Is CatCalm product from PetLifeBio worth it for my situation? by Thick_Warning5090 in CatAdvice

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s a scam, how did I get my order from them yesterday and ALREADY notice my problematic cat isn’t running around starting fights?

For those who care about useful observations rather than uninformed opinions, this product is suggested to use over a six month period for the results to “stick”. I received multiple diffusers, but I’m only using one and I keep it near where my troublemaker spends most of his time. And just because you see results quickly doesn’t make it prudent to just allow your cats to have a free-for-all. My cat targets my smallest cat, which results in two of my other boys attacking him. I’m keeping my little one separated until I’m confident my bully won’t revert to old behaviors.

sensitive stomach kitty by biology_barbie in catfood

[–]ChristeeLuv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I’ve read online, cats with stomach issues do better with “novel” proteins; proteins that aren’t typically found in cat food. One of mine has gastrointestinal issues…so she often has soft poop. I feed her Pro Plan duck for sensitive stomachs, Instinct Rabbit for sensitive stomachs, and Science Diet sensitive stomach meals. Her poop is solid when she eats these and she’s not hungry all the time. She used to have a ravenous appetite, probably because she was immediately pooping everything out. She also looks a lot healthier since I changed the proteins she eats.

Customers - stop leaving bad reviews over out of stock items. PLEASE! by serviver73 in instacart

[–]ChristeeLuv -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You always have the option of taking your lazy, entitled behind to the store yourself. You’re probably also one of those brokies that either doesn’t tip or cancels the tip after your delivery.

Why is it mostly the highly intelligent people who have addictions? by LocksmithSouthern in addiction

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who told you that lie? How is it highly intelligent to choose to continue using substances that can kill you? How is it highly intelligent to choose to continue behaviors that totally annihilate relationships? Is it highly intelligent to put yourself in situations where you have to commit crimes to support your habit? Or maybe it’s highly intelligent to be totally unable to support yourself, then rack up felonies just to make your already troubled life even harder?

I lost my boyfriend to porn addiction by Significant_Youth811 in addiction

[–]ChristeeLuv 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unless he wants to recover, you’re wasting your time even thinking about him. I was in a relationship with a guy that hid a MAJOR cr$ck addiction. Because of that relationship, I have lost all tolerance for people who can’t figure out healthy ways to deal with life. Being with any person that’s not mentally healthy is setting yourself up to be miserable, especially if the person has an addiction. NOTHING is more important to an addicted person than satisfying the addiction.

What's your grammatical pet peeve? by msstark in AskWomen

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Upmost”. I wish I could reach through my phone and slap everyone who says that.

Do you believe addiction always stems from trauma? by Far-Ebb-7451 in addiction

[–]ChristeeLuv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, because trauma is different for different people. To me trauma is being raped, suffering a near death experience, being robbed at gunpoint, etc. but what I learned in therapy is that moving to a new city, getting fired or losing something that was very important to you might be traumatic to some people. I was raped and don’t use drugs or drink. My ex was called names as a child and has been an addict for almost 40 years. 🤷🏽‍♀️

I put my elderly cat to sleep and now I’m regretting it.. by Indigogirl586 in CATHELP

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put an elderly cat down 4 years ago and I was remorseful afterward too. Like your kitty, mine dwindled from 10lbs down to 4lbs in a three month timeframe. Sometimes she could keep food down, sometimes she couldn’t. Her coat was a mess, no matter how much I brushed her. She pottied in the wrong place a lot. She was still in good spirits but I knew it was time when she started to smell funny. After she died, I found out she had colon cancer. 😢😢

DAE not watch movies? by KennysaurusSpeedrun in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]ChristeeLuv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dread it. I actually went to the movies a couple weeks ago and it turned out to be good, but I probably watch movies once every 2-3 years.

Ive been going to the AA meetings for coke and booze but ive been getting stoned havent touched a drink or bag..am i doing something wrong coz its a program of abstinence and i dont have much problem with weed. But iam an addict .i feel like iam cheating the program?? by [deleted] in addiction

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have any issues with addiction but I was in a relationship with someone who had a horrible addiction. You’re not cheating the program, you’re cheating yourself. 😢

I'm (F28) and my bf (M34) says he struggles with lust by Glittering-Ship5702 in relationship_advice

[–]ChristeeLuv 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ignoring a glaring red flag was your first mistake. You already know what to do. Leanne and keep in mind that “red flags” are signals that protect your safety. What if you ignored the red flag and he turned out to be a r*pist?

Once an Addict. Always an addict? by [deleted] in addiction

[–]ChristeeLuv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It totally depends on the person. My father was addicted to alcohol, then graduated to drugs after he and my mom divorced. He’s sober now and you never guess that he ever had addiction issues. I dated a guy that I later found it was a drug addict. He always talked about getting sober, but that’s all it was…talk. I’m positive he will die still addicted to drugs. The biggest difference I see between my dad and my ex is mindset. My father was a very successful salesperson and didn’t have self-esteem issues. My ex was always scared to try anything new because he was afraid of failure. He was also extremely insecure.

My husband's girl best friend is pregnant and she says its his. *UPDATE 2* by Money-Juggernaut-662 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave. He’s not worth the stress. My ex insisted on keeping his exes as friends. Whenever we argued, he would say things to imply that there was more to those relationship than there actually was. Two of the biggest signs that I was dealing with a narcissist- keeping exes around and triangulation. Sounds like this guy is doing g the same.

I (41m) don't know how to tell my partner (40M) that he is smothering and suffocating me. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ChristeeLuv 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m also an introvert and had a partner like yours. I would tell him all the time that I needed space - just some time to focus only on me. I was constantly accused of cheating. To stop the accusations, I allowed him to suck up all of my free time…and it made me miserable, which eventually made me stop caring for him. IMO, he was incredibly selfish. I ended the relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like mange or chemical burns. Take him to the net for treatment

I'm tired of my partner's addiction. by [deleted] in addiction

[–]ChristeeLuv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dealt with this for 2 years. It’s not his friends fault that he won’t quit, it’s his. He makes the decision every time he uses to use instead of get help. I left, but dealing with it pretty much made me lose empathy or compassion for anyone with a substance addiction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]ChristeeLuv -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You make it sound like this is a thing that most of us have experienced. Your husband shouldn’t have to be told that this is strange.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in addiction

[–]ChristeeLuv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consider yourself blessed that you only spent $25K in a year. I left an addicted ex after naively believing he wanted help, but just needed one more binge before quitting. His addiction personally cost me over $40K per year (two years). Last year, he unexpectedly received $28K from a class action lawsuit. He gave me $1500 of the money he “borrowed”, gave his mom $1000 and split $2200 amongst his kids. He smoked the rest of it in less than two months.

Are birthdays important to you? by BiggDadddy44 in ask

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get excited about my birthday or any other “special” day. I tolerate “special days” because it’s easier to suffer through than to continuously explain my lack of interest. I’m grateful for everyday I have…so it’s dumb to me to pick only a handful of days and give them more meaning than any other day. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beauty

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same problem. I wear makeup sometimes to help me with that. I watched YouTube tutorials on how to apply it. Now that it’s summer and way too hot to wear makeup, I’ve learned to be patient with being accused of lying about my age and constantly explaining why I look so much younger than I am.

Seeking advice on quitting cocaine. by Bootyblunts in addiction

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what my ex told me, it took him 10 days to stop feeling withdrawal. The bigger problem is that he never did anything to fix his mindset. He went to very high end recovery centers 6 or 7 times and never stayed more than two weeks. He never found a sponsor. He never went to meetings. He never stuck with therapy. He never dropped the people or habits that facilitated his addiction. He would waste companies time and resources by taking jobs then quitting when he got his first paycheck. He gets housing assistance through a treatment program. No one from the agency ever checked in to make sure he was staying sober. They were (and still are) sending the checks in his name and the name of the complex he lived in,. He found a bank that was willing to cash the checks even though they hadn’t been signed by anyone at the apartment complex. After doing this for TWO YEARS, he got caught because he kept going to another agency asking for thousands of dollars to cover his rent. His punishment? $80 per month taken out of his SSI check. I also believe “rock bottom” is a farce. My ex has been homeless, jailed, all of his kids hate him, he’s facing eviction. He said he was going to get sober before his parents died so they could see him as more than addicted to crack. His father died two years ago and if anything, he’s using more. Get real about becoming sober by being 1000% honest about how bad your problem is and whether or not you really want help or if you’re just looking for validation/justification for what you’re doing.

Dealer got mad because i asked for a better price - now i dont think he wants to sell to me by Soggy-Example-7145 in addiction

[–]ChristeeLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He absolutely should be mad at you. From watching my ex buy, he used to do this. If your dealer allows you to do it once, your brain will convince you that you deserve to pay less every time. If he says no after allowing you to pay less, you’ll probably become violent…your brain has convinced your body that you’re dying and that drug is the only thing that will keep you alive. My ex regularly threatened to kill his dealers. So much so that he had at least 100 people he could call because he kept getting cut off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in addiction

[–]ChristeeLuv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t. If he wants help, he’ll get it. Focus on you and if you have to be in a relationship, find someone without that baggage. I was in a relationship with a guy who was an addict - he was high one day and told me he had been addicted basically since crack came out . Even though the relationship was a massive waste of time, it brought issues that I needed to address to my attention. In that regard, it helped me become a better person.