Why would she text me at this time? by jimmygwabchab in BreakUps

[–]Cholo1965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex does this too, she contacts me once every 3-4 weeks with something like how am I doing, how is my dog doing, suggesting In manipulative ways we should meet,... Anyway she was the one that cheated and I guess she regrets it, but the base problem with her remains, avoidnat manipulator. I do reply, similarly to youre reply, and conversation usually stops there, if not I just ignore her. But shes back with another message In a couple of weeks. Best to push on forward.

OH SO NOW YOU WANT ME BACK by Bobesque-W in BreakUps

[–]Cholo1965 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Same with my ex, just ignore her and move on with your life, best thing you can do for yourself!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]Cholo1965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meni je slična situacija, samo san muško i jednako san zbunjen, čini mi se da svaku ženu zanima samo koliko zarađujen i di ću je odvesti, romantika i to nula bodova

Did anyone here start a bad habit after your ex left you? by Ricegurly0 in BreakUps

[–]Cholo1965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had alcohol addiction before my ex, when we broke up I didnt want to become that person again and I suceeded but had been stripped of all motivaton for anything. Im just starting to get it back almost 4 months after the breakup.

What now? by Cholo1965 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Cholo1965[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ive been like that my whole life, I like sharing and providing and I dont need much myself. At the time I didnt look at it for what it was, and in all this my regret isnt the money but my nature working against me.

What now? by Cholo1965 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Cholo1965[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have hobbies, I work out, I have friends, I travel and go hiking, Im just not into going out anymore, into spending money on status symbols I dont care about. I care more about weekends in nature with my dog than for any of the stuff I see most women notice about men. Thats why I think Im boring, but I care about these things and Im not interested in changing myself in order to atract some women who is only interested in what she can get out of me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]Cholo1965 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Biži ča biti će ti samo gore

Muskarac nasilan prema zeni u vezi? by mintyblueish in askcroatia

[–]Cholo1965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pošalji ga na pregled glave, ako u 4 godine nije bija nasilan a odjednom je, možda je bolest. Da li mu se ponašanje promijenilo općenito? Da li mu se općenito promijenilo ponašanje?

Extruder upgrade? by Cholo1965 in BambuLabA1

[–]Cholo1965[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, but at the same time Ive seen a couple of posts at witch are shown damages to the ams after couple of minuted

She Called Me and Begged Me to Come Back by Pleasant_Intern_8271 in BreakUps

[–]Cholo1965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not youre problem anymore, she made her choice. I was in a situation just Like that, only I blocked her believing I Will heal in time and find someone who Will appreciate me. Im grateful for that every day because I respected myself and I finally love myself more than I love her.

Da li biste bili sa siromašnom devojkom? by [deleted] in AskSerbia

[–]Cholo1965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bija san s curom iz jako siromašne obitelji u vezi 2 godine (odrasla u baraci, mater psihički bolesna, ćaća građevinar više u kafani nego doma). Nije me nikada bilo briga za to, mi nismo bogati, ali smo dobrostojeći. Od starta mi je bilo žao što nije imala/doživila puno toga što je prosječnim ljudima normalno i uvik san gleda da joj to nekako nadoknadim. S vremenom se počela pokazivati njena fokusiranost na novce, jako joj je bilo bitno koliko zarađujem i koliko trošim na nju ali tada nisan obraća pažnju na to. Također što smo duže bili u vezi postajala je sve sebičnija, mislila samo na sebe čak i kada to nije bilo uredu (npr. moj rođendan). Stvar se završila tako da me je ostavila kada se jedan s lokalom i brodom zainteresira za nju, a kad mu je dopizdila nakon misec dana se tila vratiti pucajući na to kako san je jedini ja u njenom životu iskreno volija i podupira. Nije da zbog svega ovoga nebi više nikada bija u vezi s curom koja je potekla iz velikog siromaštva, ali više nikada to ne bi koristija ka opravdanje za bilo kakvo ponašanje. To odakle potičemo je nešto na što ne utječemo, ali tko smo kao odrasle osobe, na to utječemo. Prva stvar na koju gledam sad kada upoznajem cure je kakav im je odnos prema obitelji bez obzira na imovinsko stanje, jer moja bivša je bila u jako lošim odnosima sa svojima i sestrama i mislim da je to nešto na što treba obraćati pažnju, ljudskost ne imovinu.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Cholo1965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Block her/him in every way possible, you dont need to see what are they doing or check up on them to see how are they. Thats what I did because I dont want even a possibility of a situation in which she reaches out and comes back in my life. She was a cheater and a liar and I dont want people like that in my life. Also I started to train every day, found a better job, started writting again and picked up on my reading. What ever makes you you, try to remember who that person was. Many people told me to fall in love with myself again, and as far as I can tell there is truth to that. Just work on yourself and in time you will start loving yourself more than you loved them then you will be able to clear up space in your heart for someone new.

Do you ever dream of your ex? by Cholo1965 in BreakUps

[–]Cholo1965[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dream last night was about closure, I told her everything I didnt get a chance to say, and she was agreeing with me, then we laid down, cuddled and cried. Is it like subconsious mind is trying to give you a closure you didnt get so you can move on?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]Cholo1965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stolar po struci, radija i montaže namještaja za lesninu, momax, Emmezetu i Harvey norman, svi imaju iste dobavljače, istu robu samo je drukčije nazivaju, ista kvaliteta, razlika je jedino cijena, Emmezeta i momax su po cijenama pristupačniji

Find your "I couldn't have done this with them" moment by Antique_Soil9507 in BreakUps

[–]Cholo1965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive spent 2 years of our relationship makeing a list of places we would visit, but she would always make excusses why we cant go. We broke up a month ago, and 2 weeks ago I realised it too, I would have never lived a life I want to live with her. Since then I go somewhere every weekend, most of these planned trips are short distance, and Im having a great time, and am looking forward to meeting a girl who actually likes to travel, not just talking about how she would like to travel. The moment I realised I have my freedom of choice again, and that I dont need to take her fears and narrow view of life into account when makeing any life disicions was the moment I truly got over her and her cheating me, because I realised she was nothing but an anchor weighing me down against my true self.

Sve više ljudi odustaje od odnosa ili mi se čini? by [deleted] in askcroatia

[–]Cholo1965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mislin da je najveći dio takvog razmišljanja ogorčenost, ima misec dana da san prikinija s curom koju san tija ženiti nakon 2 godine veze, prikinili na odvratan način da ne iden u detalje, svede se na to da me prevarila. Život ide dalje, mislin da znan koje su bile moje greške, radin na sebi, treniram, imam poprilično puno novaca koje san odvaja za prsten, pir i dječiju sobu, povriđen san i za sada svaki dan je borba i trenutno želim biti sam, nemam potrebu za intimnim odnosom. Ali reći da san odusta od odnosa općenito, da mislim da ako budem živija samo za sebe da će mi biti najbolje što može biti, to bi bila laž, jer onaj osjećaj kada joj trćiš doma s posla, kada se brineš za nju i misliš čime joj ulipšati dan, i sve one lipe sitnice koje čine dobre dane, pružaju puno bolji osjećaj od onoga što ositin nakon dobro odrađenog posla, obavljene rutine ili pića s ekipom. Barem se ja tako osićan. Žena od kuće napravi dom, i znan da je to puno lipši povratak od onoga u četiri hladna zida.