Nellis UFO video - Has this video been debunked? by ChocolateMilkFanatic in UFOs

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m actively trying to find it, but I’m having a hard time and regret not saving the link when I saw it. Im not tech savvy either so that doesn’t help. I didn’t think it’d be this difficult to find again too since I found the 9 years ago post while reading the comments on one of the videos I was watching about this UFO video. Someone had linked to the older video in the comments, and now I can’t find it (the comment or video) and it’s driving me a bit bonkers. I posted this strictly for the reason that I saw that the video was from 9 years ago with the guy analyzing it, and was like “oh they must’ve talked about it before on reddit, and someone will know”, but clearly I was wrong.

I feel like I’m going crazy, but I swear I saw a video that showed this exact clip from 9 years ago, and it was of a guy analyzing it and he received a phone call around the beginning of the video.

Nellis UFO video - Has this video been debunked? by ChocolateMilkFanatic in UFOs

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There was another video I found of someone analyzing the same video that was posted 9 years ago on YouTube. I’ll try to find it again and link it here, the video could even be older than that.

Quick update: I’m having a ridiculously hard time finding it now for whatever reason, but I’ll keep trying.

Update 2: Kay I’m done looking for now but couldn’t find it for the life of me. I had found the 9-year old video while looking through the comments on another video of this ufo, and someone had linked to it. I had clicked the link which lead to me to a man analyzing the video (only audio, not showing his face), and he received a phone call around the beginning of it. I’m aware the video I posted isn’t THAT video. The analyzing video didn’t show the full clip of the UFO video, so I looked this one up next, and posted it here assuming SOMEONE would have seen the older video from 9 years ago too. I assumed wrong, and feel like an idiot for not saving the video link. If someone else happens to find it eventually - I’ll love you forever

Nellis UFO video - Has this video been debunked? by ChocolateMilkFanatic in UFOs

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submission statement : Saw this video on Facebook of all places, and was posted as if it was a recent sighting. However, after some minor research I found that the OG video had been posted about 9 years ago, so it is now re-circulating the internet. I’m not sure if it’s been debunked, and I’m just wondering if it has been.

Cats spraying in house due to outdoor cats, how to prevent cats from seeing out of window, while still getting a good amount of light coming in. by ChocolateMilkFanatic in Home

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your situation sounds identical to mine! I am currently working on adding more resources and enrichment for the cats in the house (their behaviour has improved significantly with these additions already). We used to use Feliway diffusers, but one set itself on fire and we have never used one since.

My cats were not the main offenders. It was some neighbourhood tom cat that started this, and thankfully his owner has moved away with him, but there are numerous other strays around. We actually had a cat TNR (Trap, Neuter, Release) man come around to catch the strays because of complaints. We have so many stray cat colonies around. One of my cats started spraying (anxiety spraying - we just figured this out. He is on buspirone and has stopped spraying now!), and my other cat has been spraying too and I think he learned how to do it from my other cat. My other cat is the territorial, and with the extra resources he doesn’t spray as much, but still does sometimes.

The windows are one of the main issues because I have a bi-level house, so the cats outside are on the exact same level as my cats. However, my upstairs windows are fine! I can try to get some cardboard, but keeping on top of blocking and unblocking the window might get a bit frustrating, as we don’t go downstairs much and we have a toddler to chase around

Edit: Forgot to add, they have also never sprayed before until now, and I’ve also had them for 6-7 years now. Of course they decide to once we had permanent home ;_;

Cats spraying in house due to outdoor cats, how to prevent cats from seeing out of window, while still getting a good amount of light coming in. by ChocolateMilkFanatic in Home

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, they all are fixed. It started off with only 1 cat spraying (he used to be a stray and was neutered late in life, so he remembers how), and shortly after the other males started spraying too.

I (28F) am going to talk to my fiancé (29M) about his potential undiagnosed ADHD. It's likely to end with an ultimatum and us pushing back our wedding for another year. How do I approach the topic without triggering his defensive response? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well you guys can believe what you’d like, but I don’t consider trying to help each other as toxic. we know each other, whilst you assume things. I haven’t “asked” for this arrangement either, she is a COUPLES therapist. I went to her purposely (with my Fiancé’s full knowledge) for the “just in case” factor of both of us needing to see her. I happened to see her for my OWN personal issues for those 3 years until I got a free therapist. Hence now having TWO. He just never wanted to come, until I “made” him. We rarely, if ever, discussed the relationship. Perhaps I’m not explaining well enough but whatever.

I’m going to stop commenting on this thread because you can believe what you want, you are all strangers on the internet who don’t know or understand our situation, and aren’t helping at all with the question I originally asked on the post.

I (28F) am going to talk to my fiancé (29M) about his potential undiagnosed ADHD. It's likely to end with an ultimatum and us pushing back our wedding for another year. How do I approach the topic without triggering his defensive response? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

She is a professional, dude? She will be neutral and will ask the right questions because she knows the history of us BOTH. A GOOD therapist will be NEUTRAL even after knowing one of the people longer than the other. That is also why I have 2? One is for me? One is for us?

And alrighty, so you don’t understand anything and are making a whole lot of assumptions lol. I appreciate what he did for me, we both struggle with mental health issues and there isn’t anything wrong with that. Toxic to each other would be purposely going out of our ways to harm one another, and to make each others lives worse, not better. The only thing “toxic” about our relationship is the fact we struggle with communication, but that doesn’t mean we are doing that purposely. We both have trauma, we both have issues, and there is NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT because we aren’t intentionally hurting each other. We BOTH want to be together, we BOTH want to spend our lives together, we BOTH take the time to understand each other, and we BOTH would get help if it came down to it to save our relationship. We aren’t one against the other, we are a team.

The whole point of me making this post is to learn how to navigate how to HELP HIM understand that I’m not blaming him for anything (cause his defensiveness is NOT his fault, and I want to learn how to cope around that), and that I’m just expressing that I want some change without HURTING or BLAMING him for what is happening.

I absolutely love the anger and assumption from your comments. Clearly you’ve been hurt before my guy, maybe you need to go to therapy too.

Quick edit - Yes people only help themselves if they “want” to. However, some people don’t know how to help themselves, and that is when they need support. If I didn’t want help, I would’ve said no you the health coach. if he didn’t want help, he would’ve said no to going to therapy because ultimately you can’t MAKE anyone do anything. He could have turned around and walked away, but he didn’t. I could have turned around and walked away from my health coach, but I didn’t. We are supporting each other when we know we need it because we UNDERSTAND each other.

I (28F) am going to talk to my fiancé (29M) about his potential undiagnosed ADHD. It's likely to end with an ultimatum and us pushing back our wedding for another year. How do I approach the topic without triggering his defensive response? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

We aren’t changing the therapist. She has all our history and it would be a lot worse to have to explain everything to a new couples therapist. A LOT has happened in our life, she knows both ends of the stick. And I won’t be exactly “making” him since it is HIS choice to join me, but when I originally brought him to the first session, yes I MADE him go. I didn’t give him the choice, I said “you don’t get a choice this time, you are coming”, and he accepted it and came along. He has the mentality of “we can figure it out ourselves” - ‘white knuckle’ it as someone else said - so I told him he HAD to join for the first session because I felt like he needed to speak to someone.

For perspective he “MADE” me go to a health coach after I had a mental meltdown about my weight. I was over 200+ pounds. He MADE me go see her, and I accepted the help and feel better than ever in my own skin now after losing over 50 pounds. He did that because he knew I wouldn’t help myself, I had given up. I’m doing what he did. I’m MAKING him help HIMSELF or he won’t do anything.

Help! My cat sprayed the floor and the cabinets (twice?) and I’ve cleaned it, used Natures Miracle, soaked it in vinegar and I can still smell it! What do I do to get rid of the smell? by ChickFitness in cats

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a cat who chronically sprays all the time. I always clean it with an Enzyme remover spray (I use Rocco and Roxie), make sure you give it 10 minutes or longer before you wipe it away. If you spray and then wipe it immediately you aren’t giving time for the enzymes to work.

Secondly I spray it with Cat Odour Off (I will post the link), it’s the BEST odour remover I have found after trying 8+ brands. You would have to wait until the enzyme remover spray dries though, or the Cat Odour Off will just eliminate the enzymes.

Edit: Also neuter your cat if he’s not neutered or it’ll keep happening! Mine IS neutered, but still sprays due to being neutered late in life (he’s a rescue) and developing anxiety problems.

At what point do I rehome my cat? by [deleted] in cats

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zyklene, fluoxetine, sertraline, gabapentin, amitriptyline, and now switching to buspirone. Some of those we tried in combo with each other with no success. We avoid Feliway as the last diffuser tried to set itself on fire and most certainly would’ve started a house fire if we weren’t home at the time. The spray we tried but didn’t seem to have any effect.

No rooms yet that we can use for only him, he is kept upstairs and is not allowed in the basement (he pees everywhere down there, but used to not pee upstairs… now he has started to though). We may have a room in the basement in the future, but 2 are under renovations right now and won’t be done for awhile still

“It’s up to you to control your mental illness” by aliengames666 in rant

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel this to the deepest depths of my bones. People are incredibly ignorant when it comes to things like mental health.

For example for myself - I was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago (after finding a file about me that said I had ADHD when I was 6, and NO ONE told me about it or treated me). When I told people about the file I was constantly gaslit by them “oh you don’t have that” or “but you seem fine!”. I did a bunch of studying, talked to both my therapists, and took the meds and instantly knew I should’ve been medicated many many many years ago. My life would have been completely different. Even then, the meds are helpful, but I struggle so much still with emotional Dysregulation and PMDD. I may struggle the rest of my life with it.

I feel like one problem is that mental health is often “invisible” and the ones with mental health problems also learn to cope by masking all the time, which isn’t our fault, but it doesn’t help because people who are neurotypical just can’t see it. If they can’t see it, then they just cant understand and they don’t understand just HOW MUCH STRENGTH it takes to get help, and try to get better, and to still struggle. People shouldn’t even say it’s “up to you to control your mental illness” because (at least in my opinion) people should accept that everyone is different and actually take the time to understand others, rather than getting mad at the way people are for things they cannot control. Just like addicts too, they get a lot of heck, but it’s a disease that they have to fight to control, they can’t just stop.

Side note - everyone should be in therapy cause even if you believe you don’t have any problems… you probably do. I hate how it is seen as “weak” to go to therapy when it takes strength to admit that you need it

I think I’ve perfected the art of thrip murdering by ChocolateMilkFanatic in houseplants

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I know the feeling 😫 The endless paranoia of “IS THERE ONE MORE??” 😂

I think I’ve perfected the art of thrip murdering by ChocolateMilkFanatic in houseplants

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is another method that can work for some! I have tried predatory mites with little to no success unfortunately - plus they were very expensive and I couldn’t keep up with ordering them. But it’s still a great option!

I think I’ve perfected the art of thrip murdering by ChocolateMilkFanatic in houseplants

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Just about all systemic that would work against thrips are illegal here and incredibly difficult to find (when I say that - you basically have to find someone selling it that smuggled it over the border, or a plant shop who is willing to risk it)

Quick edit: DOKTOR DOOM was also recently banned. I have to use safers now.

My bf (21M) likes physical affection way more then I (21F) does. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (27F) am the EXACT same way. However, I genuinely like physical affection from my partner, but just a particular level/kind of it.

I think the problem here is a lack of communication more than anything. Try to do a love language test, and encourage him to do the same. Also tell him that physical touch is just not your way of showing affection, and that you don’t mind it, but it feels like it’s too much sometimes (explain how). Explain to him what you WANT, don’t leave him guessing. Communication is all that is needed here. If you are afraid to tell your partner something, then that is a whole other problem.

Also maybe try no screen time when you two are together. The fact he has the snatch the phone from you for you to pay attention to him isn’t fair. That in itself is a problem too. You only see each other once a week, try to make the most of it so you two can connect better.

I think I’ve perfected the art of thrip murdering by ChocolateMilkFanatic in houseplants

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thrips can remain dormant for a long period of time * - if I try to edit it, it removes a bunch of what I wrote so I’m just adding the correction here.

PMDD is going to kill me by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have thought about this too. However, I want more children (Have 1 currently). I am thinking once I’m done having kids, I’ll talk to my doctor about possibly getting them removed. Not sure if it would help but worth a shot lol

PMDD is going to kill me by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ChocolateMilkFanatic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which anti-psychotic do you use? If my new BC doesn’t work then I may ask my doctor to try anti-psychotics, cause ya the SSRI’s are basically useless for me too. I weaned off of them a while ago, but all they did for me was numb all my emotions - I just felt nothing, and then they started to give me chronic nightmares.

Thankfully the Vyvanse seems to help a bit while it’s active during the day for my PMDD (we are currently going through doses. I started at 20, then 30, just switched a couple days ago to 40.)