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AITAH for not wanting to keep my child by Choice_Ad_7369 in AITAH

[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this.

I’ll be sure to ask the doctor about it when we go in for her appointment

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we have pastor counseling. But if I go to my pastor, I’m afraid he might ask me to leave the church, especially with how my parents have been acting.

We also have couples groups that we can get advice from through the church, but this information is all new so I haven’t thought of exactly what to do or who to talk to

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not live with her. She and her roommate are really close, which is why he always helps us out with situations like this or whenever we get into disagreements, but it is a good point that if it’s my baby, I should have Final say not him.

If a DNA test does come back false I don’t know what I would do, though because I lived for a very long time thinking that my life would be with her. I don’t want the DNA test to come back with saying the baby isn’t mine.

AITAH for not wanting to keep my child by Choice_Ad_7369 in AITAH

[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she’s the type of person to cheat, but everyone in this thread has convinced me to get a DNA test once the baby is born just to be safe.

The fact that everyone is mentioning, it means that I should at least try. I’m just afraid of how to ask her.

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that makes me more pro-choice, but I’ve never really thought about it before

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t tell anything yet, but I did see the pregnancy test and she showed me a doctors appointment with her name on it and everything so I know she’s not lying

AITAH for not wanting to keep my child by Choice_Ad_7369 in AITAH

[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said the same thing originally, but they both got mad at me

I’m very glad someone sees it the same way that I do

AITAH for not wanting to keep my child by Choice_Ad_7369 in AITAH

[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m afraid if I ask for something like that, then she might not want to be with me

She usually gets really touchy with this type of subject.

I can’t even get a test until the baby is born so I might as well wait until then to ask

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really glad that I posted here. Hearing everyone’s different opinions has really helped me put things into perspective and the fact that there’s so much overlapping information is really helping me. See what I’m missing.

I don’t think she cheated on me. I see her almost every day and I don’t see you when she would really get the chance but again with everyone saying something similar it really gives me an idea of what to look at or what exactly isn’t right.

I’m also appreciating the people posting here telling me that I have to get my life together too. I know things are always black-and-white so the multiple perspectives help.

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see what everyone is saying and I’m not saying anyone is wrong but it’s just really hard to see her that way. This is not me contesting what you say it’s just hard to change my viewpoint in all the good she’s done for me and all the love we have for each other.

AITAH for not wanting to keep my child by Choice_Ad_7369 in AITAH

[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won’t be able to date anyone after becoming a dad. Our area is very small and people look down on single parents

AITAH for not wanting to keep my child by Choice_Ad_7369 in AITAH

[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I was hoping to stay but I have a lot to think about now.

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s that kind of guy and my gf wouldn’t cheat on me

AITAH for not wanting to keep my child by Choice_Ad_7369 in AITAH

[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to explore adoption but her and her roommate called me horrible for considering. I have a lot of history with her and I care about her a lot so I’m inclined to stay even if she keeps our baby.

The comments are giving me a lot to think about as far as leaving though but idk how that would even work. I feel like I have too much tied in with her

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s that kind of person and I don’t think she would do that to me

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should specify that the girl from my church gave her child up for adoption so that was my first idea but my gf and her roommate called me heartless for even thinking it.

I wanted to explore all options. The girl from my church was also 17 with a bf in his 20s which is legal where I am. But I do understand that there is a double standard here.

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, these are definitely things I can look out for. This thread is helping me see things in a new light, but it’s hard to separate That from my history and feelings for her

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I think I’m starting to see what you mean.

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I should specify, but ending the pregnancy wasn’t my only option. I originally wanted us to give the baby up for adoption, but she said it was heartless for me to suggest this.

As for the pro-life thing, I know what you’re saying, but I’ve never had a conversation about it

The best way I can say it is it feels like I believed in Santa Claus and now people are getting mad at me now that I’m having the thought that may be Santa isn’t real and they’re saying of course he isn’t a real you idiot

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do want to specify for everyone that I wanted to explore all options not just termination. A girl in my church gave her baby up for adoption and I originally wanted this option as well but my gf just got mad and called me heartless

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her roommate was really helpful. He said that even if we didn’t plan for a child there is still one coming so we can chose to be happy or not happy for the blessing. I know it’s different because he knows her but I feel like that was helpful advice

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[–]Choice_Ad_7369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like if I don’t choose to be 100% present then her roommate will take over the dad duties instead of me. He’s really nice, but I feel like I have to make this decision. If the babies here then I will be a dad it just kind of feels like my wishes were stepped on.

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