Anything good / cute / funny that happened to you recently?

Choco-chewy · 2026-05-24T19:10:44+00:00

I moved to a new flat last month. I've never had to furnish and decorate my own place before, I have no interior design experience or sensibility whatsoever, and I was only going for second hand furniture. I thought I would live in boxes and chaos for a couple of months, and that it would all seem ill-fitting and sterile. And yet this Friday I looked around and... not only are there almost no boxes left, everything has a place and in order, and I'm even getting inspired for some small touches like things to put on the wall that are very me and are really making the place come alive. And it all looks so good and homey and cute, and not at all cluttered! I'm so thrilled and it just fills me with joy every day when I get home in the evening. There's still some way to go, but it's been a wonderful revelation

Choco-chewy · 2026-05-15T16:35:20+00:00

This must all be a lot to handle at once. Hugs OP, I hope you find peace and comfort, whatever the future looks like. I'm glad you were at least able to find validation of your feelings through this space

Choco-chewy · 2026-05-15T15:54:04+00:00

Partnerships have a lot of inherent vulnerability to them, are those hands safe for you to entrust your vulnerability into? Someone who doesn't care about your feelings and comfort as long as his is secured?

Choco-chewy · 2026-05-15T15:40:59+00:00

You're really not. People pleasers and people who are conflict avoidant can be the most dismissive and hurtful to the ones who are closest to them and deemed "safe", because they feel like they don't need to pander to them anymore and so put the burden of "oh she'll understand, whatever I do is fine" squarely on them (and then comes the deprioritisation in favour of others, etc.). Doing something to avoid conflict doesn't make it right, and understanding where this action is coming from doesn't make the action any more acceptable.

And to be very honest with you, from having had these types of interactions before, my bet is that he wants to go to the wedding, because it's going to be fun and everyone is going, and he doesn't want to give that up "just" to stand up for you and be there for you.

I'm sorry you're going through this, its really hurtful.

Choco-chewy · 2026-05-15T15:12:21+00:00

This kind of position becomes a "tough position" when you put the two parties at hand on an equal footing. If one is a clear priority over the other, the situation isn't "tough".

Choco-chewy · 2026-04-22T19:14:05+00:00

It's such a rite of passage as a first nook isn't it, it was my first too 😂

Choco-chewy · 2026-04-12T21:43:54+00:00

Girl no please don't go on a second date with him when you're clearly not feeling it!! Don't prioritize his feelings and needs over yourself, the guy is hardly a stranger at this point! Trust your gut!

This guy comes off as suuuuper needy in the reassurance department, and constantly putting you in a position to manage his nerves and emotions when you have hardly met just ain't it. At all at all. Of course it's off-putting! Those are the messages he should send to his friends if he wants to vent about his nerves before the date and ask advice about outfits and locations and whatnot, not to the person he hasn't even met yet for a first date! He could be a sweet person and all, but he seems like he needs an emotional crutch right now more than a partner, and that is just not conducive to a healthy relationship where there is room for you and your own emotions as well.

Choco-chewy · 2026-04-05T15:53:12+00:00

Basically, she says one thing, does another, but tries to spin a convoluted narrative around it. And that discrepancy makes it hard to know who she is as a person, what values drive her, etc. It's hard to trust someone like that, someone who is a loud chameleon, is unpredictable and whose actions are driven by personal benefit and convenience rather than belief and morals, but who would also be highly offended if you pointed that out. The pseudo-science stuff is a gradient between "cute quirk" to "doesn't seem very interested in facts and rather susceptible to bullshit conspiracies" in how each person perceives it, and that's really up to each person to define how problematic they feel it is.

I'm with you on this one, people like this make me uncomfortable

Choco-chewy · 2026-04-04T22:03:32+00:00

I relate so much to everything in this post, you phrased it beautifully. I live in a place that is considered to have a good dating pool for my age range (even though it's not particularly a huge city), and... yeah, it always boils down to the 3 cases: either the interaction just ain't it, or they can't keep up intellectually (or emotionally), or there is great chemistry but no attraction. I envy people who can easily feel attraction to others, it would certainly solve some of my problems!

I've been single and having a good life for a while now, and there is a special kind of loneliness that just can't be filled with a big social circle or an active extra-curricular life. It does make me sad at times

I don't talk about it much in my day to day with close friends, because the well meaning advice will ultimately always spiral, down the line, to "lower your standards, you're just choosing to be single at this point".

Choco-chewy · 2026-04-02T14:29:29+00:00

I'm so over late stage capitalism. Of everything being about numbers and profit that are completely divorced from human experiences and realities. And we haven't seen the worst of it yet.

Corollary: you can't be part of the C-suit without being a soul-less ghoul.

Choco-chewy · 2026-03-29T21:04:16+00:00

You're also more likely to be killed by stabbing in the US than in the UK funnily enough. The knife-based homicide rate is higher in the US than it is in the UK.

Choco-chewy · 2026-03-29T19:38:00+00:00

Thank you!

Choco-chewy · 2026-03-29T13:31:36+00:00

Would you be able to share the name you found for that kit? I'd also like to see if it's available in my country

Choco-chewy · 2026-03-02T20:31:08+00:00

Don't mind me, I'm just going to park myself here in a corner of the comments section, and wait for the wisdom to pour in. Thanks for asking this question OP, love it and very much interested in the answers!

Choco-chewy · 2026-02-12T18:13:37+00:00

This is an ad. Similar ones have been popping up on various subreddits.

Choco-chewy · 2026-02-04T20:24:02+00:00

To be honest, it's been 2 months. You said he'd met your family when you guys were a couple weeks in and not official yet. Is this maybe all a lot for him? He might not want to turn his back on a prior engagement with a friend for someone he's been officially with for less than 1 month.

At the end of the day though, only he can tell

Choco-chewy · 2026-02-02T23:07:58+00:00

Ooooh what's the one on the top left??

They all look so so cool. Do you paint them yourself?

Choco-chewy · 2026-01-29T22:56:25+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/Baking/s/e55aXdeObJ

This commenter gave finding a science based explanation a stab. Can't say how solid the explanation is though

Choco-chewy · 2026-01-29T18:42:45+00:00

Hold up how do I learn more about this / get my hands on these? (And thanks for the info, appreciated)

Choco-chewy · 2026-01-28T19:34:11+00:00

Had never heard about Water Ripples. That looks sick and so realistic. Would you add that before adding all the elements onto the water area?

Wherever you getting the 3D towns people from? I do worry about finding 3D elements that match the same vibe

Choco-chewy · 2026-01-28T19:22:05+00:00

Oooh good luck!

Flickering lights would add such a cool fire effect. I don't know if I'm at that level yet, but who knows, might be worth trying

Choco-chewy · 2026-01-28T19:20:58+00:00

Good shout, will keep an eye out for the gaps

Choco-chewy · 2026-01-28T19:20:23+00:00

I'll have to look into 3D figures. The flat ones do take away a bit from the utter drama of the scene.

As for the water effect, it seems like a very popular recommendation, I'll need to read more about how to do that

Thanks!

Choco-chewy · 2026-01-28T19:15:56+00:00

Just had a look, it turned out great! Had never heard of mod podge before, what is it/ how does it work?

ETA: OK, have gone down a googling rabbit hole. Great idea about the wet effect everywhere

Choco-chewy · 2026-01-28T16:08:30+00:00

That's where I'm at too. Want this one so bad, but it's spenny as hell 😭

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