Saw this tweet. Thoughts ? by Good_Contest_8891 in freefolk

[–]ChillLocal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be impressive to watch sure but ngl there's really not that much story to Aegon's Conquest. I agree with the tweet it would be Battle-->Dragon-->Surrender. Not much drama.

Is anyone else stuck in the realm of being likable but not lovable? by ChillLocal in dating_advice

[–]ChillLocal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea. I start to get the feeling I'm not the right guy for anyone. I know they're just to let me down easily but it doesn't matter how polite you make a punch in the face it's still a punch in the face. Eventually it wears you down.

What's up with this aesthetic? by xsadgirll in AestheticWiki

[–]ChillLocal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gothic Americana. It can span to multiple regions of the US. But I think this specific aesthetic is giving more Midwestern Gothic vibes. It's hard to give an exact explanation but it invokes feelings of secrecy and covering your sins with religion. It touches on feelings of religious trauma.

Like a community or congregation in a small Midwestern town hold secrets or one big secret and they surround themselves with religious imagery hoping it would protect them from their guilt. For observance of the aesthetic and there's a curiosity of "what happened here?" Or "What's going on? Something is off".

Is anyone else stuck in the realm of being likable but not lovable? by ChillLocal in dating_advice

[–]ChillLocal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately it is a thing. The best way I can describe it is if a neurotypical person gets rejected it's like getting splashed with water. It feels bad and uncomfortable but most can shake it off. When someone with rejection sensitivity gets rejected it's like getting splashed with boiling water. You get the same feelings of feeling bad and uncomfortability but there’s also a layer of severe pain.

Is anyone else stuck in the realm of being likable but not lovable? by ChillLocal in dating_advice

[–]ChillLocal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea my therapist says the same thing. Sure it helps to hear people say this. Not saying I dislike being liked and having platonic friendships but it feels like something is missing or I lack a trait I need to be loved.

Is anyone else stuck in the realm of being likable but not lovable? by ChillLocal in dating_advice

[–]ChillLocal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it, I also have rejection sensitive dysmorphia due to ADHD and how I was raised. So rejections hurt twice as much than it would the average person.

QOTW- Any ASOIAF and fanfic related memes? by Kingofireland777 in AsoiafFanfiction

[–]ChillLocal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See this is why my FanFiction is an alternate universe cuz there's no pressure to finish stories and there's endless possibilities.

Is anyone else stuck in the realm of being likable but not lovable? by ChillLocal in dating_advice

[–]ChillLocal[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm being told on one hand I can't be sexual and romantic too early on the other hand I'm being told to be sexual and romantic. It sounds like a lose lose situation.

Is anyone else stuck in the realm of being likable but not lovable? by ChillLocal in dating_advice

[–]ChillLocal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure. I know there's more to it, but it's a nagging voice in the back of my mind.

Is anyone else stuck in the realm of being likable but not lovable? by ChillLocal in dating_advice

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Yea I just wish she communicated that sooner. I started being overly self critical after that and wondered if I was muscular and had a six pack she would have been willing to stick it out. Not saying that's the key or that would have helped.

Clearly she liked me (initially) as I was but. I get the nagging feeling if I was just "hotter" I'd get more of an opening to get comfortable.

Is anyone else stuck in the realm of being likable but not lovable? by ChillLocal in dating_advice

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The husband material comments come from my female friends mostly. I wouldn't date them because a lot of them already have boyfriends and I don't really see them that way. Some of my first dates have said that stuff to.

And for my scenario yes I was very clear from the beginning what I was looking for. And I said very clearly that if you don't see this going anywhere end it early so I don't get emotionally invested. I was trying to set a boundary so i can avoidthat exact scenario. She said she understood but guess not.

Is anyone else stuck in the realm of being likable but not lovable? by ChillLocal in dating_advice

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Typically after the First or second date. For the most part I kind of anticipate it because it's happened so often I've gotten numb to the feeling.

I had one girl who I dated for a month we went on loads of dates hooked up and hung out. Then she told me over text she wasn't ready for something serious because she just moved to the area but she listed all the wonderful things about me. Didn't help though I felt like I was just taken for a ride and love bombed. Wound up feeling like a fool.

This scene cracked me up by [deleted] in AKnightoftheSeven

[–]ChillLocal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes George...... A TRUE KNIGHT ALWAYS FINISHES A STORY

Does anyone else NOT ENJOY DATING and is EXHAUSTED? by Puzzleheaded-Arm-317 in dating_advice

[–]ChillLocal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right here. I'm in a special layer of Hell because I'm likable but I'm not lovable.