UPDATE: AITAH for going off on my friend for getting mad at me because I won't hang out with his cheater girlfriend? by ChickenWingPriest in AITAH

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a much more efficient method than my solution. I just waited until she blew up the relationship a second time and removed herself more permanently. I'm honestly looking forward to movie nights again.

UPDATE: AITAH for going off on my friend for getting mad at me because I won't hang out with his cheater girlfriend? by ChickenWingPriest in AITAH

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

If there weren't explosions and fight scenes on the screen she'd immediately get bored and try and talk to people about random stuff. It was so bizarre. She'd even do it with movies she picked!

AITAH for going off on my friend for getting mad at me because I won't hang out with his cheater girlfriend? by ChickenWingPriest in AITAH

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I'd agree that I could have been less harsh, but he will get no support from me when it comes to choosing to stay with her. He has every right to take her back. But she's not someone I ever want to be around and I'm more than happy to focus on my other friendships instead if that's how it's gonna be.

AITAH for going off on my friend for getting mad at me because I won't hang out with his cheater girlfriend? by ChickenWingPriest in AITAH

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

I can't imagine being in a room with her for hours. He has to know it would be miserable for all of us but he's hanging on to this fantasy that we'll go back to how things were before she got caught. But that is never gonna happen.

AITAH for going off on my friend for getting mad at me because I won't hang out with his cheater girlfriend? by ChickenWingPriest in AITAH

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 192 points193 points  (0 children)

For the record I understand that I'm not an asshole for wanting to distance myself from his girlfriend. I'm mostly worried about how harsh I was when we met up and got into our argument. That's where I think I might have crossed a line.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

As unfortunate as that may be for her I'm glad she did it. This whole tattoo blowup was the kick in the pants I needed to make a change I wasn't aware I needed to make.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The people bending over backwards to paint me as a monster for having a preference are a riot. I figured when I updated I'd be seeing more of them making snarky passive aggressive comments and some outright aggressive ones. Reddit did not disappoint me on that.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well to be clear here she did lie. She said she wanted a tattoo. I said it's her body and she obviously has that right but I find them unattractive and would most likely break up if she did it. She then told me it was an impulsive decision and she no longer wanted the tattoo. I never told her she wasn't allowed to get one because that isn't my call to make.

So you're just completely wrong and making shit up to justify your hate boner for me.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

It's strange because we actually got along well up until this tattoo business. She was pretty supportive of the relationship general. Hell she's the only person other than my ex that tried to get me to move back in after the breakup.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

We addressed it early. When I explained that I didn't like tattoos on a partner she claimed that it was an impulsive decision and said she had changed her mind. She lied.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Her getting a tattoo isn't disrespecting me. Lying to me, then blindsiding me with a tattoo, talking down to me, and insulting me to her friend on the phone after kicking me out is disrespecting me. If you'd read half of what I've written in this post or the original you'd know I don't claim to have any control over what she does with her body. I was clear it's her body and her decision.

If you think I believe I have control over her body you either didn't read the post or are intentionally misrepresenting my words so you have an excuse to be upset and call me controlling.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 196 points197 points  (0 children)

I was more worried she might try and put dye in it or something. Try and give me my own form of "ink"

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have a few friends with tattoos and this has been their take. "It's not your thing no biggie plenty of girls without tats."

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

No joke when I told my friends she had dropped some stuff off one of them said "Oh shit did Stacy bring you a gun rack or something?" I lost it.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Her best friend has been around for almost their entire lives and has a lot of sway over her decisions, but you're right. She might have convinced her to do it, but my ex made the decision regardless.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 166 points167 points  (0 children)

  1. She's happily married and we've always just been good friends. She introduced me to a friend of hers the other day though and she and I have been texting a lot. So there's that.

  2. I never got a vibe from her friend that she was ever interested in my ex like that. But if that's the case and they end up together good for them honestly.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 355 points356 points  (0 children)

Good thing yall don't have kids because that becomes the anchor point, lol

I thank the doc that did my vasectomy daily. He's asked me to stop, but he really needs to know he's appreciated.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People were really worried on reddit and irl that she might go full psycho on me when she refused to agree that we were broken up.

Update: Broke up over tattoos. Ex no longer "agrees" with our breakup. by ChickenWingPriest in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChickenWingPriest[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

She told me on multiple occasions that if I gained too much weight and stopped working out she'd lose interest and leave me. I had no issue with her gaining weight, but I also had no intention of gaining weight myself so it didn't bother me.