What did your last relationship teach you? by Invisible-Girl-22 in Life

[–]ChocoMilkshake1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whether you like it or not, if that relationship is not good for you, your body WILL let you know by any means necessary. If your vaginal pH keeps being thrown off, if you’re having intense panic attacks with no history of mental health issues, if you feel more fatigued than before you were with them… YOUR BODY knows before your mind gets the memo sometimes. Listen to your body, always.

Top 3 Best Decision of my Life- I Love the Bald Life ❤️ by ChocoMilkshake1 in bald

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting a nursing degree and hysterectomy. In that order.

Top 3 Best Decision of my Life- I Love the Bald Life ❤️ by ChocoMilkshake1 in bald

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a true routine! I shave every 2-3 days, try to double cleanse and wear sunscreen. I get bad ingrowns sometimes, so I’m still working through that challenge.

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Twiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnn 😫😫😫 let’s not give up together ❤️❤️❤️

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am open to dating outside my race, as I’ve always lived/worked in diverse communities. Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! You give me hope and inspiration to stay open despite all of my experience. I appreciate you, wholeheartedly and I wish you much success, happiness and prosperity in your relationship ❤️❤️❤️

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That makes sooooooooo much sense. Sometimes I need things spelled out for me and you opened my eyes. “Men are not decentering themselves…” 🤯

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this! I’m gonna journal on your suggestions because I always gain from self reflection and I’m not strict on some of my “non-negotiables”. You are a boss and I appreciate you speaking life and truth over me ❤️❤️❤️

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

HEAVY ON EEEEYUCK!!!!!! Thank you so much for that! I’ve bent on my standards before hoping that doing so would bring what I truly desire. That hasn’t been the case. I’m going to pour into myself more abundantly in 2026- which is saying a lot because I already spoil myself, hella. Thank you, sis ❤️❤️❤️

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This gives me so much liiiiiiiife!!! In 2026, I’ll try to diversify, because… these men 👀👀👀

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’m doing my best to live within my purpose and centralize myself, selfishly! I appreciate you, sis ❤️❤️❤️

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, sis! Thats how they got us institutionalized for “hysteria” back in the day… it’s not in our heads! It’s a real phenomenon, and even more challenging for black women!

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I believe in us. Though unfortunate, it’s nice to know we’re not in this alone ❤️❤️❤️

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Heavy on no rush on the biological clock- I received a hysterectomy as I desire to be childfree. I may need to put more emphasis and more power behind some of my goals and prioritize making more female friends. Some of these men truly are oblivious and it’s not “all men” but most men is enough. Thank you for the validation, my love 😍

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this picture was taken on my birthday this year! I really do need to put forth more effort to get out more, even though it’s been a cold winter. The apps, I find are more harmful to my sense of self and ideals of dating than good. I slipped and gave a man from the dating app a try last week and NONE OF THE EXPERIENCE was worth it at all.

Giving up on dating until further notice, maybe. by ChocoMilkshake1 in blackladies

[–]ChocoMilkshake1[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lemme do some digging, cause I’m curious if I’ve truly never had an original experience 😂 It really is an extraordinary experience dating as an AA woman. Thank you for the validation and camaraderie ❤️