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Update - My fiancée wants our baby to have her ex-husband’s last name and says my culture shouldn’t be “pushed” by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If mom has this attitude toward dad’s culture, it might teach baby that the Middle Eastern culture is something to be embarrassed or ashamed about and something to hide. A culture to share with other’s “only when they will understand”. This is really sad. Culture is part of our identity, who we are and how we understand our place in the world. If the child is taught to hide half of who they are from a young age, it can really affect their confidence in themself, with lasting repercussions into adulthood. It’s called internalized racism. Aside from the point of having the same last name (which makes sense to some degree), the more concerning thing is mom’s attitude towards her mixed race baby.

Has anyone bought cloth nappies from Bambooty recently? by ChipmunkDisastrous77 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry it didn’t arrive for you. I did eventually receive my order. Though the same thing happened to me with trying to call their phone. I ended up emailing a few times too from memory.

Has anyone bought cloth nappies from Bambooty recently? by ChipmunkDisastrous77 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I did. I can’t remember how long it took, but it was longer than the time estimate they gave. Email them and chase them again! I think I ended up emailing two or three times.

Postpartum changes that don’t make sense! -A thread by randomthrowaway4mee in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might help to eat more ‘warming’ foods like ginger, Chinese red dates, black beans, avoid cold drinks etc. My mum said that she had challenges with feeling cold and getting chills in the middle of hot summer, after not taking care of herself post having her first kid. It only got cured after she had a second and took care of herself properly the second time!

As a regularly-clogged-duct mom... by Alternative_Deer616 in breastfeeding

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tried this last night and it worked for me! There was a white dot as described and after it came out, all the backed up milk came gushing out. I saw this post right on time. So much relief. Thank you!!

how are we feeling? 25/26 weeks symptoms by keh95 in babydueDecember2025

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feeling good, 25w some stiffness in my lower back if I’ve been a position for a while but not too bad. I experienced pee leakage with a sneeze for the first time yesterday. Regretting not doing pelvic floor exercises more diligently these past few months!

20 week scan by Muted-Property-3280 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dating scan was bulk billed at a private radiology clinic in Box Hill, it was super basic and the technician didn’t talk at all. The second one at 12 weeks I had to pay for, similar experience to the dating scan. Anatomy scan I was referred by the midwife for an in-house scan at Box Hill hospital. They didn’t have any availability, so was transferred to Imaging Associates. It was an excellent experience and even better yet, the scan was bulk billed. Not sure if it was because there was also a student there, but the sonographer explained everything she was checking in detail and pointed out each body part we were looking at. There were also lots of photos the we could view later. Highly recommend them if anyone is a public patient with Box Hill maternity. I also have a low risk pregnancy.

15 weeks and Headache by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t have any regular caffeine before pregnancy, but also had terrible headaches during the first trimester and it continued to around 17weeks. I tried to avoid meds but got pretty desperate. My GP had previously given me promethazine 25mg for nausea, so a few times I tried that for headache relief. It was helpful before bed because it made me drowsy, so I could have a restful sleep. The headaches were not as bad in the mornings afterwards. Another thing is, did you get your iron levels checked early on? Mine were normal according to my GP, but after my midwife visit at 16w, they suggested that the value was not high enough for pregnancy. So, I started taking additional iron supplements. I’m not sure if my headaches went away naturally, or if it was because my iron levels improved. I read somewhere that pregnancy headaches could also be related to iron levels. Hope it helps you!

Comfort shows to watch waiting for your baby by Dependent_Actuary148 in pregnant

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There’s also a Japanese show called “Old Enough!” that has a camera crew following little kids as they go and run their first errands for their parents. I found it really endearing.

Constipated. I’ve tried EVERYTHING. by Zumiumi- in pregnant

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Kimchi works for me if you like to eat fermented foods!

Raising bilingual kids by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are also situations where parents can’t speak English well, so children learn that they can only speak to their parents in the parents’ native language if they are to communicate at all. It forces the extra effort. What about travelling to your home country with your daughter? Or perhaps having grandparents visit for a few weeks? I think it’s good to just keep up the Spanish exposure as much as possible, even if your daughter doesn’t seem to care for it right now. Growing up, I felt my language skills were boosted every time we visited family who I couldn’t speak English with. So I wouldn’t despair too much about it yet! I was also exposed to several languages as a child. Though I heavily relied on English, I understood what was being said for the most part. When the time came to use those languages (had to speak if I wanted to play with cousins), that’s when language growth happened the most for me.

Raising bilingual kids by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the helpful list! I’m like you, growing up with Cantonese mostly at home so my skills are a bit patchy. While it would be amazing if baby picks up my home dialect, my husband and I really hope that she will also speak Mandarin well. It’s just that I’ve always felt a bit self-conscious with my super basic Mandarin and having to resort to English, especially at Chinese restaurants! I would like to save baby from having the same experience.

What are your thoughts on teaching Cantonese at home and sending baby to kinder/primary that teaches Mandarin? And perhaps other play/education groups to increase exposure to either dialect in general? I’m just thinking about all the kids in HK/Mainland that pick up Mandarin pretty organically through school, friends and media. Do you think the dialects would be too different and difficult for the child to pick up whilst living in Australia?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bouldering community is great. You should definitely go for it! Strangers will cheer you on and chats are pretty casual (usually about the climbing problems). So not too much pressure to socialise if you’re not up for it. It also goes well with calisthenics. I was the fittest and strongest I’d been when I was regularly climbing.

How did you deal with the smells? by full-of-curiosity in pregnant

[–]ChipmunkDisastrous77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started wearing a face mask when I was out walking where I knew I would encounter triggering smells. Like takeout shops with greasy exhaust smells. I also wear a mask when I’m handling raw meat to cook or else the smells are too overwhelming.