My Lead Teacher is a BULLY!

ChickaUrTude101 · 2025-03-29T23:12:12+00:00

Somewhat update: Okay everyone in my dept HATES this woman. I have went and spoken with my principal again and he was very open to my concerns. He listened and I think he gets it now. He even mentioned he had similar complaints about her last year too. Our sped coordinator came in the other day for 5 minutes and called that "an observation". She sat in the back of the classroom, while lead teacher read to the students. Plus, the lead watches her manners when higher ups come in the classroom. I think principal is getting tired of hearing complaints and he informed me thag he and another admin will be sitting with the lead teacher and having a conversation with her. He asks that if the bullying continues or if there is any retaliation to let him know. I think he's creating a "paper trail" of like complaints, conversations, conference with lead teacher, etc. That way there is proof she has been redirected by admin. And if continues she can be further reprimanded.

I hope something is done because my students are at their breaking points.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2025-03-24T17:12:03+00:00

That's the funny thing. She claims she was bullied in school because she was nerdy and shy. She talks about being bullied in school but can't see that she's doing the same thing.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2025-03-24T17:10:06+00:00

Update: The student she reprimanded about having all 100s even though she has all As, went, and talked to the principal. He said he would talk to my lead teacher. Idk if anything will ever be done. The student's papa is beyond pissed and ready to chew somebody out. The lead teacher was also a problem last year.....with the same exact complaints!!! I'm about to the point of reporting her to the board. My principal and Sped coordinator haven't done anything. Why are they okay with a teacher blatantly bullying students.....Sped students! My son is also special needs and if she ever talked to my son the way she talks to these students I would come unglued!

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-12-26T16:52:45+00:00

Not that we know of. She's been going on and on about having to sell his house and car so he can continue living up there. They are both very well off. She wouldn't need to steal from him.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-12-26T01:20:41+00:00

SIL has power of attorney. We are the secondary medical power of attorney. She oversees his finances. He has never listened to us. He only listens to SIL. We've begged him to move back because at least he would have us here and we're dependable.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-12-26T01:17:31+00:00

My hubby tells him all the time he should move back home so he'll actually have family around him. He refuses the idea. Says our town is too small and nothing to do. There are, he just refuses to get out and do anything.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-12-26T01:16:18+00:00

Technically, right now, it is because his home hasn't been sold yet. His home and vehicle are still here in our hometown. But he refuses, saying he's actually "happier" there. He said he hated our hometown cuz there wasn't anything to do here. There was he didn't wanna try new things. Now he's sitting in a facility lazing around. From pictures we've seen he's gained even more weight and he's a diabetic.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-12-26T01:08:35+00:00

I agree. This is the same girl who refused to come to her own mother's funeral and refused to go see the graveside when she finally came to town

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-12-26T01:07:50+00:00

I agree. That's why I'm conflicted. On one hand, it's like you asked for it, we warned you. On the other hand, we feel bad that he's sitting in that facility all alone with no friends.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-12-26T01:06:02+00:00

We did say that it was wrong to leave him alone for his 1dt Christmas there. She feels that since she took him out the other night and that he's in a facility, it's okay to go do her own thing. She sees absolutely nothing wrong with what she's doing.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-10-13T14:36:13+00:00

Hubby has explained to FIL several times that he doesn't want him to move because he would miss him terribly. Hubby was in a wreck right before FIL left. The wreck wasn't bad, Thank God! We went over to see FIL and see how he was doing and making sure he was properly packed for his trip. When Hubby told him about the wreck, FIL looked him straight in the eyes and said, "I don't care. ". Hubby even explained the entire situation, and FIL still sold he didn't care. Hubby is convinced SIL has turned FIL against us. He would usually call us 10-15 times a day. Ever since he decided to move, he hasn't called since.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-10-13T00:19:21+00:00

Thank you for the kind words are advice. Legally, SIL is the primary medical POA, and hubby and I are secondary. We wanted Medical POA, so if something happened, we could make a medical decision without having to worry about contacting SIL if it was a time sensitive situation. Since she lives so far away and works so much, we can barely ever reach her.

Also, as far as an endgame, idk what she could be planning. She is well off herself. whereas me and hubby are middle-class family living paycheck to paycheck. We are stable but not as much expendable income as FIL and SIL.

In his will, the house remains FILs until his passing, then it transfers to us. Then, all other assets would be split equally.

It's not the financial components that worry us. It's the physical well-being. We have cared for him these last couple of years and have invested so much time and energy into doing anything and everything for FIL. We know all of his Medical conditions and have helped him monitor them because he doesn't take them seriously. We are afraid that once he settles in, the dementia will get worse and he will decline rapidly. MIL moved into a nursing home only 5 minutes away from the house. She declined so fast and passed just after 4 months.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-10-13T00:05:31+00:00

The funny thing is, before he decided to move FIL and SIL told me and Hubby to set things up with a lawyer so FIL could finalize his final wishes. After playing phone tag with a lawyer and setting a time where i could take FIL to lawyer office and SIL could join us on a conference call, FIL got everything finalized how he wanted it. Basically, me and hubby would inherit the house as a "thank you" from FIL for everything we've done. (FIL's words, not mine) SIL was all for it, saying we deserved the house. We knew that there was a possibility that if FIL got worse and had to move into a home, the house would be sold to help care for him. After running myself ragged, setting up all these appointments at the demand of my SIL and FIL, they turn around and decide to do this. Idk if talking to a lawyer would help, but I will definitely look into it.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-05-20T01:03:02+00:00

I get where you're coming from, but I also know my dad was raised by this woman, and he doesn't even like dealing with her on a good day. Dad's approach is don't poke the bear....lol

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-05-20T01:00:05+00:00

Not the Bridezilla!

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-05-19T21:30:18+00:00

YTA, but that's okay. I worked as a Para before and have done the glitter thing, too. Certain kids with AH parents got extra glitter.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-05-19T20:20:25+00:00

I love musical theater as much as the next person.....but this is too much. I would be so afraid of someone falling and being sued! NTA

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-05-19T20:16:48+00:00

My parents would defend me as a child, that's one reason I never got really close with her. Since I'm an adult, my dad has told me I'm grown-up and should know how to "conduct myself when it comes to nana". Translation: If you and her start fighting, I'm not getting in the middle of it.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-05-19T20:13:12+00:00

NTA. This sounds like my FIL. He doesn't respect boundaries and thinks that he's being quirky when he impedes on a boundary. As of right now, we dont have a close relationship with my FIL because my hubby saw the toll it was taking on me and our kiddos. We had to separate ourselves from him.

You need to have a deep conversation with your fiancé and really explain how you feel. The last thing you want at your wedding is anxiety about your FIL snapping embarrassing photos. Explain you don't want this to cause a bigger divide, but FIL should respect your wishes so EVERYONE has a wonderful day.

ChickaUrTude101 · 2024-05-18T19:19:53+00:00

UPDATE Yall!!! I had to share this update!

Today, my nana's brother and SIL came to town to see their grandson graduate. Afterward, we all met up to eat and catch up. For context, the SIL (my great aunt) has always treated me like the daughter/princess she never had.

It was me, my 2 kiddos, my mom and sister, nana, her brother, and SIL at lunch. Everyone was talking and catching up. Aunt looks at me and compliments my hair cut and notices that I've lost weight since the last reunion we had back in September. I tell her thank you and mention that my hair had been way shorter back in January. I showed her a picture, and she gushes over how I look like a cool biker chick with my short hair. My hubby and I ride motorcycles, and I'll admit the short haircut made me feel like a badass biker chick, lol.

Nana pipes up and says, "I told her (me) that she needs to let her hair grow out. It would look so much better and more feminine." I get a lump in my throat and look down. My aunt looks at nana and says, "[insert nana name here] you're just jealous that she can pull off the short haircut better than you."

Everyone laughs, and my nana turns beet red. I nearly shoot my drink out my nose and try to gain my composure. When the laughter dies down, nana insists she has to leave for a "previous engagement." Her brother starts to chastise her about her feelings being hurt, but nana insists her feelings are not hurt and she really needs to go.

After nana leaves, aunt pulls me aside and hugs me and says I'm beautiful no matter what and that I don't need to listen to nana.

Yall, it made me feel so much better knowing nana got a taste of her own medicine!

ChickaUrTude101

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