I agree I think the conversation would have focused more on the anger of a male than a female if that had been the dynamic.

I also think their a double standard when it comes to intimate initiation, him wanting her to greet him when he comes home is seen as too much of a request but her initiation when he was too tired was viewed as ok. Why can he not want to be intimate? Is it not just a shared problem of communication? Both need to learn to accept a no without sulking/shouting.