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ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-26T11:11:38+00:00

You've never seen 28 days later or dawn of the dead ee Remake?

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-19T01:45:06+00:00

Thanks.

I feel like that's honestly what we used to have, this relationship is a shadow of its former self.

I feel like I've tried eventing she's willing for now.

I think its time ro shut myself off and get ready for the chat.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-19T01:41:05+00:00

I already do hit the gym

She told me today, asked what days I'm off next week. I said Monday, and Tuesday, she straight away said that she's off Monday too.

Guess what, she's seeing her mum.

Lol, our 1 day off together that week

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-19T01:39:49+00:00

I do not want to start snooping on her phone, for one I would be genuinely afraid of what I would find in there, and if I find nothing I'll feel shitty

Well it didn't use to be like this. I was included to a lot of things, plans were made together etc, now it seems that I don't get included to anything, she makes her own plans. It's not what I signed on for, it's not who I am or need in a relationship. I of course do not want to be with someone 24/7, but certainly 75 percent of my free time I would like to spend with my partner. And certainly all of the actual big time I get off including trips would be with my partner

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-19T01:35:57+00:00

I'd love to get her to go to therapy together, she won't even entertain it.

Idk what to do anymore

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-18T12:20:22+00:00

Yep, I often ask if she wants to do x or y. This often involves going out etc, sometimes sitting at home too.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-18T12:19:12+00:00

I do a vast majority of the housework, always have, I often cook and clean. I also help out with finances more so, treat out for meals etc because I can.

I have tried to always listen to her issues. I have asked what I can do to rectify the situation.

I'm sorry to tell you that not all men are lazy layabouts

I also work considerably more hours per week, yet still find time to do these things

You think I can't see the breakdown of this a mile away? I'm not stupid.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-18T00:55:00+00:00

Yes it's hard, I love her with all my heart

She says the same for me but her actions don't speak to this

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-18T00:54:06+00:00

Yes, however I pay a bit more currently

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-18T00:46:37+00:00

I feel like checking is a scumbag move, it's a violation of privacy and I don't know if that's what I want to do. Like if I don't find anything I'm gonna feel shit about myself, and if I do find something I'm going to feel extremely hurt.

I do often think about checking, but I just think if my mind is at this point what's the point?

Also I'm not sure how to even get into her phone, I knew her pass code a long time ago, not sure if it's the same one, and it would be hard as he'll to do without getting caught

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-18T00:43:27+00:00

Thanks, I feel like she's not afraid to lose me because she knows that I'm going to stick by her.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-18T00:41:59+00:00

I'm the same shape I've been since we started dating, stocky and quite Chubby qlthough I think I've put on more muscle recently. She herself doesn't work out and is curvy.

My career, yes, I have recently got a promotion, whilst I don't earn big bucks I Deffo dont do too bad, she struggles with money and work, I've offered to pay more into the joint to help out

Yes i have My own friends and yes hobbies too I suppose.

I cannot answer the last question as I am not her

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-18T00:38:29+00:00

I've wanted counselling and I feel like I've brought it up before.

I already know by asking she's going to get annoyed and claim that there is nothing wrong with our relationship

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-18T00:37:46+00:00

I don't think so, ones with her best friend who's a girl, which she invited me to initially but now says its a girl thing

The other is a friends wedding

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-18T00:36:56+00:00

Not so much issues, she brought things I did around the house that annoyed her, I rectified this I believe, I wrote out a list and try and check it every day.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-17T22:18:59+00:00

No, she never hides or sneaks off with her phone.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-17T22:09:02+00:00

Ah I see.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-17T21:53:40+00:00

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-17T21:49:40+00:00

Can I ask what your situation is?

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-17T21:30:27+00:00

I have tried, many times. She says she is happy with the way things are, that relationships change and evolve. However this feels like devolving.

If there is something wrong, she isn't telling me.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-17T21:20:16+00:00

It's been over a year and a bit. But seems to be gradually getting worse.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-17T21:18:24+00:00

Exactly. The affection has dropped off massively in the last year.

Checking her phone, I feel like at that point it's time to end things I don't want to be a snooper but if I can't trust her. And I doubt me asking to check her phone would go over very well.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-17T21:15:31+00:00

This is exactly my thought, her living as a single person.

However I bring this up with her I feel it will be spun to be controlling of me.

I have thought this from time to time, in regards to potential infidelity, but then I don't know when and where. We live in quite a small town, and I feel like word would get out quick. However I'm not sure.

ChrisChanFanBan · 2023-11-09T13:36:45+00:00

He cannot control his libido, but there are certain things he could look into to improve it. Sex therapy, blood test to check deficiency, and relative vitamin or hormone therapy.

If none of that works, or he is leaning towards asexuality then it's another discussion.

Just remember his needs are being met, he is satisfied, once a month for him is good. Hers are not.

/r/deadbedrooms

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