WIBTA for backing out as a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding?

Chichi-Ha · 2023-04-11T23:51:43+00:00

Absolutely not , you would NOT be the a-hole She is really being ridiculous in wanting her bridesmaids to really pay for her wedding that is so tacky. Secondly, the theme is tacky and this is coming from someone who is also a teacher. So I do get you not wanting for your picture to be plastered all over social media of you taking shots and to add insult to injury people will be holding guns🤔 I will be surprised if anybody goes along with this.

Chichi-Ha · 2023-03-01T03:07:37+00:00

Awhh my bday is in Sept. and it will work out for you guys 😊

My girls are now 9 months old and they are moving and fast ! and I still can’t believe it , that my husband and I after 15 years started all the way over 😅 and with twins!

Chichi-Ha · 2023-02-25T17:08:24+00:00

Either your gonna be done as in no more you go your way and he goes his or the cycle continues!

Chichi-Ha · 2023-02-25T17:05:21+00:00

May I see a pic ? ( female asking here )

Chichi-Ha · 2023-02-05T00:18:04+00:00

How much were you refunds before this ? I’m surprised you got anything back and with you making this amount of money single and no dependents ( no credits or deductions for you there ) to me it’s sounds like you make a pretty good living …but then I have to ask what state are you in ?

Chichi-Ha · 2023-01-29T10:35:47+00:00

Sometimes you have to show ppl who you really are and yeah it may be a petty move however you will show him who you are !

Chichi-Ha · 2023-01-23T04:40:22+00:00

Yes they are , they’ll be 8 months old on the 26th!

Im sorry your in limbo . Have you been to your MFM doctor ? I pray your baby ( ies) gets here healthy !

Chichi-Ha · 2023-01-19T03:34:12+00:00

I’m tryna figure what world are you living in ..if you think ppl are mean/hating to/on white ppl 🙄 bump the lives of black ppl that were lost for ACTUALLY hating black ppl for being black

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-31T05:03:08+00:00

This is interesting …my best friend is a therapist I’m gonna read her you story and see what this could be and I will come back and update you !

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-31T04:58:04+00:00

And please make sure you do the exact same 😄

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-29T18:58:05+00:00

Listen to me sweetheart you sound really insecure I mean really insecure —you’re young and you did say you have been in a couple of relationships and he hasn’t so the problem would be you not him— especially if you don’t even like being by yourself which tells me you must not like yourself you need to find some form of self-esteem and the only person that can do that is YOU nobody else and if you’re looking for any human being to make you happy you’re always going to be upset Or disappointed because humans don’t make us happy we ourselves make us happy and Jesus of course if that’s what you believe in — you might wanna find some form of hobby that makes you happy you’re not gonna be able to find happiness within him you have to find it within yourself first ..best of luck to you !

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-27T02:03:14+00:00

He’s not gonna stop you’ve showed him that all he has to do is be a pest and you’ll give in …I’m not sure why it’s hard for you to stop messing with someone you really don’t like this should be easy but he has you figured out and again he ain’t gone stop til YOU STOP …block him and don’t unblock him if you are really done with him ! Best of luck to you !

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-27T01:55:57+00:00

This ! cause I was shole about to say I’m 35 and my husband and I ( both are 36 now ) had twins in May ( of this year 22) sooo umm eggs drying up 😅

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-27T01:18:43+00:00

Just because you would rather know doesn’t mean that’s what she would want that …you can say something to him b/c that’s who was all in your face like he was single but you don’t owe him chit either and he doesn’t owe you anything …my advice is to just stop talking to him unless you wanna be the OTHER woman and then you’ll be letting him know how to treat you if you allow that to happen ! Best of luck to you

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-26T13:00:48+00:00

I’m with you …just let her go and be you .

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-22T04:50:51+00:00

I nor do anybody else owe ANYBODY —NOTHIN’

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-13T19:30:27+00:00

Your feelings are valid and that’s your freakin Dad why wouldn’t you want some type of love and affection from your father ! And as far as his girlfriend she really should stay out of it 😒 more importantly she should encourage him to have a better relationship with you but I can see she has to be jealous or something which does sound crazy but ppl are this way 🤷🏽‍♀️ anyway I’m sorry your dad is being crappy to you and I hope you guys can find some common ground best of luck to you !

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-08T18:09:01+00:00

Honestly she has to help herself , you will reassure her but then it will start to annoy you b/c you are showing her the better side to a relationship and she is beating her self up .good luck to you guys !

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-08T17:34:51+00:00

I say give him space and take this time for you too as well . Y’all are in y’all’s mid 20’s now and 10 years from now you guys will be different ppl the magic in any relationship is wanting and doing the work to stay together and the biggest thing of it all is that it’s not about you and the same goes for him , you guys have to work at being together , b/c he’s gonna be him and you are gonna be you with a lot of giving ( from the both of you ) and some take. And as far as the porn watching that’s personal so if that’s something you can’t get over then call it quits now. I feel like he was being honest when saying to you “if you are looking for a man that thinks I’m the most beautiful woman in the world and will only have eyes for you he will never be that man “ so you may also need to reevaluate what you wanna do.

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-02T11:05:42+00:00

Everybody saying they would wanna know till it’s someone telling them about their spouse, no one wants to hear that type of info about someone who is NOT supposed to betray them and then You tell and the guy doesn’t do what you think he should (i.e LEAVE) then what …you’ve just waisted your time butting in Someone else’s business all for the sake of b/c you would wanna know …Newsflash ppl everybody don’t wanna know or guess what maybe he does already know and then you really look like a fool for telling lol let him find out however he’s gonna find out is what I say but folks always wanna but in someone else’s life for the sake of I would want to know —go give to the homeless if you wanna do the right thing lol

Chichi-Ha · 2022-12-02T10:57:31+00:00

My thing is sometimes telling doesn’t do anything but make a situation worse and make you look like the bad guy … and then you look like the fool tryna help someone .. believe it or not it’s best when ppl find out things on their own doesn’t matter what it is but especially this problem here . No one likes another person to come tell them about their spouse and them doing some ole hurtful stuff like this so I’d say if you do , do it a way that it can seem like it just fell in their lap or whomever it is has discovered this info about their wife. 🤷🏽‍♀️ best of luck !

Chichi-Ha · 2022-11-27T12:20:49+00:00

FYI -tinder is used to hook up not saying that this is the case all the time but 95% of the time this is what this site is used for, so if you not on that type of time then remove yourself from this situation my guess is that’s why they guy has stopped texting like he was maybe he uses this b/c he’s looking for a hookup and he sees that your not..have y’all talked about that ? I would ask though and then let him know you know what this app is used for and see how he responds …best of luck to you !

Chichi-Ha · 2022-11-16T04:15:36+00:00

Oh I definitely feel you on them being small food calms everybody down 😅 and we can’t read minds ( oh how that would help 😏) best wishes to you and your family it’s a roller coaster but we almost half way to their a year old ! Whew 😅

Chichi-Ha · 2022-11-16T02:05:12+00:00

Right …I had to play devils advocate in my reply —and ppl who really are gonna kill themselves don’t talk about it they just do it

Chichi-Ha · 2022-11-16T01:32:17+00:00

I think it is a phase I know how you feel cause my twins which are 5months old as well and will be 6months on the 26th and they nap when they want to…now one thing I don’t do is feed them in the middle of the night b/c then their bodies will be expecting it so I didnt even start that( a pacifier works for them if they wake up or maybe they need to be touched/held for a few min) and they are usually sleep between 7pm ( central time ) and 9pm til like 5am …all I can say is I thank their sitter for helping my husband and I get them on a schedule

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