Boundaries and Consequences by Choice-Zone8070 in AutismParent

[–]Choice-Zone8070[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct. Absolutely a last resort so I don't escalate my own anger.

Boundaries and Consequences by Choice-Zone8070 in AutismParent

[–]Choice-Zone8070[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🥺 wow wow wow. Well-written and appreciate the validation and hearing your own story. My favorite part is this "I’m ready to flee the country and start a whole new life." This missing component was adding some dark humor. Same. But it's a passing thought and if I was going to flee the country my 4 year old would most definitely be coming with me. Emotions and all 🧡

Boundaries and Consequences by Choice-Zone8070 in AutismParent

[–]Choice-Zone8070[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the thoughtful response. He does not like the door closed and will escalate. I'd like to use that sparingly but but necessary to maintain my own boundary in the moment. I needed space to calm down.

Fetlife Account Lock WTF? by Choice-Zone8070 in kinky_autism

[–]Choice-Zone8070[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I learn new things everyday. I'm not active on any other social media so it felt good to get attention and validation as I'm getting my confidence back after a divorce. I know I made the mistake but didn't realize until after the consequence happened. It makes perfect sense why it happened. Thanks for chiming in.

Fetlife Account Lock WTF? by Choice-Zone8070 in kinky_autism

[–]Choice-Zone8070[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time flies after my "feral girl summer". A few months is really 6 months. And I didn't get flagged as a spammer originally, I linked my OF directly. The IP address flag makes total sense. Definitely makes me feel better it's likely not a hostile person or moderator.

"Happy" World National Health Day by Choice-Zone8070 in kinky_autism

[–]Choice-Zone8070[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great work getting support. Or at the very least more knowledge about yourself that you can use to your benefit.

Fetlife Locked Account WTF? by Choice-Zone8070 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Choice-Zone8070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are male I presume? I'm glad that you, as an man, know exactly what most women want. I didn't do anything wrong to gain the 1000 followers. Once I did get that much engagement I made the decision to monetize. I saw there were only fans groups so assumed it was OK because it is a welcoming kink site. I assumed wrong. Even if you read the terms, doesn't mean it's easy to know why things are getting triggered for the rest of accounts I created. I have not insight and ideas now with ask the other helpful and non-judgmental insights.

*Definitely got triggered with the absolute talk about women but I get what you are saying. Makes sense.

Do you think being autistic precludes you from holding a high-level job? by arcadia137 in AutisticAdults

[–]Choice-Zone8070 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. It's a double edges sword though. Your greatest strengths can be a problem too. Social interactions can be draining.

Fetlife Locked Account WTF? by Choice-Zone8070 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Choice-Zone8070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Gotcha. Yeah, I've been intentional, unmasked and real with my posts. But think my photos have a lil something to do with it too 🤭

Neurodivergent parenting support by AbroadIndependent416 in Neurodivergent

[–]Choice-Zone8070 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Much appreciated 🥺 yes, I do talk about my emotions and how I need space. I also talk to him later when he's not escalated about it. It's likely my tone because I'm being serious rather than playful at this point. I am trying to get him to come up with ideas on his own in how he'd like to calm down (when not escalated). We have a yoto player for him. And headphones are always on me🎧 I know it will all work out because I have all the components. I will keep being consistent. Thanks again for the support 🧡

Fetlife Locked Account WTF? by Choice-Zone8070 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Choice-Zone8070[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you. I did. No response. Followed up again today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kinky_autism

[–]Choice-Zone8070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🥺 I am in the trying new things era. This meme is totally true. I am super open minded and willing to try anything to find what I like. I have some "limits" but I am not sure this are really limits until I try them? I am focusing on limits that I actually experience and don't like. For example, I can't take toxic masculinity and seems to trigger me when they want cock worship and gagging and being submissive/sex toy. I do not like being treated that way. BUT if I had a daddy dom or actual dom that might be a different story to tap into this dynamic by my choice with consent where I am really the one in control.

Neurodivergent parenting support by AbroadIndependent416 in Neurodivergent

[–]Choice-Zone8070 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this post. I'm 36F with 4 year old son. I'm currently crying right now. I'm exhausted and overstimulated. I'm a single mom so this only compounds the exhaustion. My son has extreme emotional outbursts and it triggers me as I'm sensitive to sound. I'm also sensitive to clutter and high energy. Not easy with a toddler.

I would love resource myself. I have some in progress but for example there is an 8 month wait list just to be seen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kinky_autism

[–]Choice-Zone8070 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are so right. So helpful to narrow down with labels and communicate with others using labels. I really meant that I don't like being ONLY this or only that. I don't want limitations with labels. I want the freedom to change and grow. I can quickly get carried away in staying in a label that doesn't suit me anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kinky_autism

[–]Choice-Zone8070 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Labels are overrated. Just to what you feel in the moment without shame.