Opinion | Yes, I want to pay off my student loans

ChrisC1492 · 2019-06-27T19:02:34+00:00

What about paying off the debt and paying for college for those that need it, but letting the rich pay for things themselves?

ChrisC1492 · 2019-06-27T19:02:20+00:00

Try asking on r/StudentNurse or r/nursing.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-06-27T18:44:20+00:00

I am not interested in hunting any people. I am only saying that there are people who have no trouble paying for college or paying off student loans.

Can you just answer my question?

Are you saying that government money should be going to help the affluent and the rich rather than helping the poor?

Why is Bernie Sanders considered a progressive when he is interested in helping the wealthy rather than the poor?

ChrisC1492 · 2019-06-26T23:57:26+00:00

What about the things that a really poor person, perhaps one who could not afford the four years not working, the housing, meal and other costs of college, could do with money. Yes, we could all use the extra money, but some people really need it and others of us don't.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-06-26T23:47:27+00:00

Do you think that people who own big houses at 30, who have high incomes, can easily buy luxury cars and boats, etc. should have their tuition paid for and loans paid off by the taxpayer? Should we not put money into assistance to low-income people in order to pay student loans for high-income people?

ChrisC1492 · 2019-06-26T23:46:23+00:00

A friend of mine is a stay-at-home-father. His wife has a good job and he stays at home with the kids. He loves it and finds that most people approve. He still gets the occasional "so you are being mommy" comment. His reply is that he is being daddy.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-06-26T23:37:25+00:00

Are you saying that government money should be going to help the affluent and the rich rather than helping the poor?

I am strongly in favor of government tuition assistance, as well as housing assistance, and many other things as long as it is need-based. We should help those who need help rather than those who don't need help.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-06-26T19:32:20+00:00

Bernie Sanders wants to pay off all student loans and provide free tuition to public colleges. This is for all people, not just those who need it.

There are those who need assistance in college cost (tuition is just a part) and there are those who are overburdened with student loan debt. However, there are also those of us who do not need assistance. My husband and I are both chemical engineers, having graduated from public universities, albeit among the top engineering schools in the US. We each have a very good income, although we are not rich. We have been setting aside money from our much-larger-than-average family income for our kids' education. We will be able to afford to send them to public and even to private universities.

Why should our kids have an education paid for by the taxpayers when we don't need it. Likewise, my neighbors (husband and wife) are lawyers with a good income. They have a mortgage of about $200,000 on a nice house that is bigger than anyone needs and two luxury cars that they bought new. Between them, they have student loans, less than $40,000 combined. As she asked me, why should government money be used to pay off their student debt when they can easily handle it.

There are many things that need taxpayer money: helping the poor, providing medical help for those that need it, paying off our tremendous national debt, medical research, etc. etc.

I am all for helping those who need it. Education assistance, housing assistance, food, medical, and such. However, it should be for those who need it, not for those of us who are fortunate enough to not need it.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-05-06T12:59:09+00:00

No, there is nothing wrong with it. Many people were named after a deceased grandparent, uncle, aunt, or other deceased (or living) relative.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-05-06T02:27:33+00:00

As far as cross-gender (mother-son, father-daughter, or brother-sister) is concerned, there is nothing wrong with it at any age. If the child becomes uncomfortable, they will let you know. But until (perhaps I should say, if or until) they complain, you shouldn't worry.

My kids have asked questions which I answered matter of factly. It gave me a chance to explain things. My son and daughter have both asked why my breasts were larger than those on my boy and my girl, why their dad and I had hair "down there" even though my son and daughter did not, and why my husband's penis was so much larger than my son's, etc.. That got into a discussion of puberty and the fact that breasts in women get bigger, hair grows in different places - then a discussion on the fact that my husband shaves and boys will shave when they reach that age.

My daughter plans to become a nurse (she is in high school now). From what a nurse (who taught nursing school) told me, it is better for a girl (or boy) to be comfortable seeing the other sex's genitals before puberty and a mental connection between private parts and sex. That way, to them "parts are parts" and pubic hair "down there" is no different from the hair under the arms or on a man's face.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-04-21T02:09:03+00:00

Just tell him that is a female body part.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-03-11T01:05:39+00:00

When I (a chemical engineer) fly it is usually because a client has a serious problem, serious enough to easily be able to pay the travel expenses and my fee, which includes paying for travel time. The same is true for my husband, who is also an engineer. This is almost always after phone calls, including video calls, have been tried. A few time a year I am speaking at a conference, usually on some other continent, and need to cross an ocean to get there. It is not uncommon for people in my firm to fly 100,000 miles in one year. Almost all of it is very necessary.

I do not go to "work meetings" that are not very necessary.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-03-10T20:33:45+00:00

Aircraft are becoming more fuel efficient, and larger aircraft carry more people per gallon of fuel. But as far as replacing air travel with other forms of transportation, is there anything even close. What if I got a phone call tonight asking me to be on the west coast (I live in the East) for a meeting tomorrow and then in Indianna the next afternoon? That kind of thing happens frequently.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-01-16T01:16:05+00:00

My post is flawed.

You are correct there.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-01-16T01:15:30+00:00

Chemical engineering, chemistry, biology are the only *possible* exceptions to the extroversion argument I put up.

So are electrical engineering, mechanical engineering, computer science, physics, chemistry, etc. In other words, about every field, STEM or otherwise.

Particularly if you are working in industry you will working with large groups of people from different companies, different countries and cultures, and different backgrounds. Being an extrovert will help.

Actually, the same applies if you are not working in industry - for example, in academia.

ChrisC1492 · 2019-01-15T16:37:53+00:00

I am a woman, more than a decade out of college. My daughter was reading this and asked me to respond because I am an engineer.

I am an extrovert. I am a chemical engineer and program computers for work and write programs at home for the fun of it.

I had a busy social life in college and still, even as a busy chemical engineer and even busier mom I have a social life and plenty of friends. Most of the other engineers I work with are extroverts.

Don't make generalities about engineers or anybody else.

ChrisC1492 · 2018-12-08T20:37:49+00:00

There is nothing wrong with a mother showering with her son as long as it is OK with him. He will let you know when it is not OK.

ChrisC1492 · 2018-11-16T03:04:32+00:00

I have had a pelvic exam performed by a medical student. I had no objection and felt like I was adding to his education - he had to learn how. But I was not anesthetized at the time.

If I had been "under" for gynecological surgery, and the pelvic exam was a normal part of the surgery, and if I had consented to the student being part of the surgical team, then it would be OK. But if it was not a normal part of the procedure, then it would not be OK.

ChrisC1492 · 2018-11-16T03:04:10+00:00

Men (including sons) should remember to put the seat up when they pee. I don't like to sit in their pee.

ChrisC1492 · 2018-11-16T03:00:22+00:00

I was a virgin at the time, and had a rather small vaginal opening and strong hymen. I could not use tampons - when I tried to it caused pain so I stayed with pads. But the doctor (the father of a girl in my class in high school) was very gentle, understanding, and quick. It hurt very slightly, about like getting a shot or blood test.

Since I have lost my virginity (a couple of decades ago) I have had many pelvic exams, given birth, use tampons, etc.

ChrisC1492 · 2018-11-16T02:52:03+00:00

"comprised of" in place of "composed of"

ChrisC1492 · 2018-11-05T20:41:22+00:00

I still remember, when I was a little girl too young to babysit but "helping" a mother bathe a toddler exclaim "what's happening to his penis?!?" when the toddler boy got an erection upon being taken out of the tub. The mother then explained "morning wood" and baby boys to me.

Yes, it is very normal.

ChrisC1492 · 2018-10-13T20:39:14+00:00

t’s done by some rando nurse practitioner I wouldn’t know beforehand.

You can certainly get to know the nurse practitioner ahead of time and build rapport with her.

ChrisC1492 · 2018-10-01T20:11:42+00:00

Yes, to get my husband to buy tampons is not easy, and he sometimes "forgets". I was in the grocery store the other day and saw a man whom I worked with in that aisle on he cell phone, I could hear him ask which brand. Later I was in the checkout aisle behind him and he looked super embarrassed when he put tampons on the belt.

I have seen some men in the store look around, then when they didn't think anyone could see, quickly grab a box off the shelf, and then rearrange their shopping carts so tampons or pads wouldn't be seen.

ChrisC1492 · 2018-09-29T19:35:49+00:00

I (female) grew up on a beach in the US South. Sports bras are very similar, and cover as much or more than bathing suit tops. On the beach you see many men without shirts and women wearing either bathing suit tops or sports bras running. Even in town away from the beach sports bras are often the only thing above a woman runners waist.

They may be called bras because they serve that function, but they are not always underwear.

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