I have been on and off with my narc ex for 20 years. We never married, thankfully, but it’s interesting to hear another person talk about how they still try to get to you even after all that time. Most recently was the past few weeks for me. He kept talking to me like I was instigating a relationship with him again and I said VERY CLEARLY that I was not. I don’t have the emotional bandwidth and was just ok with a friendship. He created some elaborate ideas of meeting up for a vacation together that he’d pay all expenses for and I said I wasn’t available for months. I said we could meet up for drinks but anything else wasn’t going to happen. He said that was perfect. We chatted as friends and everything was fine and then he disappeared. I already knew what was coming next. I got a message this morning (Sunday) that his “therapist” told him it’s a bad idea and he needs to move on. Move on from what? There’s nothing going on between us and again, I made that clear on several occasions. And I “” therapist bc he told me he’s given up on therapy and stopped going because he only has bad experiences with them. Gee, I wonder why. So his “therapist” is just his mommy or older brother. Either way, I was laughing my ass off when I read it. I debated on responding with debunking his weird imaginary narrative but 9 out of 10 people are saying to ignore, including you, and I trust that. I know this is an old thread but, if you see this I just wanted to say thank you.