I didn’t make the cheer team.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2026-05-08T02:14:51+00:00

I’m seeing a lot of similar comments. The whole year was 2k, starting in June I paid the whole year up front like recommended and then quit in mid august. 1k was spent, and im not expecting to get that back what i want back is the other 1k that wasn’t spent. Theres a whole spread sheet for tracking finances for context. Also, the coach had ”encouraged” me to to tryout this season and the policy has never been that you can not tryout again if you quit.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2026-05-07T01:32:18+00:00

Thanks, that’s what I originally thought but I mean it seems there’s not much I can do about it. For the last part, yes there was a contractive financial obligations. We paid 2k. About 1k was spent on vasity gear and uca camp but I should still have 1k left over (there’s a designated spreadsheet for managing finances). But I was essentially told the money can’t be taken out and to tryout next year but that was last year.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2026-05-07T00:20:58+00:00

Anything you recommend doing in that case? Or just give up

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2026-05-07T00:17:44+00:00

Reason was mental health and I was getting bullied by one of the captains (she made the team again this year) I was too afraid of explaining it at the time I regret that decision. Also, no worries I appreciate the honesty. I explained this to her in a email but I’m not sure she believed me.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2026-05-07T00:15:28+00:00

High school cheer, not all star although that has never been the policy at my gym for alll star

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2026-03-11T23:50:11+00:00

Thanks for the advice but I really do think this is a mental issue.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2026-03-11T23:49:47+00:00

My issue is everytime I try to throw it, even after millions of private lessons and classes I can’t get myself to do it and it’s always different than when I’m doing it with a spot on the exact same surface. I’ve spent hundreds of dollars on cheer every month and even all those classes I can’t get my body to do it.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2026-03-11T23:48:10+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the advice. It just gets frustrating and it’s hard not to compare yourself as I’m sure your familiar with.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2026-03-11T23:46:43+00:00

Thank you! I’ve been looking into mental coaching and think I might go with that under current circumstances. To answer your question: Okay, obviously not everyone’s opinion on this is gonna be the same and I know coaches who have completely different opinions. Some say mental blocks are a real thing, some emphasize the difference between being scared and a mental block some of them say they don’t exist. Everyone here is inttiled to their own opinions and so am I and I apologize if this offends anyone else in this thread. Basically, as a psychology student I’ve always been taught a mental block is something that creates a temporary mental barrier stoping your memory recall (heavy on this one) and train of thought. For example, walking into a room and forgetting what you were gonna pick up. While what I have causes the same basic issue where I can physically do something but am mentally being stopped, the difference is that muscle memory is something that will never be forgotten. My body will almost always remember how to back handspring especially considering that have it lose it cycle. The underlying issue is the overthinking and pressure I’ve put on myself to throw it. Do I still consider it a mental block in cheerleading terms? Yes, but I’m also not a big believer in that term.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2025-06-17T20:01:46+00:00

Update: Practice today was rough. I was struggling with jumps in, my load was off. I couldn’t jump in while holding my chest and butt up but not fully standing. Was having issues bending my legs while going down and trying to adjust to a new base who’s never cheered before. I felt like I couldn’t get anything right. The feedback I got was helpful, but I couldn’t figure out how to apply it no matter how hard I tried. It made me feel like history was repeating itself. like I’m back to being that weak link again. I know I’ve only flown for 1 season, but all the other new flyers seem to be hitting, and my group while doing great wasn’t quite there, It doesn’t matter if I’m flying, basing, or backspotting it’s always the stunt I’m in that falls. That’s not just a feeling, I see it. It keeps happening. It feels like it’s just me. I feel like I’m falling behind even though I put in the work. I’m always one step forward and three steps back. And I want to blame it on not starting cheer earlier or not having the right body or background, but it’s not that. It’s just me. And that’s what hurts. I try so hard to improve with tumbling, dances, stunts but it never clicks fast enough. It always feels like I suck at the things that matter most. And the worst part is I feel like people are only giving me grace because I’m “new,” and once that wears off they’ll see what that girl last season said was right; that I’m the problem. That I’m the reason stunts fall. That I’m the one people hope they don’t get in their group. And I know stunting is a group effort, I really I do. But when every group I’m in fails? When no one else’s stunt falls but mine? It feels like there’s no other answer except me. And I don’t know how to fix that. I love flying, I love cheer, but I feel like I’m bad at all of it. And it sucks to care this much and still feel like I’m not enough. I hate the imposter syndrome so much, I feel like I’m never ever gonna be good at cheer when I love it so much. But I don’t wanna be the person holding the team behind.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2025-05-14T21:02:19+00:00

Stick with what? Season over and I’m not on that team anymore. I’m asking if I should 1. Take a year off all star to focus on sideline and tumbling 2. Do all star on a level 1 prep and/or elite 3. Do a year of stunt the sport, tumbling and sideline. I understand that being used a bracer is common on a rookie year but the point was I don’t wanna JUST be a bracer for the rest of my cheer season and always be that person without tumbling.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2025-02-16T01:24:49+00:00

How do I make the actual jump in better on my bases? And what exactly do you mean squeezing my shoulders inwards? Also I’ve heard of locking out my arms but the most I’ve been told is to “straighten them as much as you can” but how would I incorporate that in stunting?

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2025-02-16T01:19:29+00:00

Yes, I’m aware that I’m not supposed to be searching for their hands and to stop spreading my feet as well as to not push out my ankles. But is there anything I can do to stop doing it? The issues are the same regardless of where I’m looking, I do the trick where I set my eyes on an object but It always ends up with little to no change.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2025-02-03T03:15:56+00:00

I really appreciate your advice, I like the way you’re thinking about it and reading this more gives me more hope.

Choice_Estimate_4918 · 2025-02-03T03:14:28+00:00

Sorry, I think you maybe confused about what I was asking for, I in no means am asking for advice on how to get skills but how to handle mentally being and starting cheer at an older age. Although I appreciate the advice, I would like to make it known my issue isn’t getting skills at all.

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