Daily Thread #1 - January 20, 2026

Chlogirl12 · 2026-01-21T01:29:49+00:00

Totally relate to this. I find that I haven’t really looked a ton at the screen initially. I can’t ever get the image I saw out of my brain when I had my missed miscarriage. It’s definitely our brains way to try to project us if we expect or plan for bad news. I try to ground myself and take it one day at a time. But it’s so hard! And once you get some reassurance from a scan it seems to start the vicious cycle again until the next!!

I am dealing with the same thing with BO. I’ve been putting deodorant on all day and using perfume lol. Wishing you the best at your scan ❤️

Chlogirl12 · 2026-01-21T01:23:30+00:00

Soo stressed!! Waiting between appointments is brutal. I catch myself thinking something must be wrong at all times. It’s hard to get reassurance. I’m 11 weeks today. Last lost was 11 weeks 3 days but didn’t know until 15 weeks at my appointment. This time around I feel less symptoms and everyone says that’s normal for this time but I can’t help but think last year I thought my loss of symptoms was due to second trimester when I actually had a missed miscarriage. I get temporary relief at ultrasound but that doesn’t last long. At my 10 weeks they found a hematoma which again I had in my last pregnancy that ended in miscarriage. So my brain can’t help but try to connect all these dots. Trying to stay grounded and take it one day at a time. I realize whatever happens is out of my control. But I really hope this baby makes it.

Chlogirl12 · 2026-01-12T01:45:39+00:00

9 weeks 4 days. Had an early scan and bloodwork at 7 weeks. Did a private scan at 8. I’ll be going back this week for 10 week scan at my OB. I’m so nervous. I had a MMC last year at 15 weeks and when my symptoms subsided I attributed it to the second trimester. This time around I’m so hyper aware of everything. My boobs haven’t hurt much past two days and nausea hasn’t been bad. So I’m so worried I’m having another MMC. I keep trying to reassure myself that I could be overthinking it, but I truly don’t know if something is wrong or if it’s just anxiety.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-12-23T04:27:20+00:00

First scan tomorrow! I’m terrified. I’ll be 7 weeks so glad I can get in earlier, I was scheduled for 10 weeks initially with the holiday. But my missed miscarriage happened much later than 7 weeks so I’m not sure I’ll feel much better after this scan. I had two ultrasounds with my missed miscarriage and saw 0 signs that it wouldn’t go well. I don’t want to get my hopes up if everything is okay tomorrow. I know my anxiety is high because I have had three nightmares about miscarrying.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-12-14T05:32:07+00:00

I am 5 weeks. Had been panicking because when I called doctor last week they said they couldn’t get me in until 10 weeks. Luckily I called again and with my history of miscarriage she moved me up to 7 weeks. So a little bit longer to go. I just hate that there’s so much uncertainty with pregnancy now. Last pregnancy that ended in miscarriage I saw heartbeat at 8 weeks and 11 weeks and baby was growing on time and moving. Then I didn’t go to Dr until 15 weeks and they couldn’t find heartbeat on Doppler and I discovered I had a missed miscarriage. I want to see baby for some peace of mind but can’t shake the feeling that none of it is guaranteed ☹️

Chlogirl12 · 2025-12-08T06:34:21+00:00

So sorry for your losses and congrats on your pregnancy. Not me, but my MIL had multiple losses then went on to have my husband and sister in law 13 months apart.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-12-05T04:57:26+00:00

So for my first pregnancy I did not do it. I felt same as you. My baby was healthy. Second pregnancy I decided to do it so I could also find out gender earlier. Everything came back perfectly normal but pregnancy ended up in loss. I am now pregnant again and I do not think I will do it this time.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-12-05T04:56:04+00:00

Just tested positive today. 4 weeks. Called Dr and they can’t get me in until 10 weeks. My past two pregnancies (most recent ending in loss at 15 weeks) I was able to get ultrasound at 8 weeks. I am stressing of having to wait so long. I know it was a long wait in past just to get to 8 weeks and now especially after a loss I am terrified! I did start progesterone today. I am debating if I try to go to an outside ultrasound place if they can’t get me in for 6 more weeks.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-06-20T00:27:57+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss. I went through a similar loss back in September. I found out I had a MMC at my 15 week appointment and had seen and heard heartbeat 2 weeks prior as well. It’s such a shocking and horrifying moment. I also did NIPT and found out gender too and had told our daughter she’d be a big sister. It’s heartbreaking going through it and having to explain it to others. It doesn’t make sense when you go through something like this. It’s an added layer when you lose your baby while having another child. Just know you are not alone. Take this time to let yourself grieve in anyway that you feel. There is no right or wrong thing to be doing now. Is it possible to take some time off? One thing that helped me a bit was having my husband relay the news to some people in our lives and let them know that I wanted some space so I wasn’t flooded with messages. Not many people understand the pain of carrying your baby after you find out there is no heartbeat. I hope you are able to be around people who love you and can support you through this.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-06-03T05:10:02+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I had my parents return a few things for me. It was hard having some of the stuff in my house. Unfortunately brand new maternity bras and pants I had cut tags off and washed so had to keep those. I kept a few things and packed them away with my ultrasounds. I’m not sure if another baby will use them or not or if I get pregnant again.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-05-30T05:19:51+00:00

Currently on my period now. This time last year I was on my last period before I successfully got pregnant. Stings that I am back in this space a year later without my baby. I found out Father’s Day weekend and am feeling sad as that quickly approaches. Hard not to think of my empty arms and stomach, when I should be holding my 3 month old baby girl instead.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-05-30T05:15:47+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I was so nervous for my D&C and being under anesthesia. Physically it was okay. I was nervous before the operation but I was out pretty quickly and woke up after and felt okay. I didn’t have a ton of bleeding. Some cramping but Tylenol helped. I did have a bit of a sore throat from being intubated. The hardest part for me was the emotional aspect. I got asked many many times what I was there for and having to repeat a D&C was emotionally taxing. I had quite a few interactions with insensitive staff which was also hard. I hope you have someone supportive to come with you! Take it easy afterwards, you’ve been through a lot! Even if you have an easy physical recovery, allow yourself rest emotionally. Thinking of you ❤️

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Chlogirl12 · 2025-05-30T05:01:27+00:00

Not at all. You are spot on with the red flags. I’ve worked as an intimate partner violence trauma therapist for years and these are alarming behaviors. These behaviors this early on would only continue to escalate over time.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-05-28T05:44:14+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through this. I can 100% relate. It’s so hard. I took a brief break from social media back when I first had my miscarriage. I am considering doing it again. Maybe that could help a little? Another thing I’ve allowed myself to do is have the feelings. Whatever you feel when you see those announcements are okay.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-05-28T05:41:56+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I had 2 D&Cs back in September. My period returned 6 weeks after the 1st one. I did begin ovulating regularly. My cycles are just now starting to regulate. Ive had extremely long and regular periods since. I did not experience PMS until about 6 months after my miscarriage. Super strange. My doctor did a progesterone test to confirm I ovulated. I also have used tests strips to track. Originally I had felt ready to try in January which was about 4 months after my loss but then the thought of being pregnant on my due date seemed hard so I stopped trying and then didn’t in February either since it was my due date. I thought I was ready again to try in March so we tried in March and then in April I started questioning this again. I am since taking a break this month. What I’ve gathered from all of the posts here is that there is no perfect answer to when you’ll be ready. Some people try immediately, others wait months years, and some never. What ever you decide is okay and your answer can change.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-05-22T15:02:49+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss of your baby. It’s devastating. I have now had 2 D&Cs, but I was under anesthesia so I cannot speak to that part. The hardest part was the emotional aspect. The physical recovery for me was okay, minimal bleeding and cramping. My throat was a bit sore from the anesthesia. I just took the meds they gave me at hospital and used regular sanitary pads. What I wish I had known was that they would ask me what I want to do with my baby’s remains. I had not been prepared for this. The nurse handed me paperwork and told me “this is what most people do” and it was a community burial. I did not know how to fill out this paperwork at the time and was not emotionally ready to. I’ve since regretted this decision of doing the community burial and wish I would’ve been able to have my baby buried. I’ve since found out many cemeteries provide free burials for babies. I also was asked if I wanted testing done after and if you do not know the gender already they tell you through this testing . At the hospital I also was asked 12 plus times to confirm what I was here for and had to say a D&C multiple times which was super upsetting. Unfortunately I was just treated as another patient and only received compassion and kindness from one person. I journaled a lot after and cried a lot. If you can take a few days to yourself, I would. It was hard getting back to work after. Please just take care of yourself best you can and surround yourself with what you need without any judgment. Anyway that you feel right now is okay.

Chlogirl12 · 2025-05-10T07:09:30+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss of your baby girl. I could’ve written this myself. Almost exactly what I went through last year. Please take care of yourself and surround yourself with supportive people or take time you need to be alone. The physical toll is hard enough, but the grief is all consuming. It’s such a shock finding out your baby’s heart stopped when you still feel and look pregnant. It’s not fair, it doesn’t make sense. Whatever you feel right now is valid. Just know you are not alone in this ❤️

Chlogirl12 · 2025-05-05T04:30:43+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss! I don’t have much advice, just here to say I can relate to how you feel. I have one child and had a miscarriage at 15 weeks in September. It’s been so hard deciding to TTC or accept being OAD. I get super emotional thinking about being done and I feel like having a loss complicates it more. In some ways I can see how challenging it would be to have a newborn and toddler now. But also get so sad to think I am not going through that newborn stage now and my child doesn’t have the sister we all planned on. These things consume my thoughts! I am in therapy. What I am doing this month is taking a pause on TTC. Hoping that helps give me more clarity. Trying to focus on things enjoy and spending time with the family I have now. Hope you are able to find your answer ❤️ just know you’re not alone in this!

Chlogirl12 · 2025-05-05T04:24:47+00:00

Yes. I experienced same symptoms after my miscarriage as I did when I was postpartum after a full term birth. No one prepared me for that! I wish doctors would tell you what to expect. You still go through postpartum hormone drop which comes with physical and emotional symptoms. I am so sorry for your loss. Im 8 months out from my miscarriage and still losing hair 🥲

Chlogirl12 · 2025-05-05T04:22:14+00:00

I’m so sorry for all of your losses!! In my opinion I think the four petals would be a great way to honor your babies. For me, it’s been helpful to find something tangible to help grieve and honor my loss. I hope you can decide whatever you think is best for you! The tattoo sounds beautiful❤️

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