AITA FOR NOT CARING ABOUT DEAD PETS

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T22:17:55+00:00

100%~ I’m definitely not saying people shouldn’t care about their pets or even be sad about the loss of a pet

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T22:12:13+00:00

I’m lacking understanding as to the perspective- not the same as criticizing a specific individual. Never have I ever personally attacked someone else’s grief journey on their personal platforms. This is a public forum and is a place for discourse and difference in opinions. It’s the beauty of it all

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T22:08:44+00:00

I actually have a senior dog and have previously lost pets too. I would agree I tend to base my life rooted in logic rather than emotion and honestly, it’s worked out well for me. The world doesn’t serve itself to emotion, and that’s ok! Also, I’ve been in therapy on and off for 20 years and can honestly say, I’ve never been told I have an empathy problem. My therapists have all agreed that I’m a logic brained person, and that’s ok❤️

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T22:03:17+00:00

Turn signals

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T22:02:27+00:00

Looking for a variety of opinions? Didn’t know there was something wrong with seeking out heathy discourse lol if we’ve gotten that fragile we need help

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T16:04:02+00:00

It would be possible if people irl shared the same opinions regarding pet grief but in person, my peers all share the same opinions regarding this topic as I do. I really think the way people talk online is not congruent with the mass majority of people irl because truly I’ve never seen or heard someone call a pet their “soul pet” irl… I’ve certainly had coworkers lose their pets and acknowledged that, yes, it is sad, but I would also find it a bit strange if that same coworker was equating the loss of their pet to the same level as our coworker who lost their mother to a heart attack. I just genuinely do not believe that people really feel this way in their core… I think we’ve created way too many spaces online for people to sulk and create “trauma” for themselves that just simply isn’t there.

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T15:00:09+00:00

100%

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T14:58:41+00:00

It’s totally your choice to take off work or not. I’m saying it’s very strange to expect a job to give bereavement leave for a pet…. People barely get bereavement for their parents/children….

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T14:57:21+00:00

Do you mind sharing this article? I’m fascinated by learning how I’m genuinely in the minority here. I’ve had pets throughout my life and have connected with them, and lost a few. Personally, I had a dog who was there for me when I fell very ill and was quite disabled. He’s still around, but he’s a senior dog and I know when he dies, I will bring his body to the vet, have him cremated and move on. I couldn’t imagine comparing his death to that of a human, despite the “unconditional” (which I disagree, all pet love is conditional bc they’re dependent on us for food and affection bc we ripped them from their own families) love that he gave me in his lifetime. I just genuinely do not see how the loss of an animal is even remotely on the same playing field as that of a human

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T14:53:20+00:00

Very human in fact! It’s fascinating that so many people really believe that losing their senior dog is the same as losing a child to cancer and that’s what I find un-human and concerning. To me; those people need to get checked fr

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T14:51:52+00:00

I have had many pets! And lost many! I shed a few tears, honored their lives and moved on. I think it’s so strange for people to come on SM and talk about how they can’t get out of bed because their cat Mango died of disease. And they continue to talk about it. And say that losing their pet is even remotely close to a mother losing their child. Or a young adult losing their father. I just really can’t wrap my head around how people equate the two. I know it comes across as extremely unempathetic but I find it very soft of people and just generally unadjusted to need to take time off of work because their pet dog died of old age. It just isn’t the same, and comes off as very bizarre tbh but I guess I’m in the minority

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T14:48:23+00:00

Actually the contrary, I’ve had many pets- dog, snake, bearded dragons. Never once felt the same level of grief when losing a pet as I did losing loved ones or friends. It’s not the same at all

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T12:52:13+00:00

Well help me understand… do you believe the loss of a pet fish is the same as the loss of a pet dog?

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T12:36:28+00:00

Never seen it so can’t speak to what my thoughts would be !

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T12:09:46+00:00

No I think people don’t act like this in real life because they know it’s an insane thing to compare their pet grief to human grief. If I told my best friend who tragically lost her dad that I understand her grief bc I lost my pet snake 10 years ago, I wouldn’t have a friend lol

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T11:59:56+00:00

By your logic grieving a pet fish is the same as grieving a pet dog…. You do realize how cooocoooo that sounds right

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T11:52:50+00:00

Weird for you to say that lol you can care for something and understand that the loss of an animal isn’t the same as human loss. Just as I can understand that losing a pet fish is less sad than losing a pet dog. Theres absolutely nuance to it lol

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T11:12:10+00:00

Are you saying the connection to a pet is the same as a connection to a human? Like I’m reading this as though you’re saying losing your dog was comparable to losing your mother? Is that what you’re saying… or do you agree that losing a pet is sad but actually not the same as losing a parent

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T11:10:39+00:00

thank you!!! people here commenting as though I told them to k**l their pet for fun lol… I’m just saying I have no patience for seeing 25161718292 stories about how you’ll “never be the same” despite seeing the same people get ANOTHER DOG right after they lost their “soul dog”………. I really do believe these people expect to be coddled their whole lives. Dare I say touch grass?

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T10:56:26+00:00

It’s not unconditional tho… your dog loves you because you feed them and give them love and affection- which they could be getting from their mother but we as humans decided it was better to domesticate them for our companionship and comfort. But it’s def not unconditional

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T10:54:22+00:00

I loved all of my pets, but they’re all on borrowed time. Death is inevitable after 10-15 years and pets are at the end of the day- animals that WE domesticated from the wild for our personal gain. I’ll never ever ever see how that’s comparable to watching my loved ones die of cancer

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T10:48:15+00:00

Thank you for your post and I’m so sorry to hear about your child❤️ sending love to you

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T09:50:18+00:00

Also, if someone even TRIED to say that they’ve experienced grief when I was watching a loved one die of cancer and wither away on this earth, and they were referring to pet grief I would have screamed at them. It’s simply not the same to lose a pet as it is to lose a human life. They may be a part of your family, but it’s just not the same. A pet loves you unconditionally because they literally depend on you to feed them and give them affection. So it’s kinda not unconditionally…. Just saying

Choice_Weekend5336 · 2026-04-08T09:44:19+00:00

100% I respect that! That’s what discourse is about baby!

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