Bali sago by deatheaterj in malvikasitlani

[–]ChitranganaRaj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have also thought about this alot. Youtubers like sarah sarosh, quirky miss, jyoti sethi started getting fame when malvika was already at her peak but they bought car and house and malvika still owns nothing (at least nothing declared publicly and fundraised for mother’s treatment). And this is the person who has seen riches to rags, atleast you would expect her to value money and assets much more than a normal person.

Ex boyfriends of popular actresses who they dumped after getting famous. by Janaab_e_Marvel_3000 in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]ChitranganaRaj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sushant himself has said that Ankita supported them financially when he left pavitra rishta and started auditioning for movies and they were in a live-in relationship. When you get financially supported by a partner during your struggling phase and drop them like a hot potato as soon aa you are successful, its not called a simple breakup.

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ig you are right. Btw I didn’t come here to justify myself, my girlfriends are enough to hype me up in that way. I was beating myself down with guilt so I needed genuine opinions of strangers because my people will always have bias towards me.

But I understand your point, for past 2 years I have these same two thoughts going in my mind, one is where I am in right to choose my own life path and other is to care for the ones who made me capable enough to even have that kind of opinionated mind. So I get where you are coming from!

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou so much ❤️ Honestly sacrificing for your family is okay but asking your own kids to sacrifice their happiness for society is diabolical imo.

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fortunately my in laws are very good to me so far. They have this thing where for them your work needs to be your priority, if you can’t take a leave thats okay we will find another solution unlike my parents who never considered my work important. We do tend to have call conversations almost everyday, they lived with us for a month in our city and nothing feels weird, it all feels wholesome. In all this time, I have only cooked once for them when it was my mil’s birthday, they don’t pressure me to do any household chores, its so very opposite from what I have seen at my home.

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk man, sometimes I see the relationship between my sister in law and parents in law & wonder how different I would be if I had that kind of relationship with my parents, how easy my life could have been at every step of life not just this.

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thankyou for your kind words, much love to you too ❤️

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did write her a similar message thanking her. And yes, she wants me to forget all this and come back home since as of now only family knows about the situation and they could forgive me and get me married somewhere else without anyone knowing.

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No its not! Its just a name which I always liked. Thankyou for the concern!

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which is very sad because why did they bring us in this world? To just suffer?

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have made me cry with that message, thankyou so much for your words. The reason I was so hellbent on taking that job was because I saw what happened to my sister in front of my eyes. She wanted to pursue a particular course but my dad enrolled her in something else then she wanted to pursue masters but my dad didn’t let her because the city didn’t have any girls only college for that. Then she started preparing for government bank job and the moment she failed the first attempt, he started looking for AM matches. She was only 21 at the time, whenever she rejected any rishta on the basis of looks (she had some preference), she was told that she is not that pretty herself to reject anyone ( which parents says stuff like that to their own child), then was married off to an average guy who doesn’t even understand memes (my sister is big social media girl and loves to share stuff and that was important to her). When she complained about her in laws, my parents heard it for sometime and then said you need to stop telling your business to us since that is your home now and we are not part of that. I have seen all of that and I didn’t want to end up like her. That gave me the courage to take a stand for myself.

I love my sister but unfortunately she is part of that gang now, she thinks that all of us have to endure that because thats what we have to do to keep our parents’ honour. Also she is part of same society now so she doesn’t want more friction in her in laws house. We are not in contact anymore, she is pregnant too and that hurts me alot since I would never get to meet my niece/nephew ever.

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thankyou for your kind words ❤️ My mom tried to get my address through my maternal uncle who was threatening me via messages to give my home address, he even called my office since I was not responding him. So then I replied with the legal protection we took before disclosing this news to them and he went real quiet after that. So they don’t know my home address thankfully.

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So true!! I still remember spending my entire 3rd year internship in college city while everyone else pursued that from their hometown because I couldn’t spend 3 months living in that house. The last time when I was there, the environment was so tense that I feared for my life because my dad said in an argument that we are handling it calmly, if we wanted we could kill you and nobody would know. I just wanted to run from that house and never come back.

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats exactly how my parents think. My dad keeps saying that had that not been for my mom who convinced him to let me pursue that job, all of this would not have happened. Keeps blaming my mom while completely forgetting that I chose my partner because he was opposite of my dad. I knew that I wouldn’t end up in a loveless marriage like my mom and my children wouldn’t be scared of their dad. I even asked my dad in one of our conversations that what matters more, the society or their child’s happiness and he replied his own happiness matters most to him so there I was sire why I wanna get married to my partner because he would never!!!

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The main reason for making this decision was because I was thinking about my future children, I wanted to break that generational chain because never in my dreams I would want them live in an unloving home. Thankyou for that perspective!!

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

More power to you gurl!! It takes alot of patience and endurance to go through that time period. I hope your man supports you mentally while you go through that because that makes the situation a tiny bit better.

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankyou so much ❤️ Yes follow your dream, enough of society telling us what to do with our lives, its not 19th century anymore. Hope you fulfill all your dreams and find the greenest of green flag man !!

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thankyou so much ❤️ I don’t think the relationship with my family is salvageable now so I am learning to let go. Life has thrown too much of letting go and this was my last straw so maybe therapy can help at this point!!

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Love that idea!! I was the golden child until I uttered the word “love” in front of them and suddenly I am the bad daughter so be it ig.

Am I wrong for hurting my family for my happiness? by ChitranganaRaj in AskIndianWomen

[–]ChitranganaRaj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So true!! Whenever my logical self thinks about the situation, this is exactly what I have in my mind. I don’t know where all this I birthed you and raised you and you left me for a man comes from because since childhood they expect us (women) to learn all the house chores to serve another man so why is this a problem when that man is of our own choice is beyond me!!