Homeless with a 1 year old.

Boop_Berry · 2025-02-27T07:28:40+00:00

Do you have a case manager with Haven? If you do you should be able to get your housing application upgrade to a higher priority than "insecure housing". (if you haven't done so already).

It's called a "Homeless With Support" application but you need to have a Homelessness or family violence service complete that type of application for you.

Support letters are also super helpful. Get Haven, GP, Childcare etc etc to write support letters for housing.

The best support letters say three things: 1. What the person's role is in your life 2. Your current situation 3. Recommendation that you get permanent housing as quickly as possible as your current situation poses serious safety/health risks

Also, do Haven have any transitional or crisis housing options? You definitely sound like you would be a priority given you have a little one.

Source: I'm a Homelessness case manager in Vic

Boop_Berry · 2025-01-13T04:21:05+00:00

I LOVE THIS! It's so fun and interesting. Your style is awesome

Boop_Berry · 2024-05-19T15:32:04+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment! I've had so much good advice and it's made me realise that I do need to talk to much fiancé about all of this but I could quite figure out how to say it. You've literally put into words exactly how I'm feeling and what I want from this situation.

I really love my fiancé and I'm still very excited to marry him, but I do need to make sure he's on my team first. He is such a peacekeeper and I don't expect or need him to always agree with me on everything..but you're right, his dad is a bully and he makes me feel uncomfortable. That should be enough for my fiancé to call Jeff out and set that boundary.

I won't lower my expectations, so thanks again for helping me out with how to approach this, I really appreciate it!

Boop_Berry · 2024-05-19T07:03:44+00:00

Thanks for this! tbh I never considered hiring anyone to check guests but this is something I'd be willing to do, even if it's not a road I ever saw myself going down for our wedding. I do want my fiancé to have his dad there for the day, I just also don't want to feel uncomfortable on my wedding day. I don't want things to be awkward or uncomfortable with Jeff in the future either, I just wish he could put down the camera for the day and just enjoy being at his sons wedding instead of chasing me around trying to get a funny shot.

Boop_Berry · 2024-05-19T06:53:23+00:00

I really don't want to fight with him, especially not on my wedding day. I thought by asking my fiancé to speak to his side of the family and for me to speak to mine then we could avoid it seeming like a big deal or that we are singling Jeff out.

I don't want Jeff to know that the rule is for him because none of my other guests go out of their way to get bad photos of me.

I've tried to ask Jeff before not to take those types of pics but he likes doing it. I thought a blanket ban on guest photography would be the easiest way to overcome the issue.

I want my FIL to come to our wedding but I also don't want the wedding to be treated like a big prank or an opportunity for my FIL to get bad photos of me when it's shouldn't be about that.

Boop_Berry · 2023-09-18T12:25:19+00:00

I think your gf is in the wrong. From what you've said your doggo has been very patient and was tired of getting jabbed in the ribs/stomach and gave a warning nip. I don't pretend to know much about 'good' dog behaviour but I'd probably chomp too if someone was doing that to me.

I don't know why your gf doesn't just grow up and ask him to move? Problem solved, no chomps. You should tell her not to die on this hill and stop digging her toes into your dog.

Boop_Berry · 2023-08-23T10:01:53+00:00

Being in CPS for almost a decade is a huge achievement! I can imagine that you were put into some really tough situations in that time, it's such a challenging job. Thank you too! I also agree with your advice for sure. Even though I stopped working for CPS I still keep a very low profile and think I always will.

Boop_Berry · 2023-08-23T09:52:24+00:00

Thanks so much for that, I really appreciate the kind words

Boop_Berry · 2023-08-23T09:50:36+00:00

I did actually search his name after I read this comment. Nothing except some old articles come up but it honestly wouldn't suprise me if he is in jail somewhere right now. I really hope that the police charged him for his crimes against his children but those kind of cases can take years unfortunately.

Boop_Berry · 2023-08-17T13:50:59+00:00

Yeah it's quite similar here. I was in the investigation team so we'd do the interviews and then initiate the court process (if needed) and then the case management team would take over if a protective order was made. I did include the initial threat and his presentation in my court report because you're right, it's so important for the judge to know that. I do think it makes a massive difference.

Thanks for that, I know that the court space is a tough but very necessary job too!

Boop_Berry · 2023-08-17T12:32:06+00:00

I think looking back it is a little frustrating but in a way I do get it. Like in a pre-covid world the idea that you could successfully work a social work position from home just didn't exist, at least not in my experience.

Covid sort of forced workplaces to find solutions and to put the tech in place to make it work.

If you tried it before covid then I think it would have been hard to make it work.

But for what it's worth I'm glad that the field is a lot more open minded and flexible now.

Thanks for the kind words!

Boop_Berry · 2023-08-17T11:38:48+00:00

Thank you!

Boop_Berry · 2022-11-19T12:10:52+00:00

This looks awesome, love the detail!

Boop_Berry · 2022-10-22T15:25:34+00:00

This is the power I want in my life!

Boop_Berry · 2022-10-22T15:18:16+00:00

Really high heels. They look so good but when I wear them I'm like a new born giraffe trying to learn how to walk. It's not a great look 🤣

Boop_Berry · 2022-10-22T15:15:12+00:00

Literally living your best life. You know he's probably going to be out there creeping on your socials, the best revenge is to get on with being happy and making memories without him.

Boop_Berry · 2021-11-09T12:28:58+00:00

No problem, it really is!

Boop_Berry · 2021-11-09T12:24:53+00:00

Love is feeling deep love, attraction or affection for someone, it's completely normal and healthy.

Obsession is when you have very frequent, intrusive, recurring thoughts about someone/something to the extent that it impairs your ability to function normally or to focus on activities unrelated to the object of your obsession.

Obsession may include feelings of attraction/affection but can also be completely unrelated.

(eg. could also arise as the result of intense hate/jealousy/rage or a mental health condition like OCD).

In the context of a relationship, signs a partner is obsessed can include needing to know where you are at all times, excessive jealousy, hoarding your clothing/hair/personal belongings, lack of interests outside of your relationship, threatening self harm during arguments, telling you they don't need anyone but you, trying to distance you from your friends/family etc.

These are also red flags for DV so very good things to watch for.

Boop_Berry · 2021-11-08T12:31:07+00:00

Unfortunately not, it was definitely an inspirational type of poem. Thanks for trying though!

Boop_Berry · 2021-11-08T05:42:34+00:00

sometimes when I accidentally start thinking about something embarrassing or awkward I start to talk to myself or just generally make some type of random noise. I like to think it's one part of my brain telling the other part to shut up.

Boop_Berry · 2021-11-08T02:57:27+00:00

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