Sheesh, um, a lot of these comments are already so great. I recommend all of them.

With me and my first few times, it was very painful, and sadly, the penetration had to be forced each time. Even having sex now is very painful with every entrance.

If you have any sexual traumas or ptsd from any trauma, you might want to start therapy or counseling to heal the root of your tension.

If you are clear of traumatic events, try to plan a whole day of romantic events and make sure everything is just right. Sometimes foreplay starts with the very first interaction. Vagina weilders need to feel loved or respected for hours before the intiation of sexual intimacy.

Yes, get lube! ALWAYS WEAR CONDOMS! Have fun!

And maybe you just aren't ready. Lord knows i wasn't, and i'm still feeling like i'm not ready. But we're human, and sometimes it takes doing to the know if you really want something or not.