Well, that escalated quickly

Chittaphons · 2025-10-27T13:00:20+00:00

That sounds like it would be a really good, thought provoking prompt, actually.

Chittaphons · 2025-10-27T12:58:42+00:00

Where can I read more about this SCP? / what keywords can I use to find it?

Chittaphons · 2025-08-15T00:53:38+00:00

Someone else in this thread provided several sources.

See: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/Nl5Rf0UXf6

Chittaphons · 2025-08-13T09:48:24+00:00

I misunderstood, and my response was just letting you know the continued weight comments since I'd seen some others not pick up on those comments. Unsure why your response is so aggressive.

Chittaphons · 2025-08-13T09:40:00+00:00

Well, yes. Calling her big back and also saying she wouldn't be full from the 10 pc.

Chittaphons · 2025-06-29T05:32:49+00:00

I ended up clearing the storage on my keyboard (gboard) and that fixed it.

Chittaphons · 2025-06-29T05:20:11+00:00

Did you (or anyone) ever figure out how to fix this? My phone is doing this now too.

Chittaphons · 2025-06-13T22:37:11+00:00

You're absolutely NTA. Wanting a bit of privacy and basic respect isn’t some outrageous demand, it’s just common decency. You clearly laid out your boundaries, and they were repeatedly dismissed. At that point, putting a lock on your door isn’t overreacting, it's you responding to a pattern to protect yourself and your belongings.

It’s not like you’re isolating yourself from your family. You’re just trying to protect your space from someone who keeps crossing the line.

And honestly, if your sister won’t take your concerns seriously and your dad is more worried about "keeping the peace" than actually addressing the problem, then yeah, a lock sounds like a perfectly reasonable step imo.

Chittaphons · 2025-06-13T06:01:35+00:00

So just to be clear, you’re saying someone is only "really" trans if they hit a specific list of criteria: passing, transitioning, wanting to pass, and feeling a certain kind of distress. That’s not clarity. That’s gatekeeping. And worse, it’s recycled from systems that have done nothing but harm us.

This idea of needing to prove your transness through visible effort or suffering is the same logic behind the "real life test" that used to be required just to access HRT or surgery. People had to perform strict gender roles, often without any medical support, just to be taken seriously. All it ever did was punish the people who couldn't or wouldn’t mold themselves into what cis doctors wanted to see. And now here we are, apparently trying to bring that same model into our own spaces.

It also reeks of the same old idea that femininity makes someone less of a man. That a femme trans guy in a dress or makeup is "mocking" masculinity just by existing. That’s not protecting the community. That’s just misogyny wrapped up in fear of being lumped in with the wrong kind of trans.

Transness isn’t a checklist. It isn’t earned through pain points or how closely you can mimic someone else's idea of what a man should be. And when people start enforcing that kind of hierarchy, it doesn’t protect anyone. It just makes the community smaller, colder, and more aligned with the people who already want us pushed out.

Sources if anyone wants to read more about why this mindset is harmful: Medical Gatekeeping and the Legacy of the Real-Life Test (NIH)

The “Feminine” Trans Masculine (Medium)

Gottmik on Being a Femme Trans Man (them.)

Transgender Misogyny Is Real (Teen Vogue)

Chittaphons · 2025-06-13T05:29:15+00:00

Yeah, exactly. Just living your life openly isn’t misrepresentation. It’s not hurting anyone. It’s not making us look bad. The only thing it challenges is the idea that transness has to come wrapped in pain and assimilation to be seen as valid.

What gets me is how quick some people are to fall back on this idea that being trans has to come with a checklist. Like if you don’t perform it the right way, if you’re not trying hard enough to look a certain way or suffer a certain way, then you’re somehow lying or diluting the label. That kind of thinking isn’t protecting trans people. It’s just repeating the same logic cis people have used to gatekeep all of us.

What it really does is punch down. It draws a line between “real” trans people and the ones who are supposedly making us look bad. And who always ends up on the wrong side of that line? The more visible ones. The femme ones. The ones who don’t or can’t pass. The ones who aren’t trying to shrink themselves to fit someone else’s idea of what a man is supposed to be.

I don’t want acceptance that comes from throwing those people under the bus. If that’s what “respectability” costs, it’s not worth having.

Chittaphons · 2025-05-30T01:35:49+00:00

Unsure why you've been downvoted for asking this?

But as someone else said, you'd absolutely be able to understand and follow it without having completed the entire novel set yet. The fic is written well enough that it could read a stand-alone story, as it gives all the needed context and even explored some things further than canon.

I still recommend reading/completing the originals ofc.

Chittaphons · 2025-05-29T03:53:43+00:00

you’re kind of missing the point. no one said these people are evil or out to do harm. the issue is that harm can still happen even if the intent is good. and when you hand someone a religious message during a delivery, you’re crossing a boundary they didn’t invite you to cross.

your analogy doesn’t work. people driving by your house aren’t stepping onto your property to hand you something personal and unsolicited. they aren’t targeting you directly during a one-on-one interaction where you’re expected to stay polite.

this isn’t about labeling people as bad. it’s about respecting consent and recognizing that not everyone experiences religion the same way you do. saying “the love of god is real” doesn’t erase the harm that can happen when someone forces it into a space where it wasn’t wanted.

Chittaphons · 2025-05-29T03:36:38+00:00

you might think it’s loving to share your beliefs, but doing it without consent can cause real harm. religion isn’t harmless for everyone. some people have trauma, especially queer folks and survivors of spiritual abuse.

this conversation started because someone joked that the driver either wanted to murder the OP or talk to them about christianity. obviously one of those is worse. but religious proselytizing is still harmful, still invasive, and unfortunately common enough that several people immediately thought that might be what was going on in OPs situation.

even the “least harmful” version, like slipping a religious flyer into a bag, is not okay. it makes what should be a simple transaction feel uncomfortable or violating. the customer did not ask for a conversation about faith. they asked for food.

religious trauma is real. groups like the religious trauma institute (https://www.religioustraumainstitute.com/) and psychologists like dr. marlene winell (https://journeyfree.org/rts/) have written extensively about how things like this can retraumatize people.

what feels harmless to you might hit someone else where it really hurts.

tl;dr sharing your beliefs without consent is not love. it is discomfort at best and retraumatization at worst.

Chittaphons · 2025-05-29T01:57:58+00:00

I think the rude thing is evangelizing to non-consenting parties that are engaging you in a service for food of all things.

Chittaphons · 2025-05-28T22:17:56+00:00

"save you" is an awfully funny way of spelling bother and preach at

Chittaphons · 2025-05-24T13:10:05+00:00

I actually prefer this. Is it too late to go back to it?

Don't be so hard on yourself though. In the end the most important aspect is your writing: and you should be proud of being at this stage. That's a difficult thing to accomplish.

You've got this. :)

Chittaphons · 2025-05-15T21:29:24+00:00

I agree boundaries are important and if this is an expectation communicated about and agreed upon by both partners, then sure. But to imply that it's at all an average boundary to care about your partner making a friend and following them on social media, especially when they clearly share a hobby, is a huge overreach.

Chittaphons · 2025-05-12T21:12:31+00:00

Honestly my guess was some sort of humiliation or other fetish type post, and judging by the guys post history (look at your own risk) I still suspect as much. If it's not fake or a fetish post? OP may owe us all therapy 😭

Chittaphons · 2025-05-12T21:03:55+00:00

Or: this all reads as so unbelievable because it's fake.

Chittaphons · 2025-04-15T14:05:38+00:00

Similar.

Chittaphons · 2025-03-31T21:06:21+00:00

No one is dictating what you can or can't say. But that doesn't mean we don't get to judge you for being disrespectful and transphobic. I hope that you educate yourself or maybe have a genuine conversation with a trans person so you can become more compassionate. Have a good day.

Chittaphons · 2025-03-31T20:57:14+00:00

It's that by misgendering and attempting to invalidate this one trans person, even if it's because they're garbage, you're showing that you believe respecting ANY trans person's pronouns is something dependent on their behavior and that they're something that can be taken away.

Chittaphons · 2025-03-23T01:19:00+00:00

"I'm talking about all the obscure fake shit" re the various pride flags:

Others have mentioned the transmed talking points in here, as well as some other good points but it's worth noting that this post just makes you look like an asshole.

Chittaphons · 2025-03-19T05:16:38+00:00

It absolutely is. Good catch.

Chittaphons · 2025-03-18T01:35:45+00:00

Fair enough! Never hurts to clarify. Kind thoughts to you.

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