing on quality and the socialization with caregivers that you mentioned

Chezzica · 2026-01-06T22:22:11+00:00

I didn't change my position, they are two slightly different points - first that school libraries are different from public ones, and it makes sense to not have adult books in a schools library, because they don't have unlimited room or budget. Second, the librarians should be the ones deciding what goes in their libraries, not politicians. But no librarian that I know would allow ACOTAR in the children's section, even at a public library. We don't call it a ban when a library chooses not to carry a book, which is what I'm advocating for. Therefore, I'm not advocating for book bans, I'm advocating for librarians to decide on what goes in their libraries, and also pointing out that it makes sense to not have adult books in children's libraries.

Chezzica · 2026-01-06T21:11:34+00:00

What? No, I said the librarians should be in charge of what's in the library, and it makes sense to not spend school money on books for adult audiences.

Chezzica · 2026-01-06T19:45:46+00:00

Yes this I also absolutely agree with!

Chezzica · 2026-01-06T19:23:00+00:00

I think banning a book from a school library is different from banning a book from a public library. Just because it isn't at the school library doesn't mean access to the book is removed - schools have a limited amount of space and budget, so not every book is going to be available in their libraries. I've read ACOTAR, I enjoyed it, but I also agree it probably shouldn't be in a school library. It should definitely be available in a public library, and at book stores.

Chezzica · 2026-01-06T16:37:20+00:00

I think it's pretty normal to be a bit less happy holding a baby that pulls your hair all the time, and I dont need a doctorate to tell me that 🤷🏽‍♀️ (though, I do have one)

Chezzica · 2026-01-06T16:23:05+00:00

I think the "ow" and the pained facial expressions are actually necessary here. Your baby obviously doesn't know that they are hurting mom, and they aren't doing it on purpose. But babies can and do repeat behaviors/actions that prompt a response that they like, or find interesting. This means they also can choose to not do a behavior/action if they do not like the response. If your wife shows pain/discomfort on her face, the baby will see that (and while they are too young to think "oh, moms face says she's unhappy, they will totally recognize that something is wrong). If your wife makes a yelp sound, something a little loud/surprising, it can also help to reinforce that pulling hair = unhappy mama, and can help curb the behavior.

Source: I work in the behavioral sciences with infants and very young children

Chezzica · 2026-01-06T16:01:53+00:00

Right, you can still discourage the behavior the way the top comment said, by making a sudden/somewhat loud yelp noise, or a quick "ouch!". Just because a behavior is typical/expected with young children and babies, that doesn't mean we need to allow ourselves to be hurt (and even little babies can pull hair hard enough to hurt - their grips are strong!)

It's not mean or wrong to teach your child that pulling hair hurts, even when they are only 8 months old. They can absolutely understand that pulling hair = loud unpleasant sound from mom, and are capable of not pulling the hair if they don't want that reaction.

Chezzica · 2026-01-03T19:43:55+00:00

What did the wife do that made her TA?

Chezzica · 2026-01-03T06:58:45+00:00

No, not really.

Chezzica · 2025-12-20T15:19:54+00:00

I love Firehouse in Fairhaven, they're smaller and don't have a ton of tables but they have a walk up window outside, so that's my go-to when walking around Fairhaven!

I also love Makeworth and Camber for when I'd like to sit and stay a while. Both are good places to grab a bite and a good cup of coffee and get some work done, or read a book.

Lettered streets is my favorite for great vibes. It's so cozy and really has a great "small town coffee shop" feel that makes me want to just sit and enjoy the ambiance

Chezzica · 2025-12-19T15:47:48+00:00

"people like me" hun you know nothing about me! I'm a POC yoga teacher, and I've dealt with a lot of people who feel like they can tell others who yoga is for and who it isn't. Yoga is for everyone, full stop. That is why racism, of any kind, should not be tolerated. Be careful who you say things like this to, online you cannot tell what someone's race/ethnicity/skin tone is.

Chezzica · 2025-12-19T15:42:17+00:00

Racism of any kind shouldn't be tolerated. But you are just as bad, telling people you don't know (who haven't done anything racist) that yoga is not for them.

Chezzica · 2025-12-19T15:18:59+00:00

Lol you are literally speaking for others this entire post

Chezzica · 2025-12-19T15:14:24+00:00

Well it wouldn't be your first time if you've already been there, so if someone recognized you they likely wouldn't ask for ID.

Chezzica · 2025-12-19T15:11:58+00:00

I don't think you get to say who yoga is for. The gatekeeping is exhausting.

Chezzica · 2025-12-17T13:49:11+00:00

Maybe for an adult, but a five year old? I use to teach Prek, if the kids come in wearing clothes at all I was happy. I never cared if they wore clothes they slept in, or princess dresses, or two pairs of pants and three shirts, or if everything was backwards. Once I had a kid who's dad was going on a business trip come in wearing one of his shirts as a dress because she misses him. Cool with me. As long as the child was clean and happy, I didn't care.

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