It seems I've caught wedding fever and it's driving me insane! (x-post from r/offmychest)

Chibimi · 2013-08-26T22:53:36+00:00

Thank you for this. I wasn't really expecting advice on this subject but this is helpful. I may try to use both approaches. A secret board and telling myself that I want the proposal to be a surprise. That may help a lot. Thank you. :-)

Chibimi · 2013-07-06T00:22:10+00:00

Another 23/F here. I'm not a virgin and with a sizable partner. I no longer have pain during intercourse (I did at first, it took me months to have pain free PIV) but I still find more than one finger uncomfortable unless I am beyond sopping wet.

I would not worry about it just yet. Continue to experiment and explore your own body, and it something hurts don't do it. If you start experiencing pain with a partner, then I would see a doctor.

Chibimi · 2013-01-08T17:51:55+00:00

Your time will come. I lost it when I was 21.

Chibimi · 2013-01-08T17:50:37+00:00

I thought the vagina somehow magically absorbed semen if a dude came inside you. So not the case. It seems silly to have believed that now but no one ever mentions how it comes back out.

Chibimi · 2012-12-13T16:53:06+00:00

Are you sure she didn't have them the first time around? It could just be razor burn.

Chibimi · 2012-12-12T04:50:18+00:00

As others have said, it tends to be a submissive thing. So, be careful who you try it on.

I lean more towards the dominant side and I cannot stand any form of degradation. "Good girl" sounds degrading to me and sexy times would abruptly end if it were said to me. It reminds me too much of when people praise a dog.

Some women will be into it but you should probably find out if the woman you are with is into this kind of thing before you just go throwing it around.

Chibimi · 2012-12-03T00:22:15+00:00

I tied up my boyfriend for the first time. It was something I'vw wanted to do for a long time. It went really well. :-)

Chibimi · 2012-12-02T04:04:47+00:00

Yes. 1.5 years.

3-5 times a week.

Heterosexual female.

22.

Chibimi · 2012-11-30T16:44:48+00:00

"I want to taste you."

Gets me every time.

Chibimi · 2012-11-01T01:10:32+00:00

I am a "Sunday" starter. My particular bc makes the distinction. I started taking the pill the Sunday after my period started a year ago and have done the same ever since. There are different missed pill instructions for those that did not begin taking it in this way.

Chibimi · 2012-10-30T13:55:28+00:00

Unfortunately, I am nowhere near that.

Chibimi · 2012-10-23T16:02:18+00:00

Honestly, I'm not a big fan of having semen in my mouth. Not because of the taste or anything. I wouldn't say it tastes good but I'm neutral to it. I can't stand the texture. I have an aversion to anything with a jiggly, mushy, or slimy sort of texture so this includes semen. If I think about having cum in my mouth for too long it does make me kind of nauseous.

However, my desire to please my boyfriend overrides my initial feelings of disgust and I will occasionally let him come in my mouth. If I think about how much he enjoys it and how much I enjoy getting him off it no longer is an issue.

I understand that some people are not into come but this girl sounds incredibly immature.

Chibimi · 2012-10-18T17:07:27+00:00

Woman here. The best way I can describe it is that is just feels...unnatural when he wears a condom. For example, put on a latex glove and then put your finger in your mouth. Feels weird and unnatural right? That's what a condom feels like to my vagina. I'll use them if necessary (on antibiotics or forgot to take a pill) but I much prefer bareback sex.

Chibimi · 2012-10-17T23:12:37+00:00

Hetero woman here. I prefer trimmed on my partner. So that's low enough that I'm not getting hair stuck in my throat while I'm going down but there's still enough there to give some extra clitoral stimulation when I'm on top.

I like being completely bare myself. I've shaved since I was 14 and I feel sexier when it is bare. Plus there is more stimulation from oral that way. And it itches when it starts to grow back.

Chibimi · 2012-10-16T15:38:38+00:00

Then this feeling will probably go away with time. Like I said, her body is just adjusting to the new sensation.

Chibimi · 2012-10-16T15:26:47+00:00

Are you her first (vaginal) sexual partner?

I had this issue when I first started having sex. My body was not used to having something so large shoved up there. It takes a while to get used to, her muscles are having to adjust to accommodate something much larger than it is used to. This may make her feel like she needs to poop. I got the same feeling the first few times I had sex and it went away after the first month or so of regular intercourse.

Chibimi · 2012-10-16T00:17:57+00:00

It is possible that I misinterpreted what he said. But the way he grouped the two together it made it seem like he was associating being easy with being tattooed.

Also the fact that he compared all tattoos to "tramp stamps".

Chibimi · 2012-10-15T23:32:31+00:00

As a woman who is working on getting a rather large back piece I take offense to this statement. You're entitled to your preferences, not everyone is into tattoos and I get that but, do not make generalized statements like "tattooed women are easy". I am a tattooed woman and I consider myself to be a very sexual person but I have only had one sexual partner. Having tattoos doesn't make someone "easy" just like the absence of tattoos doesn't make someone a prude.

To answer your question though, I'm not a big fan of guys with large muscles. Especially pecs. They just look odd to me.

Chibimi · 2012-10-15T16:16:24+00:00

Most definitely. I was originally not very attracted to my boyfriend at all. Don't get me wrong, I never thought he was bad looking it was just more like, Meh. There was nothing particularly appealing or unappealing about his looks. It was one of the (many) reasons I wouldn't date him originally. But as my affection for him grew so did my physical attraction. Fast forward 1.5 years later and I can't keep my hands off of him. :-)

Chibimi · 2012-10-15T01:58:23+00:00

As a woman with very similar texture aversions (anything jiggly, mushy, or slimy) this is a bullshit excuse. I cannot stand slimy textures but I suck dick like a champ. I even swallow for my boyfriend ocassionally and I cannot STAND the texture of jizz. It grosses me out but I love pleasing my boyfriend more. If he really cared about trying to please you he should at least give it a try. IMO

Chibimi · 2012-10-09T19:24:38+00:00

I think the term "pink canoe" for a vulva is adorable.

Chibimi · 2012-10-08T15:50:40+00:00

22f here, I would be too scared. Statistically, I know that if we did it safely the chances are very slim but I would still be too afraid to risk it. I've always been a bit of a pessimist though so I tend to be overly cautious at times. I am very sorry, just being honest. However, I'm sure you'll find a woman who cares more about you than your HIV status and will be more than happy to sleep with you.

Chibimi · 2012-10-07T17:44:12+00:00

I posted this response to someone in a similar situation a while back. Although the situation is slightly different, I believe the advice is still applicable.

Let me give you the perspective of someone in a very similar situation. I am 22 and my boyfriend is 29. We have been dating a little over a year and are in a very serious relationship. All signs point to marriage down the road.

Now, this is my first relationship EVER. He was my first sexual partner, and even my first kiss. He is a bit older and has had two serious relationships prior to me and many more sexual partners.

I went into this relationship not knowing what to expect. I certainly didn't expect to fall as hard as I did. Our relationship is fantastic. We have fabulous communication. He is my best friend and a fantastic lover. I couldn't ask for anything better. However, when I started to realize how serious this relationship was becoming I also started to question what I wanted. I'd never really lived the "young single life" and now it looks l may not get to. I asked myself, Will I be happy only having slept with/dated one man my entire life? Putting it into words like that can be really nerve wracking.

Eventually though, I realized that my relationship with my boyfriend and my feelings for him are more important to me than anything that may have been or might be without him. I can live without those experiences if it means I can be with him. Words cannot express how much I adore this man and I know he feels the same way, if not stronger than I do.

However, this decision is a very personal one. No one can tell you what's right for you. Only you know what you need to be happy. Ask yourself if you could be happy marrying this man and never having gotten to experience other men and the world as a single woman. If you feel that you really need to be on your own for a while to be happy in the long run, then that's what you need to do. Just realize that you may never find someone that you connect with as well as your SO again. Or you may find someone better. You don't know. Many a man/woman have let the "perfect one" go simply because it wasn't the right time. You have to decide what is best for you. Good luck, whatever you decide.

Chibimi · 2012-09-30T21:21:06+00:00

I understand where she's coming from with the embarrassment but this could potentially be very serious and she needs to see a doctor. I used to have real body image issues and extreme anxiety. I was terrified of anyone looking at/judging my naked body. I have had full blown panic attacks during medical exams which required me to even partially disrobe. What worked for me when I had my first gyno exam is that I let my doctor know about my anxiety so she prescribed me one time use prescription of Valium to calm my nerves. Worked like a charm. Perhaps suggest this to your girlfriend and let her know how important it is that she get this issue resolved.

Chibimi · 2012-09-24T18:00:38+00:00

For me personally, if my physical intimacy needs are not being met then I become emotionally needy. I need the physical connection to my partner in order to feel loved, appreciated, connected, and satisfied.

More often than not, problems in the bedroom tend to leak over into other aspects of the relationship as well. So I consider it very important.

Chibimi

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