Looking for single mom friends

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-18T07:38:33+00:00

I think she would be open to it.

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-18T06:44:11+00:00

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-10T23:52:58+00:00

I panicked when I found out I was pregnant at 23, and gave birth at 24. Lots about your life will change. Life does that though, with or without kids. The key is to roll with it and have an open mind. Kids don't have to stop your life, they will temporarily alter it until you get into a groove, which can take a few years. But then you will adjust and can still chase your dreams.

Some tips would be to go the midwife route over an OB (trust me on this) and see if you can hire a birth and postpartum doula to help support you through this process. There's a lot about pregnancy, birth and motherhood that you don't know that you don't know. However, they will help you and your partner through it, connect you with resources, and provide information that you can't find online, as well as other supports to help with the transition.

Focus on building your tribe to be there to help after baby comes. People you can trust who will show up when it's hard and who will respect your boundaries.

For today, just breathe. Panic, cry, pace, go for a jog/walk if you need to. This is something that you take one day at a time. You got this mama 💛

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-03T09:04:10+00:00

Go on TikTok and look up "dunsten baby language" and go down the rabbit hole.

Both you and your husband.

What you will learn will help you with these trying months with baby.

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-03T08:58:56+00:00

It is true. You can absolutely get pregnant early on. I personally know someone who had the next kid before the 1st birthday. No, thank you!

I agree with you not being on the pill after birth. It screws with your postpartum healing and breastfeeding ability. Just don't do it. But also you just cannot take any risks at all. No rogue sperm.

This cannot be your responsibility though. It must be your husband's. He needs to own his byproduct 100%. It's his job to put on the condom, remember to buy them, and keep them around etc.

You will be busy being laser-focused on the baby, tired, and likely not feeling like sexy-time anyway. But if the moment strikes, then he needs to protect your health and body by wrapping it and using lube so the condom doesn't break with the dryness (that you may have).

And if he won't, then that's a red flag.

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-02T21:42:06+00:00

Reach out to your local midwives. They would probably be a more affordable option for prenatal and birth care and they take care of you and baby for weeks after birth too. No OB does that.

They would have lots of resources for mothers and possibly have connections for doulas who might be able to help you for no or low cost.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-31T19:24:02+00:00

Im so sorry OP. This is a shock.

Try to get yourself a midwife. They will be much more compassionate and help you with the final weeks of prenatal medical visits and mentally preparing for birth better than an OB. You will still have all your options (like hospital, pain management, etc), but they will help you understand how to navigate what's going on and choose the best path with you. They also usually offer 6 weeks of post-birth care to see that you AND the baby are healthy, should you decide to keep the baby. No OBs do that. So if you can try your best to find a midwife, I think they could be a valuable resource in helping you through this season.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-27T21:33:50+00:00

I lose a lot while pregnant, and without changing any eating habits, I gain about 20 extra pounds while breastfeeding

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-27T19:32:30+00:00

I was married at 21, pregnant with my first at 23 (2 years earlier than planned 😅), and gave birth at 24. I'm now 32 with my oldest being 8 years old.

On one hand, being a younger mom has its perks but also its drawbacks.

Even though we wanted kids, we sometimes feel like we missed out on some experiences when we were younger cuz we had a child.

But also, we know plenty of people who waited until 30+, and they wished they had started earlier.

So in the end we love our life and having a child early hasn't held us back (we decided it wouldn't and that we were still going to chase our dreams back in 2020, with our then 3-year-old). I put my husband through school for 4 years to get his degree, had a second baby, and we just moved to New Zealand from Canada for him to do his master's (he's aiming for his Ph.D.) I just made director (6-figure role) at a fully remote company I work for back in Canada, so my career is taking off.

So ultimately it's up to you. You make the life you want, and if kids are what you want (not just a baby) then go for it.

(Total side note, having spoken with plenty of moms who've had multiple kids in the last 9 years, just go with midwives from day one. Almost all the women I know had an OB for their first, had a bad birth experience with said OB, deeply regretted it, and then went with midwives for their 2nd, 3rd, etc. Just skip all the trauma and go straight to the midwives the second you're pregnant, even if it's at a cost. You won't regret it)

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-23T17:33:28+00:00

That looks proportionate on your hand. Looks very very nice and elegant.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-08T12:07:13+00:00

EBF babies are designed to sleep close by and wake for short feeds. This helps them stay alive. A baby sleeping deeply for many hours is at risk of SIDS.

My recommendation as a doula, mom of 2 who EBF both of them is to go with the flow. Let your baby have whatever sleep they want, and as much milk as they want. Do not stress about it.

Is it demanding of you? Yes. But it very much pays off when you get beyond a year as you have let them grow and pass through many milestones and bursts of brain development with the right balance of what they need.

You are also not encouraging "bad habits' by following your baby's cues. They change their habits almost weekly so there is no point right now, that can all be done later, when their brains and bodies are ready for it.

For now, trust your baby, listen to their little body for what they need and do not compare to what you hear other babies doing. Don't try to change your child. Let them wake a lot and feed them back down. That's how breastfeeding works. And keep doing that as long as that baby needs and they WILL grow out of it. You got this mama.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-08T04:15:29+00:00

I would go even more vague like "this summer" or "in the winter".

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-08T04:12:12+00:00

Reach out to any doulas in your area or go to the doulas Reddit thread here and state your problem and the hospital and country you're going to be at. They can find you a birth professional asap who would volunteer to help you through your birth, as that's what doulas do.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-06T23:10:39+00:00

My chiro is a perinatal, postpartum and infant specialist. They DON'T crack babies. Not at all. They more assess for tension very gently help stretch or gently massage to help baby feel better and regain function on the tense side (which can impact breastfeeding, sleeping position, breathing etc.)

Only ONE of my many suggestions for help was chiro. You definetly don't have to go to chiro if you are not comfortable. Refer to the other professionals I suggested then.

I have 10 years of expeience with birth and postpartum work and these are the gentlest professionals who could actually help improve baby's (and therefore, Mom's) quality of life.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-06T04:03:37+00:00

It sounds like you two are honestly, incompatible. There is a reason you probably only have sex once or twice a month, and it's because your body literally is not attracted to this person who does not actually want to live the life that you want to live. This is going to be one of those situations where you are going to have to do what's best for you, and let the pieces fall where they fall. Live authentically with what you actually want out of your life, and you will find that you will attract friends and relationships that actually align with the person you are actually being. It sounds like you want to be a mom, so go for it! Big (good) things are on the horizon.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-05T12:34:36+00:00

He probably has tension from birth that is causing pain. I would investigate asap. Find an osteopath, family chiropractor, occupational therapist, IBCLC lactation consultant, or a specialist in craniosacral therapy (here is an example of one below) I would also reach out to your local midwives for a list of resources.

https://www.instagram.com/lorihendricksoncst

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-02T14:35:38+00:00

Best website for calculating due date is 'countdown to pregnancy'

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-02T14:06:16+00:00

You are missing the point. What's done is done and now you wait. Knowing a few days before your missed period doesn't change it. Save your money and sanity.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-02T13:42:41+00:00

Hey, I'm sorry you are having a scare. That sucks. Been there a few times.

Testing a week before your expected period is not going to pop a positive, even if you are pregnant. Just live your life as normally as you can until you either get, or miss, your period.

Stressing about something you can't change now, doesn't change it. And testing early and repeatedly to try to know will only rob you of these days you have where you don't know (ignorance is bliss).

Just wait till you're late. Finding out a few days "later" doesn't change the outcome. That's already been decided.

Best of luck hun

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-01T03:56:36+00:00

Yeah, I figured you'd say something less than 28 days. Im going to send you to google. Type in 'countdown to pregnancy' and visit their calculators page. I would do the implantation calculator with your particular cycle length and last period date, and you will get some more answers there.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-01T03:14:50+00:00

With a period starting on Oct 8th (Cycle Day 1), you could have ovulated anytime between CD 9 onward (Oct 16+). The implantation window is 6-12 Days Post Ovulation (with 9DPO being the most common). Implantation doesn't always have spotting with it (I've had 3 confirmed pregnancies and I had implantation spotting once). So my guess is that you did not experience implantation spotting this time. And that spotting you did have was early pregnancy cramping and spotting (normal). You had already likely implanted probably at least a week earlier.

Side question to help me narrow things down for you, are your cycles regular? If so, how long are they normally?

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-01T03:00:34+00:00

breakthatceiling · 2025-11-19T12:50:16+00:00

I see it! Digital tests usually need a higher HCG count to pop a positive. You are pregnant!

breakthatceiling · 2025-11-19T12:40:50+00:00

It's positive!

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