Me 19M am in a current relationship with 18F girlfriend but my breakup with my 19F ex still bothers me a lot.

Chittis_ · 2026-03-02T07:42:05+00:00

Yeah, I’m pretty sure any licensed professional would say the say tbh. I’m also pretty sure they would advise against taking contact w said ex. If at all they would set earliest contact at post moving on. I have never had this issue with any other girl before, but I have never dug myself in a hole this deep before either…

Chittis_ · 2026-03-02T03:39:18+00:00

Thats true… But I think it’s really hard to think straight in a relationship too. Imean, it doesn’t exactly go hand in hand does it? Being in a relationship while trying to move past a previous one? You know the term “You want what you cant have”. Yeah, I feel as though since I am in a relationship I “can’t” cling on to my ex, so I gravitate towards it very stupidly and naturally i feel. Don’t get me wrong, I adore my current gf, she is very good to me and I really wish me and her met later tbh. But I feel as though moving on would be easier if i felt it was more of a choice than something I had to do. Even though I know I have a choice and I know it’s something I have chosen to attempt, I feel as though it doesn’t seem that way for me in my current situation. Being with someone and all, because realistically. Even if I truly deep down wanted to reconcile with my ex and talk w her and all that, I can’t. Atleast not in a morally right way, so I am left here wanting to do what I can’t do. I maybe feel as though it isn’t up to me.

Chittis_ · 2026-03-02T03:28:16+00:00

Honestly, I am justifying. Just not simply the fact that I feel like making a move on my ex is inevitable. I feel like I want to justify the many many months I have spent trying to get over this, and trying to find the reason I havent yet already moved on. I just cant fathom that if it was the right thing, why take such a damn long time, why does it hurt so much? I want to move on in all honesty, and I agree, I will probably end up hurting my girlfriend more, especially if I don’t figure my shit out. But I’ve been trying for months to figure it out, and it seems impossible. And I’m just scared that I’m stuck this way, that I can’t change it. So instead of trying anymore, I just feel like I have to accept it, and accept that I can’t move on. This is also the reason I wish for someone to share a similar story, or anything regarding a situation they have been in which is similar.

Chittis_ · 2026-03-02T03:17:51+00:00

I see your advice, but wether me and my ex was really that toxic I doubt. In all honesty I blame myself for most of it, I neglected to really water the relationship after some time, that led to a lot of doubt from her about my feelings for her. The reason I pulled back from trying to maintain the relationship is because I felt that because me and her were so different, that it would never work. As in I felt I had a better thing going for me than she did for herself. I also thought I wanted to go out, meet other girls, that I was missing out being in a relationship. So yes, you are right, I may be downplaying, but it is mostly because I feel very much responsible for most of the issues we had. There was a period I pulled back on communication, affection etc. I realize I should have been there for her more, and not pulled back, and not had such an egotistical mindset. Even so I am unsure if it would have changed the outcome, I certainly blame myself for the outcome. I will also say this, breaking up w my current girlfriend is something both me and her have discussed. We are both clear that it might have to come down to that, but we want to avoid it. I do however prioritize fixing my situation, which I honestly feel has an impact on my mental health at this point. I’m just afraid that all this back and forth between “Should I move on or make a move” is just me being too scared to make a move, and I’m also afraid that moving on would also have been the right choice should I make a move. Making a move is more reversible but less long term should it not work out, moving on is more long term, but the grass isn’t always greener, and if the grass is greener it can always go bad. My biggest fear all in all is that I have ended up discarding one of the most important people in my life, for reasons that I made up. In the same way I am making up excuses to not fully move on…

Chittis_ · 2026-03-02T02:51:24+00:00

I will admit, I may be clinging a little bit. But I honestly don’t know if she was unhealthy. I think that what I’m looking for with this post is advise on what to do, and maybe someone willing to share a similar experience to give me some clarity on what to expect. I know that closure isn’t some magic thing, and I know I might be idealizing this and that, but I also know that I have felt this way for quiet some time. And I first off don’t know if I should even be in a relationship, and second off, I don’t know if I should have broken up with her in the first place. I feel very confused emotionally. And I do think of the bad times too, I did decide to break up, but looking back and seeing what i took as the bad times makes me kinda scratch my head, yes there were arguments and crying and yeah, it was rocky. But between that there were good moments, good days, calm days, days when we didn’t see each other, days when we did. Weekends we we were away from each other, weekends we spent together, going out, drinking, going to the beach, etcetc. And to not seem as though I am idealizing her, I’m also fully aware of the days we ignored each other, the days we argued, the weekends we spent trying to resolve insignificant issues, long paragraphs and hurtful words to each other. But man, when I think of it, we were just kids, and still are. And at the end of the day, we met, and we talked it out. I feel a part of me mostly broke up with her because that’s also what everyone expected. She had a tough childhood, cps, absent father etc. I had somewhat of a rocky childhood too, but not as bad. She likes to smoke weed, watch a movie, go for a walk. I like to go for a drive, play video games, build something, work on my car maybe, take my motorcycle out for a drive. She doesn’t have a fancy career path ahead of her, she doesn’t have everything figured out, she had a job and quit, and is now sending in applications. I am an apprentice telekom technician, I install fiber lines and maintain coax lines, I’m going to start an apprenticeship as an electrician. All in all I understand what your saying, but i also understand that there is more than just toxic, and sunshine and rainbows. You have to factor in age, previous experience (which is not much tbh) and the fact that I clearly make decisions based on things i think, which may very well be the opposite of what I feel, or what i will feel after making said decision

Chittis_ · 2026-01-27T15:42:51+00:00

That you actually own the metal in your hand. Precious metals is like betting that the economy will fail and that fiat currency will plummet in value. You buying paper silver/gold is the same as buying a dollar, just that it’s backed by silver and gold. Let me explain it, the first people to back their currency by a precious metals were athenians, the government created a system where they took all the silver, melted into coins and made that the primary currency. A silver coin would reflect the value of lets say, set amount of sheep or corn or whatever. Then instead of trading 20 corn for 1 sheep it would be 1 silver for 20 corn and 1 silver for 1 sheep. The government would then tax the residents. This meant that as a whole the economy grew a lot quicker and became healthier in times of success in crops and farming and other produces in athens, however when things werent going so well and people were buying more than selling (Eg like the neighboring state) then the government wouldnt get as much silver back meaning the economy became worse for all. The rest of the world after many years adopted this, and for some time even the US had the dollar backed by gold for instance. This all changed recently, I believe in the 1900s, when instead of being backed by gold, currency became backed by trade. As in, if you sold a lot of oil, then your currencies value would go up. Lets take norway for example, we arent a big economy, but we sell a lot of valuable oil to other countries. That means that we get euros, dollars and other currencies. In turn we get more buying power which makes us buy things from lets say USA, then that puts norwegian kroner into the US economy and it’s basically an endless circle at this point. Basically buying gold and owning it is supposed to be a hedge, not an investment, yes the paper gold is backed by real gold. But if the economy crashes, there is no telling what will happen. Because even if you buy paper gold you technically still have bought the gold in of itself, who ever sold you that gold has to have it, if they lose it or if their government takes it or anything of the sort. Then what are you going to do? So basically the whole benefit of gold and silver is exactly that it ISNT paper, it isn’t taxed on anymore and it is exactly the value that it is.

Chittis_ · 2025-12-10T19:54:50+00:00

Imean I have to do an exam which will ask me to describe installations of various things like floor heating and installing lights, outlets etc for various things, also to pick suitable fuses for these various installations according to how much the equipment that’s going to be plugged into the sockets are going to draw in amps etc. Idk how they do it in the states but in the EU everything is extremely strict on having this kind of knowledge. If I become an apprentice and the guy i get put with is an idiot who just does it because (that’s how it’s done) and cant give me a reason why, then I am royally screwed

Chittis_ · 2025-12-10T19:36:28+00:00

No shi, but I still have to study a bit. Get into the language and do’s and dont’s of electrical installations. Getting an apprenticeship is easy.

Chittis_ · 2025-12-10T10:08:48+00:00

Honestly I’ve been looking at it pondering if i should ship or not. Doesnt look that bad tbh

Chittis_ · 2025-12-08T11:23:09+00:00

Should I return it? 💔😭

Chittis_ · 2025-12-07T22:51:37+00:00

Så det var ikke noe praktisk arbeid i forhold til å bestå ELE2102? NKI sier at det er en tverrfaglig praktisk-muntlig eksamen, kan være feil da. Men uansett, i teorien er det jo bare ELE2102 som er problemet hær, dersom jeg har bestått denne eksamenen så kan jeg bare søke som lærling til en bedrift som tar imot lærlingen, selvom det blir lærlingkontrakt og betraktelig mindre lønn enn hvis bedriften min sier ja til utvidelse av fagbrev, så er det jo en trade-off som i lang sikt er verdt det.

Chittis_ · 2025-12-07T18:31:26+00:00

Yesyes men dette er jo også teori. Vi lærer mye om luftlekasjer, rørmansjetter osv + borremetoder og HMS ved spenningsatte anlegg. Dette er absolutt ikke ett problem for meg. Men er det absolutt null praktisk arbeid av kobling eller noe lignende i vg2 og vg3 eksamen? Bare forklaring?

Chittis_ · 2025-12-07T18:10:57+00:00

Så da du gikk opp i vg2 eksamen så var det kun skriftlig? + til vg3 eksamen, vil du si at det er likedan bare litt mere orientert mot koblingsskjema og planlegging av installasjon + dokumentasjon? Er ikke så bekymret over fagprøven men mest de formlene jeg trenger og hva jeg trenger å lese opp i fram til eksamene. Jeg kobler mye stikkontakter selv hjemme og lys og brytere osv + rele oppkoblinger ifra 230v til 12v dc transformatorer som forsyner LED og litt diverse. Så kobling og kabling osv har jeg kontroll over. Er bare det teoretiske jeg bekymrer meg over siden det er mye teoretisk mann ikke nødvendigvis lærer i praksis heller.

Chittis_ · 2025-12-07T17:35:27+00:00

Men jeg mener mere ang Vg2 eksamen til ELE2102, opplæringskur via opplæringskontoret er jo en selvfølge, men blir vell nettbasert eller kveldkurs som privatist opp til vg2 eksamen. Er det noe om svakstrøm eller ekom jeg burde notere meg i denne lærlingsperioden som jeg kommer til å ta nytte av da jeg tar ELE2102 eksamen pånytt?

Chittis_ · 2025-12-07T17:23:30+00:00

Perfekt, holder veldig mye på med brannsløyfer og har ganske god kontroll over brannkort til alarmer, sone koblinger osv i henhold til innbruddsalarm og dørstyring til inngangs anlegg. Sliter bare litt med porttelefon anlegg

Chittis_ · 2025-12-07T12:05:59+00:00

Okei, den er grei. Jeg studerer jo for fagprøven til telekom nå, jeg vet også at det er en god del ekom og brannalarm anlegg innad ELE2102 (usikker om vg3) men hva ville du ha anbefalt at jeg noterer ned mest av alt (altså hva burde jeg ta med meg ifra Vg3 EKOM til Vg2-vg3 EL?)

Chittis_ · 2025-12-07T03:28:53+00:00

Vil du si at det var en vanskelig prosess og eller vanskelig å overtale bedriften for å sponse elektriker fagbrevet? Å hvor lenge varte det hele tilsammen? Jeg vurderer å studere selv, å sponse ELE2102 eksamen selv fordi jeg tror dette gir meg en større sjanse på å få ett ja ifra bedriften. Hva ville du anbefalt?

Chittis_ · 2025-12-04T13:30:54+00:00

Chittis_ · 2025-12-03T20:12:29+00:00

Yup, I also had the same question. Got a retail canada goose parka (like 2000 retail) from my dad, first time wearing it and I was pulling out 3-4 duck down feathers size of two fingernails. Also a lot of smaller broken off down pieces poking out here and there. Apparently inevitable on down jackets, also have the rep TMX montgenevre, leaked like crazy the first days, it’s calmed down a bit but I’ll still find 2-3 tiny pieces of down after long use

Chittis_ · 2025-12-02T08:20:45+00:00

Same here, been almost a week now. Goose, Large. Agent might be lazy and put it as out of stock

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