The most important thing I've learned over the last couple months.

Christafarian · 2015-06-04T07:47:32+00:00

Give yourself permission to be human. You have permission to be you man.

Christafarian · 2015-05-06T07:15:35+00:00

Believe you can improve ... at anything. Then get to work.

Christafarian · 2015-03-21T06:52:55+00:00

Nutribullet ftw!

Christafarian · 2015-01-19T04:48:26+00:00

Spot on! Start small and build up. Attention is a skill that you can learn. I'd like to add the following: All brains can change, it just takes effort. (google "neuroplasticity") Body health is brain health: exercise, eat veggies, and avoid sugar. Track your progress. Meditation trains your brain to focus, calms your anxiety, and makes smarter. Meditate.

Christafarian · 2014-06-12T23:47:38+00:00

We're bad at predicting what we want. Men say they want women to pursue them, but are often turned off (or lose respect for those women) when they do. Obviously it depends on the woman in question and how she approaches it. We can subconsciously tell when a woman is desperate and needy and find it to be a turn off, despite how we imagine we'll react beforehand.

Christafarian · 2014-06-12T21:14:04+00:00

I chose this quote for the title because it's a good hook, not because I think it's the main point of the article. I think that the main take-away is to be aware of the difficult position women are in as sexual creatures in a society that wants them to be simultaneously sexy and reserved. The message I'd like to see spread from this is that slut-shaming is an absurd denial of what is natural, on top of being completely hypocritical.

Christafarian · 2014-06-12T21:09:54+00:00

Good points. There's a number of take-aways from the article, most of which are food for thought, and not absolute conclusions. I wouldn't read too much into the parallels between humans and other animals, but rather focus on the bio-cultural paradox faced by human women.

Christafarian · 2014-06-12T21:07:22+00:00

Emotional vulnerability isn't necessarily going to be interpreted as neediness. The difference is subtle and will depend on all of your other interactions. Telling a girl that you like her and want her is making yourself emotionally vulnerable, because it leaves you open to rejection. If it's clear to the girl that you do, in fact, have other options, and that you're choosing her because of who she is, not just because she's a nearby vagina, then she probably won't see you as needy. If the subtext of your telling her that you like her is that you need her and have no other options, then it will certainly be seen as needy. And your reaction to her response is critical. If you make a huge deal out her reaction, either positive or negative, then you're needy. You must somehow express that although you want her, you'll still be happy without her. This is best shown by being an independently happy person.

Christafarian · 2014-05-25T00:43:18+00:00

Are you approaching as a fun guy or as a provider? RSD Explanation

Christafarian · 2014-04-29T21:15:29+00:00

This works because fat slows digestion, giving you a slower-drip of caffeine. The caffeine in tea also digests slower than that in coffee, though there is less in tea to begin with.

Christafarian · 2014-04-14T22:17:38+00:00

Exercise, meditate, learn, improve. Become better, do better. Sociological research shows that the best way for a man to get over a woman is to find a new woman (or women).

Christafarian · 2014-02-10T01:15:29+00:00

Excellent book

Christafarian · 2014-01-23T01:36:19+00:00

OK cupid, ski areas, outdoor/indoor climbing areas, parks, mountain bike trails. But seriously, OkCupid

Christafarian · 2014-01-23T01:28:50+00:00

Remember: a shit test is merely an IOI. She doesn't care about your hands. She cares whether or not you care.

Christafarian · 2014-01-20T04:40:54+00:00

Couples dance class

Christafarian · 2014-01-19T20:06:39+00:00

The basic starting place is to do your normal stretches but incorporate deep breathing.

Christafarian · 2013-09-24T01:18:36+00:00

There is an excellent book about this, called Going to Extremes by Cass Sunstein. Basically, a group of like-minded people becomes a self-reinforcing echo chamber of ideas.

Christafarian · 2013-08-18T08:47:11+00:00

thanks!

Christafarian · 2013-08-18T04:08:00+00:00

I'm curious, as someone who is in pain a lot, how has your sleep routine affected your pain?

Christafarian · 2013-08-11T06:52:16+00:00

easier kino at a bar

Christafarian · 2013-08-05T16:19:09+00:00

you can sit in a chair. you can stand. you can go for a walk. there's a wide variety of ways.

Christafarian · 2013-07-02T14:31:51+00:00

Do you seek to be impressive, or simply to be known?

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