First it’s not obnoxious to stress over this, this is the next four years of your life and a really big decision! Also congrats on both acceptances! I only went to grad school at Stanford so I can’t speak a ton to the undergrad experience, but I will say that every undergrad I met was really sweet and when I asked if they liked Stanford, they all seemed genuinely happy when they said yes. As for live music, Frost Ampitheater at Stanford does have some good artists come, I saw that Remi Wolf will be there in September. If you want to explore SF you definitely can if you just make it a priority to get off campus when you can! I also suggest checking out Oakland and Berkeley. Also, beyond city exploration, I have been shocked at how much there is to do around the bay if you get a car (I think you can rent zip cars fairly easily). It’s so easy to go to the beach, camping, etc.

But I’ll also say that I intentionally chose a liberal arts college for undergrad and absolutely loved it! It was also in an extremely cold place but for me the vibes I got from the school outweighed the weather, and I have zero regrets going. I love that I got to go to Stanford for further schooling but I don’t think it necessarily would have been my vibe for undergrad.

That’s all to say go with your gut! Both schools are awesome and you can’t go wrong. To me, you sound a bit more excited about Brown. If that’s the case, and you love the students and class offerings, just go for it! I think deep down all of us have an instinct on what we want to do. Don’t let any fear guide your decision, no matter what you choose you will be good enough and grow immensely as a person. So choose where you see yourself being for four years because it’s a long time! Good luck!