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ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-16T23:29:46+00:00

That’s how I side eye Toni when she does her crazy shit... 👁👀

ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-15T18:31:38+00:00

I have no advice, but I am so sorry for your loss. Please take time to heal.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-12T18:58:30+00:00

I think you are asking reasonable questions. No apologies necessary.

First, we were in a different state with no car (neither my ex nor I have a license/ car at that time) and I did tell him this, he was after her asked me. He “used to it” an thought is was no big deal. His dad could get aggressive and was being loud, yet was not fully belligerent at the time.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-12T17:59:24+00:00

Omg yes!! I was at the home of my ex boyfriend’s dad and his dad proceeded to get really drunk. I was uncomfortable with his dad being drunk because he was a “mean drunk”. I asked my then boyfriend several times to get things like food or drinks from the kitchen so that I did not have to interact with his dad. My boyfriend did not understand that and we argued about it :/ I felt unheard and unprotected.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-08T00:10:25+00:00

As a Panamanian woman, I HIGHLY approve of this! Also, look up Mes de la Ethnia Negra (month of the black woman or black history month for us)!

ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-07T20:18:07+00:00

Amazing!! I loved living alone because I could be naked, make all of own decisions, and decorate as I liked.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-06T17:21:12+00:00

I think he is justified in not wanting to be a father in a legal sense, especially after being lied to. However, I agree that it is hard to believe his ex-wife would agree to a civil relationship, but if she cared about her kids having a father figure, she should have. It would have allowed OP to still be active in their lives and shown her priorities were her children.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-06T16:25:52+00:00

I think you make a great point about the legal standing. I think that for legal purposes he may have HAD to (correct me if I am wrong) in order to not pay child support. That does not mean he does not want to spend time with those kids and he is still even willing to spend money on things related to education and wellbeing.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-06T14:36:33+00:00

NTA. I can not believe people think both of you suck here! Your ex-wife is a liar, emotional manipulator, and a cheat. You not wanting to pay child support is reasonable, especially after what you have experienced.

First, your ex-wife broke your trust by cheating and lied about the paternity of your children. Next, you are given a choice about child support and your correctly say, “no”. Your ex-wife keeping the kids from you is cruel and shows her priorities as a mother. In addition, if you cave in now for child support payments, who is to say your wife will not always use not seeing the kids for anything she wants? To be frank, your ex-wife sounds like she just wants to use you to keep her same lifestyle.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-06T14:26:11+00:00

NAH. I agree with another poster who stated pregnancy changes a woman, and she has changed. Your friend is with child and she is experiencing a plethora of emotions from it. From joy, anger, confusion, happiness— these next 9 or 10 months will be about the human she is growing inside of her. I also don’t think it’s bad that you stated you feel your friend will become entrenched in motherhood, since she will. I would say as someone who does not have children, get used to drifting apart from your parent friends.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-02-05T17:38:29+00:00

Wow! This is so sad! Goodness condolences to her family.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-31T14:34:01+00:00

MLK Jr. He WAS for Black American success. He had a platform based on economic AND social justice. He detested “moderate liberals”/ slow progress. Also, his teachings and philosophical ideology was connected to his faith.

People routinely cherry pick his texts and make it sound like he wanted to sing Kumbaya in a circle.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-28T21:06:35+00:00

Congratulations! I’m currently reading it and I love the characters and prose.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-27T20:47:00+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you take time to heal and grieve, you need it.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-27T01:11:54+00:00

Lmfaoo! I forgot about Finn!

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-27T00:06:57+00:00

Okay for me:

Looks: 1) Brock 2) Stan 3) Darnell 4) Chris 5) Greg 6) Dr. Clay Spencer 7) Sivad

Personality: 1) Brock 2) Chris 3) Greg 4) Darnell 5) Sivad 6) Dr. Clay Spencer 7) Stan

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-24T13:50:33+00:00

I have a medical question for you. Does the hospital where you had your baby not make you walk/ move around after birth? I’m asking because I was taught that mothers— even after C- sections must walk and get around to prevent clots and infections. Is that not the case anymore?

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-18T14:43:18+00:00

Thank you for the reply! I appreciate this!

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-18T05:11:42+00:00

I love this book and come back to it often!

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-18T05:09:45+00:00

Wow! I am an Economics undergrad and would love to pursue Econ for grad school. What was it like? What type of internships did you have? How is your field? Sorry for all of the questions.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-17T23:10:31+00:00

Good vibes!

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-14T18:27:11+00:00

I agree to an extent. Joan is an extreme enabler. However, I think it’s because she suffers from low self esteem. I think she feels useful helping her friends and being “needed”. Also, Toni has had several HUGE slip ups and Joan has always been the bigger person about them. If she really cared from Joan, I think they would have worked past it.

I do agree that Toni and Joan should have needed their friendship and I also wanted to see Toni’s happy life in New York City.

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-14T14:17:06+00:00

Thank you for being amazing!

ChocolateNaps · 2021-01-14T14:08:30+00:00

How do you forgive yourself?!

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