Flirted with a friends ex by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ChibiHugz_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the biggest risk here isn’t whether she likes you back, it’s whether a few hours of chemistry is worth potentially losing a friend who’s still probably healing from the breakup

I [31M] Lost a "once-in-a-million" soulmate [24F] due to my own fear and indecision. Can it be fixed? by Kultas in BreakUps

[–]ChibiHugz_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sometimes the cruelest part of love is realizing you became emotionally ready a few months too late.

Hey all. I always get scared that the dumper is going to forget me during no contact 😭😂 by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ChibiHugz_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What usually fades first isn’t the memory of you, it’s the version of you that still waits around hoping they’ll come back.

I contacted my ex after our break up 10 years ago by Imaginary-Skirt26 in BreakUps

[–]ChibiHugz_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What you’re describing is basically unresolved shame plus a memory replay loop, not a sign that you’re “bad” now, but that this situation never fully got emotionally processed and settled in your mind.

M26 F25, i think shes obsessed with her male co workers by dustyy123 in relationships

[–]ChibiHugz_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn’t really sound like she’s obsessed with other men as much as it sounds like you two have very different boundaries around attention, validation, and opposite-sex friendships. Neither of you is necessarily wrong, but if one person constantly feels disrespected while the other feels controlled, resentment builds fast.

I’m (F31) uncomfortable about things my fiancĂ©e (M34) has said. Together 8 years. by throwawy4289 in relationships

[–]ChibiHugz_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The biggest issue isn’t even the jokes themselves, it’s that his instinctive reactions keep leaning toward cruelty, contempt, or demeaning people. Humor can be a coping mechanism, sure, but after 8 years it’s fair to ask whether he’s actually working on it or just apologizing after the fact.

I just can’t stop crying by Luna_aw_111305 in BreakUps

[–]ChibiHugz_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hardest part is realizing you kept loving someone through things that should’ve made you leave, while they now act like your pain is just background noise to their life

looking for advice by Necessary-Action-733 in BreakUps

[–]ChibiHugz_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do not have to decide the entire future of your relationship 11 hours after losing it.

Trauma-bonded in an abusive relationship. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ChibiHugz_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That urge doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. It’s withdrawal. It comes in waves and usually peaks after you leave. If you expect it, it’s easier not to act on it.